How To Soften Pubic Hair & Make Things Smooth Down There

Because nobody likes that feeling.

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If you are in a situation where your pubic hair is growing longer, you may find it uncomfortable. You can blame the theory of evolution for course pubic hair, but the good news is it's possible to learn how to soften pubic hair. And it's not all that different than what we do to smooth the hair on our head!

Whether shaving, lasering, or just trimming, keeping hair easier to control is an important first step. But so is conditioning and soothing because there are moisturizers and oils and all sorts of homemade treatments to be done. And what you put into your body means a lot as well.


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Itchy, dried out hair, ingrown hairs, and irritation are just some of the annoying parts about having pubic hair, and that's why learning to take care of this area can make us a lot happier and healthier and even make things more fun when guests come to join in on the fun.

How to Soften Pubic hair

Whether it's for your vagina's benefit or to make sex a little comfier, here are a few ways to get things a little smoother down there.

1. Hair conditioner

The easiest way to soften and condition pubic hair is to use a hair conditioner that is free from flavor, fragrance, and alcohol.


“I learned from a friend of mine who’s an ER nurse the most effective to truly soften coarse pubic hair. I use natural hair conditioner on my pubic hair, but to really make a difference I mix a small amount of baking soda with this conditioner and leave it on my pubic hair for 15 minutes before rinsing thoroughly,” says Sunny Rodgers, a clinical sexologist and certified sex coach serving as Ambassador for the American Sexual Health Association. “I would just caution not to get this mixture on the slick skin in between the lady part lips, however. This is because vulva lips don’t have a protective coating on them, which is why they’re so slick."

As a side note, conditioning pubic hair is also helpful in stopping the formation of ingrown hair. Rodgers says coconut oil also works well to soften pubic hair, but it can cause clogged pores in your sensitive nether regions. 

2. Laser hair removal

Laser hair removal may be a solution for how to soften your pubic hair in the sense that through the course of treatments, the patient has less and less hair and the remaining hair becomes less coarse. Lighter, brown-colored hair would likely respond the best to treatment with gradual softening. With darker black and brown hair, a good cosmetic result could be achieved by fully treating most of the extended pubic hair while customizing and lightly treating the area to be softened," says Dr. Garret Gause, Corporate Medical Director for Ideal Image Laser and Cosmetic Services

3. Fur oil


"Some women and one man swear by Fur Oil, which costs about $28 for a trial size," says Georgia Scott, author of Down There: Narratives About the Joy, Aroma, and Overall Existence of the Bush.

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4. At-home hydrating masque

"A woman can create her own conditioner using argan oil and a smashed banana," says Scott.


5. Drinking lots of water

If your system is well hydrated, so is your hair (everywhere!). 

6. Trimming your hair

Just as the hair on our head will feel dry and brittle if we need a cut, the ways to soften pubic hair include going for a trim. You can do this yourself with a pair of sharp scissors, but be careful. Wounding yourself down there hurts.

7. Mixing a softening cocktail

"You can apply a home mixture of shaved cucumber, lychee, and coconut oil. Then, sleep in an old pair of shorts and rinse it off in the morning," says Scott.


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Aly Walansky is a NY-based lifestyles writer. Her work appears in dozens of digital and print publications regularly. Visit her on Twitter or email her at