7 Ways To Make The 69 Position STOP Being Awkward And START Being Awesome

It's better to give and receive.

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By Krissy Brady

When it comes to sex positions, 69ing is like an Olympic event. Between positioning yourself just right, syncing your performances, and scoring a perfect 10 (you know, without smothering him), it can be quite the challenge.

But considering it's the one time that giving oral doesn't equal sacrificing your own pleasure, it's safe to say locking down the logistics is worth it.



Ready to step up your game? Here are seven savvy tips to keep in mind:

1. Bait and Switch

One of the smoothest ways to get your 69 on is to start in the spooning position, says Jane Greer, Ph.D., sex therapist and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship.

Once he's all hot and bothered, have him lie on his back as you sit up and turn to face his feet. Pass your leg over his body so that your pelvis is hovering over his chest, then slowly lower yourself back and down.

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2. Call the Shots

The trick to 69ing like a pro is to have fun with it, says board-certified sexologist Debra Laino. Keep it relaxed and sensual.


For example, have your guy lie on the bed so that his head's hanging slightly over the edge. Stand on the floor over him, and as you kiss and massage his upper half, slowly crawl your way down his body until you're both in position.

3. Take Sides

If you're planning to make the 69 position your main event, the most comfortable way to do so would be for both of you to lie on your side, says Laino.

You won't have to worry about muscle strain or limbs landing where they shouldn't, and you can use each other's thighs as a pillow (a thillow, if you will) to keep neck pain to a minimum. Win/win.

4. Use Your Hands

Don't forget: There's plenty more body to explore as you're going down on each other, says Carol Queen, Ph.D., staff sexologist for Good Vibrations.


Not only can your hands pleasure the other hot spots surrounding his nether regions — such as his testicles and perineum — but they can also be put to good use when your mouth needs a breather.

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5. Switch Things Up

Don't get stuck in a rut with your BJ skills, says Laino. In this context, go-to moves are not your friend. Go slow, go fast, go in circles, go in long strokes, change up the pressure and suction — try and create a unique experience every time.

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6. Multitask

"Giving cunnilingus in this position can be awkward," says Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First and Passionista, no matter how many pillows are involved.


Keep a small vibrator handy or tell your partner to stimulate the vulva in addition to tongue action, he suggests.

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7. Take Turns


"The distraction that comes from giving and receiving oral simultaneously can do wonders for your orgasm," says Queen. "It can either really sneak up on you or take longer to get there, in which case it can be stronger."

But when you're on the verge of coming, it's easy to forget that you also have a job to do. If your mouth has a tendency to call it quits when his is working overtime, just make sure to return the favor when you're spent.



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