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There are so many things that are considered the norm in society that some people actually don't do.
By Brenda Della Casa — Last updated on Mar 22, 2023
Not too long ago, I was out with a handsome so-and-so having a chat about sex, dating, and love when the topic of one-night stands came up. “Have you ever had one?” he asked. “No,” I responded. He rolled his eyes. “Come on, not one?” “No,” I reiterated. He stared at me with a smirk, “You’re so weird.” I laughed.
I've heard that word many times: Weird, prude, old-fashioned. I've been called all of the above and more than once. The whole notion that I would prefer to avoid an awkward goodbye and inevitable STD scare (I'm a bit paranoid) while wondering if a cute stranger would call me: is that really that weird? I think not.
The whole exchange made me think about some other “weird” traits that are actually quite normal, even if no longer the norm. Read on to see if any apply to you.
Here are 8 strange things women do that are actually perfectly normal:
1. They do not want to share EVERY life update on Facebook
In a world of continual status updates and fishing for “likes,” oversharing has quickly become the new way to socialize and (over) share. I, too, was guilty-as-charged until realizing that I was eroding my credibility with every sloppy update.
There’s something to be said for not announcing every fleeting thought, feeling, and relationship bump to everyone you know. Besides, keeping your private life private not only helps you to maintain a little mystery, but you'll also never have to experience that oh-so-embarrassing moment when you change your mind and scramble to do damage control because let’s face it: People read and judge.
2. They do not take thousands of selfies
I once received so many selfies from a new guy, I almost wished he could see my expression each time my iPhone beeped (if he could, he would've seen my best creeped-out face). Sure, everyone “likes” a nice photo, but if we're being honest, there’s something deeply narcissistic and slightly needy about spending hours standing in front of mirrors and posing just to show strangers on the Internet how attractive you are.
And unless you have the confidence to spare and think you look phenomenal in all lighting and from every angle, they’re stressful, too. Big facial features, dark shadows, filtering within an inch of your life ... who needs it?
3. They do not give a crap about reality TV
Listen, I say live and let live. If you like reality TV, great. But if spending hours of your life watching other people live theirs sounds a lot less exciting than creating your own show-stopping existence, then I say toss the remote and live a life you don't want to escape from.
I wish Kim all of the best, but I'm pretty sure Kim isn’t stressing about whether (or not) any of us will make up with our sister's rude baby daddy, either.
4. They do want (or do not want) kids
Or get married/be in a relationship/whatever. Welcome to 2023, folks, where the one-size-fits-all approach to big life decisions doesn’t work—and thankfully, doesn’t have to.
Besides, there's nothing more respectable (or sexier) than a woman who knows what works for HER and adjusts her life choices to support her own personal goals and value system. No explanation is required.
5. They think that ignoring people is really rude
OK, I know I'm not alone on this one because whenever I bring it up, everyone starts nodding like the SNL Roxbury skit. How many times have you reached out via email/text/phone call to a friend or colleague only to be met with a big, flat nothing? No response. Whether it’s an invitation to dinner or a quick hello, being met by silence not only sucks, it feels terrible.
While full lives don’t always make room for real-time responses, ignoring someone (no matter how "busy" you claim to be) sends the message that you’re angry, don’t care, or are holding out for a better option. Let me be frank, this sh*t ruins relationships and people.
6. They are able to be friends with an ex
Yes, there are a lot of hurt feelings and bad breakups to support going your separate ways and never speaking to each other again, but there are also plenty of people who are able to move past Go, collect their $200 and sustain a respectable, reliable and friendly friendship once they realize they aren’t a love match.
I should know, I just got an invitation to a baby shower from my ex-boyfriend’s wife.
7. They wait to have sex
Swiping right doesn’t mean you have to slip into bed with every match, and not doing so doesn’t make you a prude. It makes you someone who, God forbid, likes to know a little about the person they’re waking up next to.
Sex should feel safe, comfortable, and sexy. If that feeling comes on the first date, great, but if it doesn’t, that’s OK, too.
8. They don't bond over unhappiness
Misery may love company, but who enjoys feeling miserable? Nobody. If Sex and The City-style complaining and commiserating isn’t the conversation you want to have over cocktails, don’t assume you’re not chic. Assume you’re simply able to deal with life as we know it and choose to look at the bright side.
And well, that’s not weird. That’s wonderful!
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Brenda Della Casa is the author of Cinderella Was a Liar, former managing editor of Preston Bailey, a Huffington Post Blogger, and a contributor for Divalicous.