11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Highly Sensitive Person
Dating a highly sensitive person is unique.
getty Feelings are incredibly subjective. What one person experiences is different than what others go through. While we have no real way to quantify our emotions, we can compare and see the differences.
There are people that experience life in a deeper sense than others. They lack the formations that disconnect and protect them from the magnitude of their feelings. They don't have a way to dial down their feelings.
The highly sensitive person (HSP) can be hard to be in a relationship with. Their sensitivity and introverted ways can make it hard to reach and relate to them.
1. They have amplified feelings.
They feel everything more deeply than others. They don't have a way to disconnect, so what others can just shrug off and not take personally, HSP's take straight to their core.
This makes everything very intense for them and the people close to them. Pay attention and respect their feelings.
2. They need their alone time to recharge.
They prefer to be alone and when they are around others they spend energy as opposed to absorbing energy. They pick up on every little external stimulus and react to it.
They feel other's emotions and feel bombarded in large, noisy crowds. After being in public they need time to recharge and realign themselves. Give them time to replenish their internal resources.
3. They are intuitive towards your emotions.
They are very observant. HSPs can pick up nonverbal communication and individual vibes with ease. Loving a highly sensitive and empathic person means they will call you out on your feelings and thoughts.
You won't be able to keep secrets from them. Be prepared to be in the spotlight even when you don't want to talk about it.
4. Romance isn't just a game.
HSP's take romance very seriously. When they consent to making love, they are trusting and confiding in you on a very intimate level. Their empathy and attention to detail mean they will learn a lot about you, while they express themselves. This means they are comfortable with you and when you make love to them make sure that you pay attention to their spiritual needs.
5. They are naturally insomniacs.
Their brains and hearts are always in overdrive. They toss and turn even when they are deadbeat tired. As a result, they are naturally night owls.
They come alive at night, wondering about the universe and its mysteries. Be prepared to stay up late.
6. They can be easily overwhelmed in highly stimulating environments.
HSP's react to stimuli more intensely than others. They prefer environments where they can hear conversations and their own thoughts. They won't want to go to clubs and house parties as much as coffee shops and a small get together with good friends.
7. They are born this way.
Emotional sensitivity and empathy are inborn traits. Their neural pathways are wired differently than others. Their mental reward structure is different so what they like to do is different.
Don't try and change them, respect their differences. It can seem very difficult getting close to and loving an HSP but it's worth it. Their love is bottomless and unlike anything you've felt from someone else.
8. Highly sensitive people avoid fights.
They know how those insults hurt all too well, so they don't readily throw them. When presented with conflict and fights, they are likely to walk away or try to talk things out.
Do not test their peaceful ways, as when pushed past their limit they might lose control. Be patient when working things out with HSPs, give them the time and distance necessary for them to make decisions and express themselves.
9. They often feel misunderstood.
They often feel like people mislabel and judge them for their sensitivity. Don't make them feel more different than they already do. Love them for their uniqueness and don't judge them.
10. Highly sensitive people make the most loyal partners.
HSPs will never intentionally hurt or restrict you. They know that they can be a handful at times, and love you even more for your efforts. They will express such deep and unique love that you've never felt.
11. They are great conversationalists.
Quiet at first, they will open up after some time and presence. The more comfortable they feel, the more they will express. Their hearts and minds are always active thinking, feeling and delving into experiences. So they always have something new to talk about or a fresh take on an old concept.
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