Experts Reveal The 2 Behaviors Strong, Independent Women Should Never Tolerate In A Relationship

If their partners can't provide them what they deserve, these fierce women will leave.

Last updated on Jan 21, 2024

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Strong, independent women aren't born. They are made.

A strong woman is someone who has built her success. She has experienced things in life because she was willing to take risks and see the consequences. But there's nothing a strong woman loves more than to let her guard down when she's fallen in love.

However, there are certain things that no one, not even a strong woman, should tolerate in her relationships — no matter how confident she is in her ability to overcome them.




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Wondering what deal breakers are not worth your energy to overcome in your relationship?

Here are 2 behaviors strong, independent women never tolerate in a relationship, according to experts.

1. A strong, independent woman doesn't tolerate gaslighting by her partner.

“Most women, whose partner twists reality to suit his needs, question their own memories and perceptions first. Some get caught thinking that they must be the one with the problem because they assume their partner is as kind, and sane, as they are. So, they stay.


But strong, independent women know that making assumptions about someone else — even someone they love — will only cause them heartache. Instead of suffering, they choose to leave gaslighters in a flash.” —Dr. Karen Finn

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2. A strong, independent woman doesn't tolerate controlling language from her partner.

“Strong women empower themselves by being regularly self-reflective, catching up with themselves by focusing on their values, vision, beliefs, and purposes. They tolerate nothing less than honesty, safety, trust, respect, and reliability, leading to healthy mutuality in a relationship that demonstrates real love.

An independent, confident woman would never allow someone to tell her what she thinks, feels, needs, or wants — or, what she should think or feel. She immediately recognizes that as a violation of her boundaries... and she says so!” —Rhoberta Shaler, PhD.



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Most women, especially those who have earned their independence through hard work and sacrifice, don't tolerate less than they deserve.

There's a freedom to release control with someone you can trust. Because a part of being a strong woman is knowing when and where to exchange power, especially in relationships of the heart.

So, when a woman like this has fallen in love and she feels like her power is questioned, rather than assume it was on purpose, she might question herself. In fact, lots of strong women question power, and if she thinks hers is not only being questioned but sabotaged by the people she loves, she will make it known.

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Her inner strength recognizes hits to her self-esteem. She may give in for a time as she processes what's going on, but there are just things she won't let slide. Because her inner resilience and strength are what made her successful to begin with.

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Aria Gmitter is a senior editor for YourTango whose works have been featured on PopSugar, Psych Central, Prevention Magazine, Yahoo, Medium, and more.