What To Expect From An Angry Ex During Your Divorce (And How To Handle It)

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If you thought your spouse was a head case before the divorce, here's what to look out for after!

Most divorce experts would agree that further alienating your soon to be former spouse is the last thing you would want during a divorce, but that doesn’t mean you can be prepared for what your angry ex may do. 

Divorce can bring out the ugliest traits from anyone, even you. You have to recognize this as a fact. You have to be prepared to handle your emotions to prevent any more bad feelings between you and your ex from developing because that can make your divorce a more complicated and expensive process.

You can do this by choosing to arm yourself with knowledge about how to deal with your ex during divorce and understand how they may act so you can be emotionally and mentally prepared to push through with the divorce process. Thankfully, here's how most angry spouses behave during a divorce:

1. They back out of verbal agreements.

Some people simply agree on something to make it go away for a day and so they feel that it is okay for them to not respect any verbal agreements. As soon as something is agreed upon during your divorce, make sure it is recorded and that it is properly legally documented. This way, you save yourself from headaches and further heartaches from your ex.

2. They abuse you and/or your children.

Because of how emotionally charged a divorce is, your spouse may take frustrations out on your children or you. You have to know how to get to safety when this happens and be prepared to get a restraining order if need be.

3. They accuse you of abuse.

Some exes will try to make their ex-partners’ life a nightmare by flinging accusations of abuse and other vile things. The last thing you will want authorities to see is you getting angry or physically acting out over an accusation like this.

4. They push for custody.

Some exes will want to push a former spouse out of their children’s life out of spite. Some will do this to push an ex to settle for less than they are entitled to. To prevent your spouse from using your children as leverage, you can opt to offer 50/50 custody right from the start. This will also benefit your children if agreed to because they’ll have equal time with both parents.

5. They do anything they can to stall the divorce process.

It is inevitable that both sides may have to produce certain documents before a divorce can be finalized. Note that some exes will deliberately refuse to provide paperwork for manipulative reasons or do the opposite and request for things from your side. You have to be sure that your divorce attorney knows what to do in such a case and has no qualms to use the Family Court System to deal with tactics like those described here. 

6. They cut your access to conjugal assets.

Your soon to be ex-spouse is likely to limit your access to bank accounts and properties you’ve expressed a desire to have in a divorce. You can avoid this by having copies of everything before filing for divorce, or just knowing what accounts and properties are listed under both your names. This is just one of many tips for how to deal with your ex during divorce.

7. They try to dig up dirt to use against you.

There had been stories of exes who used keyloggers on computers, installed hidden microphones and cameras, and interrogated common friends in an attempt to get information to use against their ex-partner. This is quite common and expected but this doesn’t mean that you should get your hands dirty and do the same.

Illegally obtained information can hurt more than it can help. If you’re thinking of countering up dirt with dirt, you should hire professional private investigators because they can sleuth out private information in legally-admissible ways. 

Because the most important thing through your divorce is your children, check out the video below for tips on how to deal with a difficult ex:


Haywood Hunt and Associates Inc is Toronto's leading private investigation agency with offices located in Toronto and Mississauga Ontario Canada.