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Rev Up Your Husband's Libido By Doing These 4 Things


You CAN break out of your sex rut. You just need to get a little creative!

In the beginning, you never had any trouble in the bedroom department with your husband. From the way sex with him feels physically and emotionally intimate, there's no denying he is totally a walking turn on (wink).

And then things changed. Have you noticed that there's a sudden shift in your relationship? Your man's sex drive has pretty much disappeared, and you can't fathom why. Instead of sex bringing you closer, the lack of intimacy in your relationship starts pushing you further apart.

There is nothing worse than feeling like you're stuck in a sexless marriage with no way out. The hardest part is not understanding WHY the sparks in the bedroom have died. And we can't blame you.

After all, if your own husband doesn't seem interested in strengthening your physical bonds, what does that say about your emotional connection?

Anyone in this situation would second guess themselves. Not knowing why or how you guys lost it is super frustrating, not to mention the fact that the urge for sex is just never there anymore.

If you're feeling lost and afraid that you won't ever get the intimacy back, don't worry. It is possible. It just takes some open honesty on both of your parts.

Hearing YourTango Expert Sherry Amatenstein keep it real about why your sex life went from "hot and heavy" to lackluster definitely puts everything in perspective.

Think you're the only one whose husband seems bored of sex? Guess again! According to Sherry, one in five couples have sex under ten times a year.

Say what?!

How can you and your man rev things up in bed and avoid becoming part of this statistic?

Before you can work things out, you must figure out why he has lost interest. But that doesn't mean you should harp on him constantly or blame him for your lackluster sex life. That won't do either of you any favors.

We'll let you in on a little secret: You CAN break out of your sex rut. Rekindling the romance in your marriage when your husband isn't interested in sex isn't easy, but the payoff is totally worth it.

Sherry stresses that you must tackle this issue in four simple but completely effective steps. After playing her advice on repeat, we couldn't agree more! If you don't put in the work, how can you expect things to change?

It's important that you stop your insecurities from building up to the point where they start to take a bigger toll on your relationship. So if you're really serious about boosting husband's libido, Sherry's advice is pretty foolproof.


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