If Your Husband Or Wife Does These 6 Things, They're Probably A Bully At Heart
Vitaly Gariev | Canva When we think of a "tough guy" we imagine someone who is assertive, physically fit, and isn't afraid to express his thoughts. While this may come naturally to some people, that behavior can cross a line.
There are a lot of women whose husband's behavior goes to a whole other level. Unfortunately, many of these wives are in denial of their husband's behavior because, for whatever reason, they don't want to confront the issue. The same goes the other way as well with overly-domineering women and their husbands. They can cross a line and end up bullying the man who adores them. Keep in mind that this behavior is not healthy and could be a sign of worse things to come.
If your husband or wife does these 6 things, they're probably a bully at heart:
1. They blame you for things that aren't your fault
For example, when the dishwasher breaks, they immediately attack and assume you're to blame, saying, "What did you do to the dishwasher?" This is not the kind of behavior you would expect in a healthy relationship.
2. They talk to you like you are a child
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They make condescending and/or punitive comments to you, such as, "I want you to think more about..." or "You need to use better judgment about..." instead of addressing you as an equal. Every partnership should be 50/50; nobody wants to be talked down to.
3. They use an intimidating tone with others when asking for help
Let's say you're at a restaurant with your spouse, where their food is served too cold. In an attacking tone, they demand that the waiter take back their food as if the waiter had instructed the chef to ruin their meal.
They respond to others as if everyone is out to get them. Again, this is certainly not healthy behavior.
4. They tend to make fun of children or tease them under the guise of playing
Your husband or wife may think they are just playing with the neighborhood kids, but they make unsolicited comments like, "Hey, Billy, do you throw your ball like a boy or a girl?"
You can be sure that Billy won't be feeling too good about himself on his walk home.
5. They criticize your character and possibly even your children
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When expressing their frustrations, they don't say, "I'm so frustrated!" Instead, they exclaim, "What is wrong with you? Can't you do anything right?"
6. They suffer from lawyer syndrome
What is "lawyer syndrome" anyway? It's when someone gains an overly inflated sense of their own ego or believes that they can do no wrong.
This is commonly known as narcissistic personality disorder. Many bullies tend to fall into the narcissist category and believe they're smarter, more knowledgeable, or just plain better than everyone else at making decisions.
They will often suggest that you don't know what you're talking about or shoot down your ideas as dumb or invalid. Or, they may even make you feel like you are incapable of deciding on your own at all.
You are deserving of the best kind of love and relationship. Don't let a bully derail that or convince you otherwise.
Carin Goldstein has been a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist for over 10 years. She also writes about relationships and marriage and has shared her expertise in various magazines and websites such as Cosmopolitan, Women's Daily, and Redbook.
