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You need to grow the hell up.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Feb 20, 2017
Adulting is hard. You have to make hard choices, do things you don’t want to do, and most of all you need to grow up. There are many people who are adults in age but much younger in maturity levels.
For some people, their bodies mature but their emotions don't. You might have developed breasts in sixth grade but it still took years to mature.
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Sometimes you’re forced to grow up, such as when you have a child, go into the military or even have a serious illness. You must deal with something, even if you don’t want to because not dealing with it can have very serious consequences.
It’s not that when you’re mature you no longer can have fun or a light spirit — it’s that you make sure you have money in the bank and can take time off work before you take a vacation, or you don’t get so wasted the night before a big project is due at work.
Being mature means making responsible decisions and taking the big picture into consideration. There are times when we should do something that we know will cause us pain such as having a root canal, but we do it anyway because if we don’t our teeth will rot.
Not everyone is mature in the same way or is 100 percent mature. If they were, they’d be boring and no one would ever want to invite them anywhere. There are different degrees of immaturity and maturity, and no one can force you to be either.
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There are those whose maturity is stunted; maybe they got to a certain point and just never got any more mature. You don’t escape life’s challenges and problems just because you refuse to take things seriously. You may delay it for a while but, ultimately, you’re going to have to take care of it and sometimes not doing anything is an action.
How immature are you? This is how you show how mature you are, according to your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
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You show your immaturity with your aggression. Yes, it's great to have a definite point of view but not when you can only see your side of things and when you use aggressive means to make your point. You can be narrow-minded when you refuse to learn from someone else or see things their way. Empathy and compassion are not signs of weakness, they show maturity.
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TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
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When refuse to take responsibility for a mistake you made or action you took, that's immaturity. Whether it's a personal relationship or a work relationship, no one is ever perfect, and sometimes you need to admit that you make the error. There are even times when you should be the bigger person and accept responsibility, even when it wasn't your fault.
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GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
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When you're often late or you cancel plans at the last minute, that's not being mature. Maturity is always showing up and being on time. If you don't really want to go out for drinks, then tell the truth; don't make up a lame excuse that no one is buying anyway. Also, being hungover isn't a good excuse for calling in sick to work. If you made the choice to drink yourself stupid, then be accountable for your actions.
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CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
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When you have no control over your emotions, that's a sign of immaturity. It's good to express yourself, but you don't hold back and every emotion, no matter how big or how small, gets your full attention and anybody else within range. It's OK to keep some things to yourself and see if you can work them out on your own. The world isn't your therapist.
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LEO (July 23 - August 22)
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There are times that when you get so caught up with material things that you completely lose sight of any spiritual aspects to life. It's nice to have beautiful clothes and nice things, but shopping doesn't feed your soul. If everything you do and think is superficial then you're going to have an empty life. It's a sure sign of immaturity if you never go deep with anything.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
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You show your immaturity with the way you base your self-worth on ideas of perfection and on the validation you get from other people. You need to see yourself clearly — both the positive and the negative aspects of your personality. Rejoice in the good things and give yourself a break about the not-so-good things. No one is perfect and by holding yourself up to impossible standards, you get in the way of your own happiness.
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LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
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You're fantastic at parties. When you act like a fool, it's just fun and funny, but you're using these goofball moments to hide the fact that you're hugely insecure. Immaturity doesn't make you young, it makes you childish. It's OK to have a good time and loosen up, just don't do it all the time and think that you can party without it biting you in the ass.
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SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
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Holding a grudge for a very long time and/or vowing revenge on someone you think disrespected you isn't being mature, it's being unbalanced. Passion and intensity can be grown up qualities, but you are sometimes very juvenile in the way you express them. You tend to see things in black and white without any gray areas. If someone isn't for you, you immediately assume they're against you and you start plotting to make them sorry. A mature person can let things go without evening the score.
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SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
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Running at the first sign of commitment isn't an indication of someone mature. In fact, all the energy you spend on trying to outrun responsibility and truly connecting to people is immaturity all the way. You're the person who'll crack a joke in a tense situation, but you're oblivious to the fact that humor isn't always appropriate and can make a situation even worse.
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CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
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You believe that you're the epitome of maturity, and in many ways that you are. However, while you're great at judging others, you're not very good at seeing your own faults and flaws. When you deny your own weaknesses, you show the immaturity that's lurking underneath the surface. How can you pass judgment when you're not up to the same scrutiny?
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AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
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You love the idea that there's no one else like you and it gives you a feeling of entitlement. It's immature to think that just because in some way (perhaps a talent, the way you look, your spectacular personality, or your skillset) you're unique, it doesn't mean that you're free to do whatever you want without taking responsibility for any of it. You can't break the law just because you're amazing.
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PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
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You show your immaturity in the way you break down when you think you're being rejected or left behind. You're fantastic when you think everything is going your way, but the moment you start to think that someone is accepting you or your work, you crumble. You're very sensitive and that's good as long as it doesn't affect the way you act. You need to accept the fact that not everyone is going to like you or put your best interests first.
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