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Make him see what's so special about you, and use astrology to help.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Apr 17, 2018
Trying to get a guy's attention can be reaalllly hard, especially when you feel like your vying for his attention over everyone else who might be interested in him.
Whether you want to just date him casually or you want him to see you as the one he should be in a serious relationship with, showing him that you're the one he should be with (without seeming desperate or not interested enough) is a difficult process.
Take myself, for instance. I tend to be a little non-committal about pretty much everything in my life, even if I really care about something.
So, when it comes to dating, I tend to go for nonchalant and coy, but it always just comes off as bothered and not at all interested.
I know, I have some work on the face I put out to the world.
But I also feel like when I AM trying to get a guy's attention that all I'm doing is seeming desperate and needy, even when that's not how I'm feeling at all.
It's a weird, fine line that I'm terrible at mastering. And I know that I'm definitely not alone in this mix of emotions.
There's a difference between just wanting to date a guy and really wanting him to choose you over anyone else who might be interested.
How are you supposed to convince him of something like that?! Your guess is as good as mine.
But even when it seems difficult, it's not impossible.
All you need to do is get into his mind and really use him as a guide to his heart.
Think of it this way: would you rather date someone who was interested in getting to know you or someone who was trying to impress you with the person he is?
You would want someone who is actually interested in you, not just get into a relationship with anyone, right? Right! So, how do you do this? Astrology, of course!
Knowing his zodiac sign is the first step in using astrology to your advantage — and no, not to take advantage of him or manipulate him.
Think of it as cheat cards when you get lost. If he's an Aries, he's probably looking for someone he can have adventures with. If he's a Virgo, he might be more attracted to intelligence.
So, if you wanted Aries to choose you, you probably wouldn't act like a Virgo and vice versa. Make sense?
Each zodiac sign has their own personality traits and preferences when it comes to dating, and both of these things work together to help him choose the right person to date.
So, if you want to know how to get him to choose you (over someone else), you need to understand what his zodiac sign is looking for. After that, he's all yours!
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
Aries is a passionate guy and he wants whoever he’s dating to be just as passionate and “into” things as he is. The one way to make sure Aries is NEVER interested in you is to be totally unattached and disinterested.
If you’re not jumping up and down when he tells you that he’s planned a weekend away for the two of you or you tell him you don’t really care what you two do on Friday night, then he’s probably going to find someone else who IS interested.
If you want him to choose you over anyone else who’s interested in him, get excited! Start a food fight while you’re cooking dinner together, kiss him passionately when you’re out on the town, let yourself geek out when you’re actually excited about something instead of holding it in because you’re worried what he’s going to think.
And if you don’t really have the exact same interests? Just showing him that you’re not shy about talking about things that make you happy is something that will always keep you on his mind.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus is a huge romantic, but he’s also crazy stubborn. So, the minute you hesitate when he’s making dinner plans or asking if you’re ready to take things to the next level, his mind is probably already on someone else… Sorry.
He likes when the person he’s dating to participate in the relationship just as much as he does – like how when a class says that you need participation points to pass, it means you’re gonna have to raise your hand a few times.
He might feel like he has to take control at first, but if he has to take control ALL the time, he’s going to lose interest. Smash all of those pre-conceived notions he has of needing to be a chivalrous boyfriend and be proactive!
Before he asks you what you want to do this weekend, plan a paddleboat ride through the park or buy tix to an outdoor concert and text him something like, “Hey! I was thinking about you this week and I’m really excited to spend some time together this weekend.
Hope you’re free Saturday because I’ve planned something awesome for us!” Five bucks says he floats through the rest of his week, knowing you’re doing something fun and romantic for the two of you.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini can be a hard guy to read when it comes to figuring out if he’s totally into you or only kind of into you. Yes, you hit it off when you first met, but now that you two are in that weird stage where you’re hanging out and hooking up, but there are no labels yet, it’s hard to tell what he’s really looking for without grilling him.
We all know that Gemini is much better at starting relationships than following through with them, and his attention span might be working against you, but don’t forget that Gemini is the kind of guy who needs clear communication — not just hints.
Squash all of those, “Is he? Isn’t he?” questions you’re having and just hold his hand! It’s that easy, and you want to know why? Because instead of getting caught up in your thoughts, you’re just going for it.
He’ll love that you’re brave enough to show him you like him in public, but more simply, that you like him. He’s definitely not shy when it comes to PDA and if he knows that you’re willing to prove you’re into him and care about him, he definitely won’t be thinking about anyone else; make the first move and he’s yours.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Disagree with me all you want, but cooking for someone is one of the most intimate things you can do when you’re really into them. Not only can you do sexy things like feed each other little tastes of what you’re cooking, but add some wine and intimate conversation by candlelight and you’ve got an amazingly romantic night together…
Oh, and the key to Cancer’s heart. The combination of all of these things, plus the fact that you’re willing to do something so personal for him, will make it an easy choice for him.
Plus, while Cancer does like going out on the town with his partner, he’s also a huge fan of cozy nights in and comfort food. And whether you make one of his favorite dishes or you totally wow the both of you with something unique and delicious, he’s definitely going to want to show off something he can cook, too.
And nothing is sexier than a little friendly competition, right? And another great way to keep him hooked? Make your dinner dates a weekly thing, so he has something to look forward to (AKA you).
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Not everyone prefers a night in, of course, because every zodiac sign has different tastes. Take Leo, for example. Unless going back to his place means he gets to show off his new silk bedsheets, he much prefers to take his partner out and show them off.
If you want Leo to choose you over someone else, you gotta be down to show off your power couple status and spend some cash. Lions are majestic creatures and Leo knows that going big is a good way to get noticed — especially by someone you like.
That said, Leo is also attracted to those who are courageous enough to make the first move because it means there’s a good chance you can keep up with him. What does making the first move look like for Leo? I’d say something along the lines of planning a lavish night out.
He’ll think it pretty sexy if you can woo him with some bubbly champagne, a nice meal, and a romantic walk around the city. Show him that you like the finer things in life, too, and he’ll be super impressed.
And the other great thing about dating Leo is that he fully believes in equality in relationships. So while you might be picking up the tab one night, he’ll be more than happy to pick it up next week. All he cares about is getting closer to you over chocolate-covered strawberries and low lighting… Ohhh, yeah.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
If you want to hook a Virgo man, you have to have GREAT conversation skills – like, you can talk to just about anyone and make them feel like they had a really meaningful conversation with you.
For Virgo, relationships are much more than just spending time together or being intimate; they’re also about opening up to a person that means a lot to you — not just anyone.
You can tell this means a lot to Virgo because he’s known for seeming a little closed off around people until he knows what they really want out of him. If you’re looking for a casual hook-up, keep lookin’ because Virgo isn’t interested.
To get Virgo to be interested in you and only you, tap into your sensitive side and open up to him. He’ll love it if you go to him for all of your deep, late-night conversations you want to have, and be even more infatuated with you if you want to spend time with him in person when you want to talk — rather than over the phone.
When he knows that you really do care about what he has to say and you want to know more about him, he’ll really feel like he’s making a deep connection with you that’s beyond anything he has with anyone else; and that’s BIG for Virgo.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra is very intense when it comes to relationships; he’s looking for someone he can spend his life with, after all1 And when he feels like someone just isn’t putting their all into being with him, he tends to lose interest very fast.
Of course, you’re certainly not the only one out there looking to make a long-term commitment, so you want to make sure that you stand out from all the rest so that Libra can see just how special you truly are.
Libra is serious about love, so it’s a pre-requisite that you are too – no flaking on him after a few months! Once you decide that you are ready for the long haul, the best way to make him yours for good is to get excited about the future! Just saying you’re into him isn’t enough, and no, that doesn’t mean you have to start talking about babies, either.
Attracting Libra is all about letting the romance lead you. Take him to meet your family, schedule a day where his friends and your friends can get to know each other, and make him feel like he’s an important part of your life and future; make him believe in the phrase “when you know, you know.”
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio is one of those guys who tend to be more interested in you when you pretend like you’re not interested in him. Yeah, crazy right? He’s in love with the chase, but he also needs to know that when he finally catches you that you’re going to stick around.
If he wants to keep things casual, he’ll make sure he never catches feelings, but there is a way to make sure that he is actually into you and not just playing around.
While he’ll be the first to flirt and play games with your heart, he’ll also secretly be testing the waters; asking you what you’re looking for in a guy and if you want something serious.
The biggest thing to make sure that he stays interested in you and no one else (besides feigning interest yourself) is being honest. Scorpio won’t even bother with the games if he thinks you’re just using him or saying what he wants to hear to keep him around.
If he asks you a serious question seemingly out of the blue, go with it. Say what’s in your heart so he knows he can trust you. When he inevitably goes back to the chase, play along; miss a few of his calls and leave every conversation with him wanting more and he’ll be eating out of the palm of your hand in no time.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius wants adventure and someone to share memories with. He might not seem like it, what with his ability to make every relationship seem casual and unattached, but he’s had his fair share of love and loss.
He’s the kind of guy who’s constantly trying to grow from his mistakes and past experiences, so just because he seems like he’s bouncing around from one partner to another, he’s really just looking for that next important relationship. He’ll definitely want someone who can have fun rather than wanting to get too serious too fast.
Make him choose you over everyone else by making yourself the last person he thinks of every night before he goes to sleep. Late at night is Sagittarius’ time to ruminate on the important things and let his mind wander.
He might have a totally full schedule during the day, but it’s what he thinks about right before he goes to bed that’s most important to him. Ask him for company when you go on a late-night Taco Bell run or invite him on a last-minute weekend trip to the lake with you and your friends.
Whether it’s just the two of you together or a whole group of you, all he’ll see is that you’re willing to make him feel welcome in any situation. And if you really want to seal the deal, send him a flirty good night text, thanking him for spending time with you and making your day more exciting.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
When Capricorn looks for someone to get serious with, he looks at his prospects from a lot of different angles. The most important thing for him is making sure that his potential partner has a rich, full life outside of their relationship.
That means that if you want Capricorn in your life, you need to prove that you have ambition in your career, solid friendships, and a strong connection with your family. If he feels like you only ever go out when he asks you on a date or that you don’t care about being the best you that you can be, he won’t stick around for very long.
This might make it seem like Capricorn has a laundry list of expectations for you, but in reality, he just wants to have a strong relationship that is built on more than just spending time together.
You can prove that you’re the right one for him by putting as much effort into your career and self as you put into your relationship. Remember that spending time apart is just as healthy as spending time together — your relationship with Capricorn should be built on trust, openness, and respect, rather than just how much time you’re together.
When you’re honest about what you want from Capricorn, he’ll return the effort you put into the relationship and more.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Aquarius is a very independent man, so it’s hard for others to get him to let his guard down and really fall in love. But just because it’s difficult doesn’t mean it’s impossible – it just means you have to be willing to work a little harder than usual.
Aquarius’ biggest hang-up about not wanting to be in a relationship is based on two things: his independence and his mindset that not everyone gets him. He’s used to being his own problem solver and doesn’t want to give up his identity just to be with someone else.
If you want to get Aquarius to choose you, you need to show him that you care. Instead of swooping in to take care of all his problems, collaborate with him on what’s bugging him. And if he still wants to do his own thing, then show him that you still want to be around him and will always be there to listen and keep him company.
If you show him that you want to be his friend AND his partner, he’ll have a hard time resisting you; he can’t say no to someone who cares about him deeply.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces is the guy who needs someone who constantly shows that they care about him before he can make things official. It can kind of freak him out when he realizes that he’s falling for you, but if he knows that there’s a good foundation for your relationship, he’s more than willing to push past his fears.
So, how do you get him to have heart eyes for you and you only? By expressing your emotions with each other. Pisces is a big feeler and he has a lot of emotions. But he needs to know that you’ll accept him no matter what and that your relationship is about giving and receiving.
If he thinks that he’s doing all the talking, then he’ll feel like he’s just bothering you and stop. Prove to him that you’re sticking around for more than just a casual hook-up or friendship by being the one he comes to first whenever he wants to talk.
Share your emotions and thoughts with him candidly and often, and he’ll hit you up whenever he wants to talk or hang out. Pisces is looking for a friend and a confidant; someone who makes him feel special and wanted, no matter what he’s going through. Plus, emotional maturity is crazy sexy and Pisces is all over that
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.
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