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Do you even know what you need?
By Emily Ratay — Written on Nov 17, 2016
Finding the right girlfriend for you can take a LOT of time. You might find yourself dating girls you don’t even like that much for a variety of reasons, one of which might include that you’re just straight up lonely.
On the other hand, you might enjoy playing the field and don’t see yourself settling down into a serious relationship anytime soon — and that’s okay, too! What isn’t okay, though, is leading someone on because you’re bored or because you think it’s fun.
Instead, you should be taking a step back and thinking about the kind of girlfriend you REALLY want (and need) ... for the LONG haul.
Now, I realize this is probably easier said than done, especially when it can feel close to IMPOSSIBLE to find a chill girl who’s your best friend (a must-have in a relationship) and an amazing lover in bed.
Usually, we find people that can be one or the other, but almost always never have both qualities. Sometimes, dating apps are helpful in weeding out the people who aren’t the best options for you, but most of the time they end up being just another outlet for people to get super weird and overly honest with strangers (sorry, not sorry).
Depending on what your zodiac sign is, you could be attracted to the wrong type of person or you might not know how to find the RIGHT type of person to be in a strong and loving relationship with.
You might be more in tune with your emotions and want to find someone who acts the same way, but you may not realize that someone who is too similar to you could end up being a bad influence for you.
That said, if you like danger and spontaneity in life, it might be better to find someone who can reign you in every once in a while instead of someone who encourages your fast lifestyle.
That doesn’t mean that your relationship can’t be full of fun, but balancing that fun with responsibility is what makes a relationship strong.
Based on your zodiac sign, here is the type of girlfriend you REALLY need, if you want to make it last, based on zodiac compatibility:
ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)
Your life is full of excitement and fun, which is why you find yourself looking for girlfriends who share your interests. Having a partner in crime when you want to go out or just someone to be the other half of your power couple is the number one thing on your wish list for the perfect girlfriend.
Your competitive nature can be a great way to keep your relationship interesting, especially if your girl is as into it as you are, but it isn’t always a good quality to have. Even if you aren’t looking for dynamic competition in your relationship, always wanting to be on top can get messy FAST. The type of girlfriend you need enjoys fun, but will also show you how important it can be to be patient instead of chomping at the bit all the time.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Taurus
READ: 13 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aries (As Written By An Aries)
TAURUS (Apr 20 - May 20)
You are an amazing lover and partner (and you know it), which is why you love being in relationships so much. You know how to surprise your girlfriend and treat her like a queen, which easily strengthens your bond between each other. When you really love someone, you aren’t afraid to show it and that is what makes you such a great catch.
That said, you can sometimes let your stubborn attitude get in the way of things, making it easier to get into arguments with your significant other. Instead of seeing things from her perspective, you would rather stand by your own opinion, even if it's wrong.
The type of girl you SHOULD be looking for is one who can teach you how to be fair. Whether that means she shows you how to change your way of thinking when the two of you have differences or learning how to let go of some control in life, a diplomatic partner will help you lay a better foundation for your relationship.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Libra
READ: 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Taurus (As Written By A Taurus)
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
You love to bring adventure and excitement into a relationship, which makes you a great partner for someone who wants to see the world in a colorful, thrilling way. You can sometimes be indecisive, though, which can make it harder for you to settle down. Sometimes, you forget that decision-making is what makes a relationship most successful between two adults.
Whether you’re just having a hard time choosing where to go for date night or you keep giving the girl you like the wrong signals, your indecisiveness can take a toll on your significant other. Some people would rather just give up on the relationship, but if you want to make it work, expect to put in the effort.
You should be dating someone who isn’t afraid to make big decisions, even if it’s just to show you how it’s done. If she really loves you, she will be patient with you and help you become someone who is able to look towards the future, instead of just pretending like nothing has to be serious. You’ll find that this is a very positive influence in your life.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Capricorn
READ: 13 Brutal Truths About Loving A Gemini (As Written By One)
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You are incredibly imaginative and tenacious in life, and you like to bring these traits to your relationships, too. You look for partners that are the most similar to you because you vibe well off of people who think like you. You try to keep an open mind when it comes to your relationship, but you can sometimes let your pessimistic side take over.
When you get into the mindset that things are going wrong in your relationship (even if nothing is wrong), it can feel like the end of the world to you.
You need someone in your life who has a warm-hearted nature that can cheer you up instantly. It might be a drastic change, but this optimistic outlook on life will do wonders for your own personality.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Leo
READ: 5 Brutal Truths About Loving A Cancer (As Written By A Cancer)
LEO (July 23 - Aug 22)
You love being in a relationship where your significant other treats you like the world revolves around you. It can be great having such high expectations in your relationship, but it can also make you seem like you are trying to make everything about yourself. When you get this way, your partner’s feelings can sometimes get lost in the jumble. It's important to remember that a relationship is between both people, so the BOTH of you should matter.
Instead of dating someone who gives into your every want, and would rather see no faults with you whatsoever, your significant other should be honest with you when you are acting a little full of yourself.
Your girlfriend should teach you how to be humble instead of making you feel bad for thinking so highly of yourself. There's nothing wrong with loving yourself, but you should make sure that it isn't taking over the love you have for your girl.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Pisces
READ: 6 Brutal Truths About Loving A Leo (As Written By A Leo)
VIRGO (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
You take pride in your serious attitude, which comes in handy in many situations, but it can often make you seem like you don’t care much about being in a relationship. Even if you truly care about your significant other, if you let your seriousness get in the way of fun or become the main topic of discussion during an argument, you may end up losing someone very important to you.
Instead of being with someone who doesn’t care how you act around them, you should find a girlfriend who encourages you to let loose every once in a while and get in touch with your carefree side.
If she is special to you, she will already know when a situation calls for your level-headedness and when to act silly together. Nothing is more important to you than finding someone who gets you without needing to use words all the time.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Sagittarius
READ: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Virgo (As Written By A Virgo)
LIBRA (Sept 23 - Oct 22)
You look for a relationship with a significant other who can be your equal through and through. You prioritize fairness over everything else, making you a very positive influence in your partner's life. Your fair attitude is a great quality to have, yet it can sometimes end up turning into a negative trait and create problems for you and your girlfriend.
Dating someone who is brave and can get you out of your shell is exactly who you need in your life. She can help you stand up for yourself and teach you that helping yourself before anyone else isn't a crime. You also need someone who will be your best friend before anything else.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Scorpio
READ: 11 Brutal Truths About Loving A Libra (As Written By A Libra)
SCORPIO (Oct 23 - Nov 21)
You are a passionate soul and anyone who is lucky to have you in their life knows you make the relationship exciting. You would rather focus on having fun with your significant other (and who wouldn’t?), but sometimes that means you often skirt around touchy subjects for fear of opening up to someone and getting your heart broken.
Whether you like it or not, you can be secretive without even realizing it. Honesty is important, especially in a relationship, but you’ll never grow as a couple if you don’t let yourself be vulnerable. You might feel like this is just setting you up for disappointment, but dating someone who values honesty can be a good start to following their lead.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Aries
READ: 14 Brutal Truths About Loving A Scorpio (As Written By A Scorpio)
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22 - Dec 19)
You love being curious and energetic when it comes to dating because you believe even the longest relationships deserve constant excitement to bring the spark back. You are very extroverted and it is easy for you to snag any cutie you want. You can make almost anyone fall for you just with your words.
While it might be charming to flirt your way into any person's heart, you can often get carried away. You tend to make big promises just to keep the other person happy, which only ends in disaster.
The girl you SHOULD be dating is fiercely loyal (especially when she knows there's something good between you two) and sees things with a practical eye. She can teach you to have more patience and to say exactly what you mean without adding all the frills.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Virgo
READ: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Sagittarius (As Written By One)
CAPRICORN (Dec 20 - Jan 19)
You are a very traditional person who believes in family and serious relationships. One of your goals in life is to have a successful, long-term relationship with someone you love. When you date someone new, you are really looking for someone you can see yourself with in the future.
Unfortunately, you don't always find a girl who feels the same way you do about something serious. A lot of people your age are probably still looking for something unattached and casual because it can be more fun than settling down early.
Your traditional values can sometimes get in the way of you having harmless fun, which is why you should be dating a girl who introduces you to new experiences. That way, you get to spend time with someone you love, while also learning something new about yourself. She will bring excitement into your life and you will still be able to be a part of a serious relationship.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Gemini
READ: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Capricorn (As Written By One)
AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
You carry a mysterious nature well and can often fool your significant other into thinking that you are emotionally available, even when you’re not (by choice, of course). Your mysterious personality can make you seem incredibly sexy and attractive by many people, but when it comes to serious relationships, you would rather keep someone at arm’s length instead of letting them in.
Emotional availability isn’t always easy for you, especially when a broken heart and loneliness are on the line, but it is the most important thing to having a successful relationship.
Being with someone who understands that it takes time to open up, but also knows how to do this, is exactly the type of person you should be dating. She can show you that being in touch with your sensitive side is worth the effort, no matter how scary it might be at first.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Cancer
READ: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving An Aquarius (As Written By One)
PISCES (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
You are very in touch with your emotional side and you are not afraid to show it in your relationship. You would much rather be honest up front and hope someone loves you for that than hide significant parts of yourself until you really get to know someone.
With such a sensitive nature and a great desire to have a functional, serious relationship, you can sometimes put the blame on yourself when things don’t go your way. It isn’t much of a surprise when you start playing the victim in a relationship hoping for sympathy, and oftentimes, your significant other will try to placate the situation by telling you what you want to hear.
It is MUCH better for you to be with someone who tells you like it is; it might be hard to hear at first, but it’s really strengthening your relationship and promoting honesty between you two.
Your Most Compatible Sign: Aquarius
READ: 7 Brutal Truths About Loving A Pisces (As Written By A Pisces)