3 Subtle Psychology Tricks That Make Men Call Instead Of Text
How to make him want to actually call instead of sending another lazy text.
Jake Fagan | Unsplash In today's dating culture, most men don't call. They don't dial your number to hear your beautifully melodic voice. Instead, they text.
Bzzz! My phone vibrates. It’s him saying, "Hello."
Bzzz! My phone vibrates. It’s him texting, "Good morning!"
Bzzz! Bzzz! Bzzz! It’s him again! He has continued a conversation over text for two days.
"Pick up the phone!" I want to reply. But I don’t. This is the "culture" we are living in — all technology, all the time. We are always connected, yet we are so disconnected.
Can we change this new trend? How do we persuade a man to call us on the phone instead of texting? With these tricks, that’s how.
Here are 3 subtle psychology tricks that make men call instead of text:
1. Don’t text him at all
I’m Latina, and some people think I’m going to "chica" them all night long. Well, I don’t always want to speak Spanish. So, when they say, "Hola! Como estas?!" I answer, "I’m well, and you?"
The same can be applied to texting. If he texts you, call him. Always. If he doesn’t pick up and texts something like, "I’m busy. Can’t talk." Don’t reply.
If you must because you cannot control your impulsive fingers, then text him to call you when he is free. If he continues to text, do not reply. He will pick up the phone and call if he cares to communicate with you at all.
Dating coach Ronnie Ann Ryan, who has worked with thousands of singles, explains that "communication is far less intimate when you don't hear someone else speaking" and that voice inflections and nuances "give away emotional cues that are completely missing when you text." By consistently redirecting texts to phone calls, you establish that you value meaningful communication over convenient but shallow text exchanges
2. Tell him you hate texting
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Honesty is the best policy. So why not just tell him you'd rather not text? I once expressed my desire to speak on the phone, and the man obliged. Another man, however, still continued to text me. I stopped replying, and the relationship that never was ended.
As dating coach Natasha Silver advises, authentic communication, even in the early stages, "helps guide the relationship honestly without gaming deception or tricks." By being upfront about preferring phone calls, you're efficiently screening for men who respect your preferences and are willing to make effort for meaningful connection.
Here's the bottom line: When a man is interested, he will want to make you happy and meet your needs, even if they may seem frivolous.
3. Employ a harmless white lie
You don’t reply to his texts, but he still insists on texting only. What to do? Be a little sneaky. Tell him you’re using a company phone and they don’t allow you to text. Reply with short — and somewhat cold — answers, so he wonders what’s wrong and has to pick up the phone.
Miss a few important text messages that he sends and tell him you’re having trouble with your phone. A little sneakiness — and fibbing — may just do the trick.
No matter what tactic you use, make sure to demand change somehow. I, personally, don’t condone lying, so I encourage you to be upfront from the very beginning.
Also, be aware that sometimes texting is easier. Maybe his "good morning" can't be uttered because he's in a meeting. And who wouldn't want to hear "I miss you," even if it's delivered via text?
It truly is all about balance. Still, the moral of this story is clear: If you allow a man to text you all the time, he will. Nip it in the bud, or prepare for a lot more buzzing.
Sujeiry Gonzalez is a love coach, author, and vibrant on-air talent who tells it like it is.
