How To Stop Loving Him, According To Astrology
Learning how to stop loving someone takes time and patience.
pexels Not over him yet? If you were born with a tender heart that can't stop loving a person no matter what they do to you, it could have something to do with your zodiac sign.
There are a lot of reasons for wanting to stop loving someone, but none of these reasons make it easy to actually let go and move on. When you love someone, you don’t usually think about what it will feel like if you eventually fall out of love.
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Some horoscope signs fall in love once and they can't fall back out of it. Loving someone takes a lot of courage because you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable around someone else, hoping that they won’t break your heart in the process.
Being in love is like diving headfirst into the water: you hope that you won’t get hurt and that the water is as deep as you expected it to be. I know that sounds cheesy, but it really means that when you fall in love with someone, you have to take the risk of having your heart broken.
Sometimes you won't have your feelings reciprocated by the other person, so you have to trust that you're making the right decision.
But once you get over that initial fear, and the other person expresses their love for you back, then you can let your love grow together. Of course, not all couples who fall in love stay in love, no matter how hard they try to keep their relationship happy and healthy.
Like I said before, there are a lot of reasons why couples might fall out of love. What hurts though, sometimes even more than a couple that mutually falls out of love, is being in a relationship where you still have feelings for the other person, but they don’t have feelings for you anymore.
Knowing that someone you used to love, who used to love you back, no longer wants to be with you is tough to deal with.
There are also situations where you might be the one who knows that this relationship is not healthy nor is it making you happy, so you have to be the one to stop loving the other person.
In my opinion, it’s a lot easier to end a relationship or even get over the fact that the other person doesn’t love you anymore than it is to stop loving someone yourself.
Once you have feelings for someone that are as deep as love and affection, it can be almost impossible to let them go. Letting someone go means letting go of all of the love you have for them, as well as all of the memories and time you’ve shared together.
It’s no wonder that people have such a hard time getting over their exes, especially if the breakup was messy or never really given the closure it deserved. Remember that learning how to stop loving him is a process that is more about you and what you want and less about him.
You need to learn how to make decisions that are going to make you happy rather than hoping that the things you do to get over him will eventually lead him back to you.
Think about what you want in life, whether that is to start a new relationship, to focus on your career, or something else, and use that as your driving force to motivate you to let go and move on.
Letting go of someone you love is often never easy, even if it was a toxic relationship or one that was practically over anyway, but that doesn’t mean that it's impossible. Whatever your zodiac sign's reason is for wanting to move on, here is how to stop loving him, according to astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, the best way to stop loving him is to start loving someone else – namely, yourself. You've given a lot to this relationship, and now that it's over, you're not entirely sure what to do. The reason you still love him is because that's what feels normal.
The love you have for him will fade over time, but if you want to stop loving him right now, you need to start taking care of yourself. Dive into that new project at work, start going to the gym and eating healthy, or just tell yourself that you deserve love every day and you'll start to feel it.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
When you were in this relationship, you were totally content, Taurus. This person was your home, and now that it's over, you feel totally lost. He was the one who brought stability to your life, but now that you're alone, you're not sure where to find stability again.
Your life might be feeling a bit topsy-turvy right now, but there is a way for you to stop loving him, so you can start feeling stable again. Now is the time for you to look within yourself. What is it you really want in life? Focus on some inner enrichment and learn how to be your own rock.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
You might follow the old saying "to get over one person you need to get under someone else" when your heart is broken, Gemini, but that can only work for so long. After that, you still feel like something in your life is missing. Learning how to stop loving someone takes time, and while you need someone to help you feel better, that someone doesn't have to be a new conquest.
Right now, you need your friends. Get your squad together and vent about how crappy your exes are. No one is going to make you feel as good as your BFFs do, so don't discount them in your time of need. They're the one who will comfort you best as you try to stop loving him.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Learning how to stop loving someone is really hard for you, Cancer. You put your all into this relationship, ad now that it's over, you're feeling totally betrayed and sad. What does someone even do in this situation besides cry their eyes out?
If you want to get over him, let yourself be sad. It's okay to want to curl up in bed with some Ben & Jerry's and all of your fave rom com movies you can find on Netflix. But don't underestimate the power your loved ones have in making you feel better, too. They're here for a reason.
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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
When you were in this relationship, Leo, you had all the adoration and worship you could ask for. I mean, does he even realize how stupid he is for giving up on someone like YOU? Clearly not. But now that you're navigating life alone, there's a hole where his love for you used to be.
Right now, you just need someone to remind you what a bad bitch you are. Not only does learning how to stop loving him suck, but learning that he doesn't love you anymore is a huge blow to your ego. Sometimes, seeking validation from friends and family is all it takes to heal.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Dealing with the end of a relationship is an exhausting task for you, Virgo. Your whole thing revolves around being the best partner a man could ask for. And now that it's over, you have no one to care for and love. If you want to stop loving him, you need to start sharing love elsewhere.
Focus on doing some good for others until you're ready to love again. Making others feel better always makes you feel better, so volunteer in your community, help a sibling or friend with a problem, or show your boss that you're who he needs on a new project.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Love to you means finding your other half, Libra. You want someone who can bring balance to your life and complement you, so when you deal with losing love, it can feel like your life is totally off-kilter. It's important right now to find that balance again and get back to your old self.
You're very good at making others happy (because that's what makes you happy), but if you want to stop loving him, it's time to get selfish. Treat yourself to something that will cheer you up, and then do something cathartic like deep-cleaning your apartment or meditating on self-love.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Learning to stop loving him is really difficult for you, Scorpio. You just spent so much time with this person that you now have to go back on everything you said you'd be for him. It feels impossible to do, but you are much stronger than you think – even when you're heartbroken.
One thing that always helps is getting angry. Yeah, your relationship is over, so why not burn that card he got you for your birthday and smash a plate? Now that that's out of your system, do some soul-searching. What do you need right now? A friend? To kiss a stranger? A nap?
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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
This relationship was really important to you because it made you feel like you were on this journey of growth, Sagittarius. So, for it to be completely over, you're not really sure if your journey is over too or if you're just at a fork in the road. Where to go from here?
If you want to stop loving him, sometimes getting away from all of the emotions and thoughts you're having right now is the best course of action. Take a weekend trip with your BFFs or just get away from reality for a few hours. Clearing your head will help you decide your next step.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn, it's okay to feel bad about how things ended in your relationship, but don't ever blame yourself for it. Your relationship was an investment to you, and now that it's over, you're probably feeling like every decision you make is the wrong one.
But rather than stuff these emotions down and move on, it's important to find support in friends and family. You might not know how to express yourself, but they know you better than anyone else. Be patient with your healing, and let people in rather than push them away.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Even if your heart is breaking inside, Aquarius, it's a lot easier for you to say, "Whatever, it doesn't matter," after getting your heart broken. And even when you do still love him, you're really good at convincing yourself that you don't. You've lost a partner, lover, and best friend.
Your emotions are probably stuffed wayyy down to stop yourself from feeling anything. What you need to heal is a lot of alone time. Express your feelings through creative means until you start to feel whole again.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
It might be hard for you to stop loving him, Pisces, but in the back of your mind, you're also thinking about how you're ready to love again. You have a need to feel needed, so losing someone you love makes you feel like you need to immediately fill that emptiness.
To stop loving him, embrace every emotion you're feeling right now. Being so in tune with your emotions makes you incredibly strong, so don't discount that power. Reconnect with old friends and practice self-care, and do everything that makes you feel loved, inside and out
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.