What Being Cheated On Really Does To Your Health

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Why Being Cheated On Is Bad For Your Health

Being cheated on actually affects your health and well being.

If you’ve ever been cheated on, you already know that it totally sucks. Honestly, it’s  one of the worst things that can happen to your emotions, ego, relationship, and mental state. It’s kind of like this horrible primal feeling of verification that you aren’t good enough and that someone else is better than you.

Being cheated on is like a whole mash-up of psychological fears and worries coming true.

However, this new study explains it even further, solidifying the fact that being cheated on is terrible for your health.

Surveying 232 college students who had been cheated on in the past three months, researchers at the University of Nevada in Reno studied how their behavior and mental health was affected by cheating.

“We were interested in this topic for a couple reasons,” lead study author, M. Rosie Shrout, told PsyPost. “First, we know that infidelity is one of the most distressing and damaging events couples face. The person who was cheated on experiences strong emotional and psychological distress following infidelity. We wanted to know if this emotional and psychological distress leads them to engage in risky health behaviors, such as unprotected sex, drug use, alcohol use, binge eating, or not eating at all.

We were also interested in whether perceptions of blame played a role in their psychological distress and risky health behaviors. Did individuals who were cheated on blame their partners for cheating or did they blame themselves? Did who they blame affect whether they experienced psychological distress or engaged in risky behaviors?”

Through the study, the researchers figured out that “negative appraisals (partner blame, self-blame, and causal attribution) had indirect effects on health-compromising behaviors through mental health (depression, anxiety, and distress).”

The study showed that being cheated on can highly affect your view of cheating, behavior, and your ability to trust.

And some people were more likely affected than others. Researchers concluded that people who suffer from more distress psychologically after being cheated on, are more likely to turn to drugs and alcohol and develop eating disorders.

“Being cheated on seems to not only have mental health consequences but also increases risky behaviors,” Shrout said. “We also found that people who blamed themselves for their partner cheating, such as feeling like it was their fault or they could have stopped it, were more likely to engage in risky behaviors.”

Researchers aren’t exactly sure why this is but they think it could be because of lower self-esteem which may lower their inhibitions to risky behavior and retaliation against their partners.

Another finding was that people who blamed the cheating partner were less likely to engage in risky behavior, with these effects being stronger in women than men.

“This gender difference is consistent with previous research showing that women experience more distress after being cheated on,” Shrout said. “We think this is because women typically place higher importance on the relationship as a source of self and identity. As a result, women who have been cheated on might be more likely to have poorer mental health and engage in unhealthy, risky behavior because their self-perceptions have been damaged.”

The participants of this study were in their early twenties, meaning that the results could have been different in another age group.

Just remember, cheating — whether it’s you or your partner — is not the right thing to do in a relationship, regardless of the reasons behind it. So, if you have the urge or someone cheats on you, you know what to do.