What's Really Keeping You From Being In A Relationship, According To Your Zodiac Sign
What you need to stop doing to be happy in a relationship.
unsplash Every one of us has a fear that we try to avoid when looking for the right relationship. Maybe you're worried that your partner will be really clingy and insecure, but with your luck, you'll only find out after you've been dating seriously for a while to notice that he's changed.
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Maybe you're afraid that you'll be the problem in your relationship and all of this overthinking will end up being your downfall in a surprisingly good relationship. None of us hope that we're in a crappy relationship or that our partner is going to be anything less than we've ever dreamed they would be.
But these hopes don't stop the fact that there are things out there that could be keeping you from being in a relationship. Each zodiac sign has their own preference when it comes to looking for the right partner.
Aries, you will always want someone who loves as fiercely as you do and isn't afraid to be totally honest with you. Sagittarius, you will look for a partner who values your need for freedom – and will actually encourage you to be your own person.
But then there is that one thing that keeps each of us from finding true love and meeting that perfect relationship (or keeping that one-in-a-million partner around).
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Whether you're sabotaging your own happiness – by setting sky-high expectations no human could ever reach to make you satisfied – or you don't feel like you're able to connect with anyone on an intimate basis, there's something out there that needs to change.
One of the best ways to open yourself to love and happiness, no matter what your zodiac sign is, is to be like Libra and give everyone a fighting chance. You never know, you might just be surprised by who ends up sweeping you off of your feet. You should also be honest like Scorpio.
Being open about what it is you're looking for in a relationship will weed out those who aren't interested or only want to waste your time. And, of course, learning how to embrace your flaws and weaknesses and use them to make yourself a stronger, better zodiac sign with a compatible horoscope made for them.
When other people see that you are confident in who you are, they will be much more attracted to you. You don't have to hide who you are to be in a relationship, even if that means being an overthinker or insecure at times.
But before you can do that, you need to find out what's really keeping you from being in a relationship, according to your zodiac sign, so that you can finally push through those fears and find your perfect partner, according to astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries, you love intensely – more fiercely and passionately than almost every other zodiac sign. So, the fact that you're not in a happy, loving relationship is very unlike you. Unfortunately, you feel like the only people you ever meet are the ones who want to waste your time.
You need someone who isn't going to beat around the bush about their feeling for you. If you're ready to take the next step, they have to be too. You're very self-motivated – you don't need anyone to push you along. So, when you look for that perfect person to date, they need to surprise you with how willing they are to meet you halfway.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus, whether you like to admit it or not, you tend to keep things hidden inside of you. You're not one to show your true emotions to someone until you know that you can trust them – and even then, it can be hard to open up. So, when it comes to relationships, what's keeping you from being happy is ultimately yourself.
You need someone who will be patient with you while you open up. You've never been a fan of quick moves or sudden changes, so the perfect partner is someone who doesn't mind taking things slow... at least, at first. Once you know that this person is really in it for the long haul, you'll be more than happy to take things to the next level together.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini, if someone asks you what you want in a relationship, you will most likely say that you want someone who will excite you. Sure, that's true, don't get me wrong. You're always looking for a dynamic partner who will keep you on your toes, but that's not the only thing you want.
What's keeping you from being in a relationship is the fact that you can't seem to find someone who can hold your attention for longer than a few weeks or months at the most. You know that your tastes can change on a dime, but if you have someone who will always keep you guessing, you'll never feel like there's one boring day together.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer, the main thing that's keeping you from being in a relationship is your crazy high standards for a partner. You have very high expectations that you want for your ideal partner that most people wouldn't even try to date you at this point.
What you really want – that you tend to hide behind these high expectations – is someone who will reciprocate the love you give. You are known for being a very caring, giving partner, so the perfect relationship is one where you never feel like you're doing so much more for your partner than they are for you. You want a relationship full to the brim with love.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, you are a very self-sufficient person all on your own. So, when you look for that perfect relationship, you're not looking for someone to take care of you. You really want someone who will be able to keep up with you – emotionally, mentally, and physically.
What's keeping you from being in a relationship is your rigorous elimination process for finding the right partner. You need someone who isn't going to hold you back, but rather move forward with you. Basically, you're looking for your partner in crime, which is harder than it looks. Of course, you hate settling, so you'd rather keep looking than be with someone who's not perfect.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Virgo, you are one of the more emotional zodiac signs, but you would never show those emotions to just anyone. What makes you such a great partner is that you're always there for your other half in every way. You've always wanted to find that one person you can connect with on the deepest levels so that you can express your emotions confidently.
You want someone who can be as emotionally available as you without letting it control their life. You have found the perfect balance between practical and emotional, but you won't show anyone your softer side until you know they're legit. This is hard to do because you actually have to open up to get to know someone. And if you don't, you'll be keeping yourself from love.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra, you have been dreaming of your perfect relationship for as long as you can remember. You don't want to be in a mediocre relationship (but who does?), but you also don't want to be alone. What you're really looking for is both simple and complicated.
You haven't found your equal in love, yet – that is what is keeping you from being in a relationship. You don't want any risks, you don't want any surprises. All you want is someone you can count on to make you happy and believe that the perfect relationship is all about give and take. Sounds simple, but the minute you realize you're not with the perfect person, you're back at square one.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio, you are a tricky one to decipher. You're both an introvert and an extrovert, and you want someone who is exactly the same. Some days, you want to stay in and be lazy. Other days, you want to go out and meet new people. Your partner is someone who should both respect that and understand it on a personal level – if they don't, you will be able to tell that they're faking it. What's keeping you from a relationship is being able to control your ambivert (introvert and extrovert) personality. You want someone who can read your mind and keep up with you, but you make it as hard as possible for them to get to know you. Instead of making your partner guess who you really are, you need to shed that protective layer and let them see the real you.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius, you are all about keeping it loose and free. Whether you're in a serious relationship or you're just keeping things casual, you want a partner who will be able to let you be who you want to be, but still make it known that you are theirs.
What's keeping you from a real relationship, though, is that you haven't found anyone who will ground you. You already know how to be carefree and find adventure, and while that is important to you, you also need someone who will bring you back to reality instead of encouraging your bad habits.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn, you're a very self-reliant zodiac sign. You don't actually need a partner in your life, but you certainly would like one – that is, if they are the right one for you. You play hard, but you work harder, and it can be difficult for you to get out of that hardworking mindset that you have perfected over the years.
The reason you're not in a relationship is because of your work. You would much rather push yourself to finish a project on your own or stay late at work every night instead of giving yourself enough time for both work and play. Your ideal partner is someone who will get you out of that work-all-day headspace so that you can have time for fun, too (that's just as important).
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius, what's keeping you from being in a relationship is your fear of letting yourself be vulnerable. You're so used to being your own savior and shoulder to cry on that you don't like how it feels to give up control to someone else.
You need someone who won't make you feel judged or weird for expressing yourself. You have a lot of love inside of you, but you want to make sure that your partner is someone you can totally trust before you open up. Once you know that your pickiness for finding love isn't going to shy someone away, you can be your true self.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces, you have been dreaming about your perfect, storybook relationship ever since you can remember. But now that you have an opportunity to find that perfect relationship, it's not uncommon for you to get scared and decide that you don't want to put yourself out there and start dating.
What's keeping you from being in a relationship is not wanting to date in the real world – only in your imagination. You need someone you can open up to without fear; someone you can be vulnerable around without giving yourself blindly to the wrong person. It's going to take some time, but true love will find you when you don't give up.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.