11 Rare And Magical Things That Happen When You’re In The Right Relationship
The right person will be like a breath of fresh air, and your life will never be the same.
Roman Samborskyi / Shutterstock It's so hard to know when you've found the right one. Everything is blissful, and everyone wears rose-colored glasses during the honeymoon phase of a relationship. However, over time, faults and disagreements emerge that can reveal that the person you thought was your ideal match was just another step on your journey to finding true love.
The common misconception is that the right relationship will give you consistent butterflies in your stomach, your playlists will align, and you will never have a cross word with one another. But that is not reality. The rare and magical things that happen when you're in the right relationship are about an unshakeable connection. It elevates your life and gives you a safe space for vulnerability, transformation, and deep intimacy. It's not perfect, but it is real and raw, something that is hard to find in a world filled with noise and surface-level connections. When you are with the right person, there is less drama and more magic. There are easy-to-recognize signs that you are finally getting the love you deserve.
Here are 11 rare and magical things that happen when you're in the right relationship
1. It feels like home
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I once had someone tell me (after they had ruined everything) that they missed me because I felt like home. At the time, I said "Blah, blah, blah" to myself because I didn't understand a feeling that I had not consistently experienced. But I now know that the person who was meant for you will make you feel physically, mentally, and emotionally at peace without even trying.
They feel like getting home after a long day at work. You can kick off your shoes, snatch off your bra, and walk around freely without worry of being judged for just being you. You can finally breathe.
Being with your soul mate makes you feel seen for what is in you, not what is on you. The magic goes beyond your aesthetics and reaches a sacred place inside of you where few have ever been. The things that you buried a long time ago can finally be released. You have a place to heal from life's traumas and go back out into the world better than ever.
2. There is no awkward silence
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Silences are only awkward when people feel social anxiety, worry about what you will think of what they have to say, or believe that there is a possibility they will ruin the connection with words. Your person will be comfortable around you, whether you are having a passionate conversation or sitting peacefully next to one another and saying nothing. There is no pressure on either side to fill every moment with conversation.
Tension about what, if anything, needs to be said does not exist; only ease. There is an inner knowing that you each are connected more deeply and that what's understood doesn't need to be explained. It's as if you share a spiritual language that no one else can understand. The energy exchange is powerful, even when you are sitting in silent stillness.
3. They accept and love your weirdness
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Everything about me is a little quirky, from my animated laugh to my harsh sense of humor. It can easily rub the wrong people the wrong way. The person who is meant for you will be attracted because of your weirdness, not despite it. You won't have to hide parts of yourself because the real you is what makes them gravitate in your direction.
When you are with the right person, you won't fear judgment because you know that they will handle you with love and respect. You will be more vulnerable than you've ever had the privilege of being in your life, and the days of shrinking yourself so others can look larger will disappear. You feel safe, not scared, to be the person you truly are.
4. Fights are a path to growth, not destruction
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Fighting with your partner can ruin a relationship faster than you can blink. It erodes any trust the two of you have in one another, creates emotional distance, and might eventually lead to a total breakdown of the partnership. But when two people are made for each other, arguments don't turn toxic. They remain respectful and productive because everyone wants to be better, not to win.
Instead of a soul-crushing, never-ending cycle of contention, disagreements are handled with love and grace. Both partners have decided that they never want to do things to destroy one another. They want to magically heal together through empathy, compassion, and commitment. No one comes into the relationship with a fragile ego. They are flexible and understanding, choosing to bend instead of breaking.
5. You protect each other's peace
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The Bible tells us that "God is not an author of chaos, but of peace." So, we've gotta understand that things that show up in our lives and bring confusion and dysfunction are definitely not coming from a good place. When you are with the right person, they will prioritize your peace. They would never make choices that intentionally upset your emotional well-being because they want to live in harmony with you.
Your person will bring a calming, not chaotic. There is stillness to your connection that feels sacred. In the past, you would have considered it boring, but this is different. You're healed and whole. You don't need frills, gimmicks, and distractions to enjoy a person's company. Your nervous system is operating at optimum levels because you have peace in your life instead of the highest of highs and the lowest of lows.
6. You heal the parts of you that you thought were permanently damaged
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The most magical thing that happens when you are in a relationship with the right person is that the broken parts of you that you accepted and embraced unexpectedly start to heal. You thought all relationships came with games and manipulation, so you buckled up for a long ride every time. But this time, your heart is protected. Your vulnerability is valued, and they would never violate it.
In life, we take some damage inflicted on us on the chin. We accept it as part of the journey and hide it within, always aware it's there, but trying our best to ignore it. The love of your life will inspire you to heal the things you thought we permanent. Through intention and action, old wounds close, scars start to go away, and you begin to feel lighter and freer.
7. You see each other as a good time investment
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Some people feel as if to fully make a romantic connection count, they have to be doing something, anything, at all times. Mundane things like doing laundry, grocery shopping, and running errands seem like a waste of time and things to check off before you get to the good stuff. But with the right person in your life, you will find enjoyment and value in even the most routine things.
Every moment feels like something special, and you are both grateful to simply be in each other's presence. You realize that there is meaning in every minute you spend together and are happy to have received such a rare gift. Instead of run-of-the-mill happenings or just passing time until something worthwhile happens, you consider every moment with them time well spent.
8. Your intuition won't have to work so hard
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When you have finally found the one, your intuition gets to take a break because you're not constantly triggered by dishonesty or suspicious behavior. Overthinking and second-guessing are things of the past, so you get to finally just be present. No more dissecting every word and action to make sure you aren't being played. Just a quiet certainty that you are exactly where you are meant to be.
You don't doubt their intentions because they have shown you way better than they could ever tell you. Decoding texts and tone are not activities you have to partake in anymore. There is clarity, honesty, and a total absence of the anxiety that comes with toxic relationships. You have both learned what love really means and are living it.
9. Growth is mutual
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There is nothing like a couple who are growing and evolving together. They want each other to win in love, life, and every other part of life. They celebrate and uplift one another, encouraging their partner to elevate even higher. Unlike the tendency for couples to compete over who is doing better, they see each other's success as their own because they are fully invested.
When you are in the right relationship, love is no longer a battlefield, but a sanctuary where you can hide from the rest of the world. It's not perfect, but you know that you are building something that is very real. It's not conditional, to be earned. It is generous, always present, and flows freely.
10. You don't have to perform
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The right relationship is the one where you can let your hair down. Total acceptance from your beloved means that you don't have to perform to get affection from them or to prove your worth. The pressure of constantly being on is nonexistent, and you are loved just the way you are. As you spiritually evolve more and more together, you learn from each other, and everyone feels seen.
You are not only partners in life, but in growth. You know exactly how to inspire each other, reflect on the past to make better choices in the present and future, and to reach higher levels of understanding and purpose. That's real freedom to be and let be. It's so sacred and magical that it's rare to find.
11. The future is promising, not scary
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If you've ever been in the wrong relationship, you know that uncertainty about what's next can be extremely scary. You are hesitant and have no idea where you are going, so you walk around on pins and needles. In the right relationship, when you look ahead, you see possibility and promise. You understand why your other relationships did not work out. You were meant to be exactly where you are and with the person you are with.
You've been through the love lessons, the storms, and are finally seeing the future gently unfolding before you. You are healed and awakened and are experiencing love in its truest form. For the first time, you get that it is meant to help, not hurt. You recognize divine timing, synchronicities, and an alignment that tells you there is something beautiful in store for the two of you.
NyRee Ausler is a writer from Seattle, Washington, and the author of seven books. She focuses on lifestyle and human interest stories that deliver informative and actionable guidance on interpersonal relationships, enlightenment, and self-discovery.
