3 Subtle Things Guaranteed To Help You Get Any Guy

Sexy and seductive should do the trick.

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Every time I turn around, yet another study comes out that claims to have figured out scientific reasons why men and women find each other attractive.

Symmetrical vs. asymmetrical faces, ring finger as compared to the index finger, blonde versus brown hair, body shape, body mass, smell, voice, and (my all-time favorite) long-distance runners. 

What if I told you that you can ignore all of the studies and scientific blathering? What if I told you that, in reality, you can have any man you want, no matter your age, profession or social status? 


There is one simple formula that can attract the man of your dreams. And it happens when you focus on being — H.I.S.

Before you gasp and walk away in disbelief, let me break it down for you.

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Here are three subtle things guaranteed to help you get any guy:

1. Be H = hot

Start with hair and makeup.  (Hint: Definitely do BOTH.) If it’s a first date and you don't do your hair and make-up on a regular basis — seek professional help. Like it or not, looks matter.  

Any woman can look 100 percent better with proper makeup application and a modern hairstyle. (No buns or ponytails, ladies. The first one ages you and the second says you didn’t care enough to put time in).

Then, pay particular attention to your wardrobe. Put away the pants; men like legs. If you’re like the rest of us, you have a human body, not a supermodel's. That means, focusing on accentuating the positives and hiding any negatives in your form. 

Not sure which are your best and worst assets? Ask a stylist. Any quality department store offers a score of salespeople just dying to give you their opinion. (Make sure to go during the day when crowds are smaller and staff has more time to devote to you.)

Finally, finish off your look with a pair of high stilettos. Nothing makes your legs look longer or your walk sexier than stilettos. (If you don’t normally wear heels and five-inchers make you wobble, practice at home first. After all, a bloody nose on a date is not an attractive feature.)

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2. Be I = interesting

What makes you different?  There are beautiful women everywhere. Winning a man's heart takes more than great looks. So, what makes you interesting? Not sure? Find something you’re passionate about and talk about that. Yes, even if it is religion or politics. He may disagree, but no man can resist a woman who has a sparkle in her eyes.

Avoid getting carried away with any specific subject, however. There's a fine line between passion and fanaticism. Make sure not to cross it.

Keep up with current events. If it’s on the news, it's a topic of interest. If he shares his opinion on something, so should you (and those opinions don’t necessarily have to agree).

Avoid lengthy monologues about yourself. He's not there to hear every detail of your life at once. Leave something out each time you meet, that way you retain some mystery about you that he longs to discover.


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3. Be S = seductive

If you like a man, show it. Flirt, and make your intentions known, while simultaneously playing hard to get (easily).

A toss of the hair, a slight touch of the hand, leaning in, catching his eyes — there are many ways a woman can show her interest in a man. Let him know that, even while you’re discussing the French Revolution, you're interested in more than his mind.  

After all, research shows that we tend to like people who like us. Just make sure you don’t give it all away. Always leave him wanting more.

Becoming H.I.S. requires time and effort.

How much of each will differ from person to person. What you will find, however, when you keep practicing, is that being H.I.S. becomes an integral part of your dating behavior. As it does, you will transform into that strong, irresistible woman you've always wanted to be. You just need to really, really, really want it!


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Marina Margulis is a writer and matchmaker who believes dating should be easy and natural.