Dating Coach Reveals What Some Women Do Online That Drives Men Crazy (In A Bad Way)

Men complain about women's dating profiles.

Last updated on Jun 18, 2024

Man annoyed, going crazy staring at computer screen bodnar.photo | Shutterstock, bgkovak | Canva
Advertisement

I’ve been helping men with online dating for years. You know, helping them avoid doing the things women can't stand for guys do online, and we all know there are plenty. Helping men for this long hasn’t come without seeing the other side of the ledger. Many women do some pretty annoying things online. I've taken inventory of some of the biggest complaints from my male clients when it comes to women online.

Advertisement

RELATED: 10 Online Dating Cheat Codes That Give You An Unfair Advantage

Here's what you do online that drives men crazy (in a bad way):

1. Your photos are all wrong

Queen of the Selfies (and face shots only): Selfie in the car, selfie at work, selfie here, selfie there, it makes no difference where when all he can see is your face. Your selfies might be perfectly posed, but a man is online to know more about yourself than just your selfie.

He looks at online dating profiles New Africa via Shutterstock

Advertisement

"This picture gets annoying when it’s all a guy has to go by to determine what you look like. Unless you are a magician and can plan to only have your face show up at your date, include other shots that show your actual body. It’s fair that we want to see what your full body looks like before messaging and meeting you. You are who you are, no point in trying to trick someone." PD

Queen of Instagram: Let’s be honest, Instagram is a cool app. We women have never looked so cool, nostalgic, or well-lit as we do on Instagram. But we don’t ever actually look like our Instagram. So unless you can provide a guy with a series of filters to look at you through on your dates, using your Instagram feed as your photo collection makes it hard to tell what you look like in the clear present.

"I just want to know what she looks like, not how good she is at using photo programs!" AE

Queen of the Weird Angles: "You always have your head positioned in such a way that men assume is how you perceive yourself as your most attractive, but we keep scrolling looking for a straight face shot." — JB

Advertisement

Pics with Your Friends: "Please don't use your picture with your friend as your first picture, I don’t know who to look at. Please don't only post pictures of you with friends. Please, if you post pictures with friends, always state which one you are. It's not always obvious. And if you post pictures with hot friends, expect attention to not be on you anymore. We can’t help it." DA

One Pic Only: "I don't understand how any woman can be online and only have one photo up. We all have picture phones. We all have computers. You can post more pics! I think girls like this are lying or scammers." ML

@thejaunt I can only speak from the guys perspective — It’s a grind but not hopeless #datingthings #hinge #datingapps #sigmagrindset ♬ original sound - TheJaunt

RELATED: If You Have These 3 Skills, You'll Rule The Online Dating World

Advertisement

2. Your profiles are a turn-off

Nothing in your profile to talk to you about: "I hate when women have nothing to talk about in their profiles. Or say 'Ask me whatever you want to know!' Bare profiles aren't cool. How am I supposed to know if I am interested? I don't want to guess. Lots of women have barren profiles, and then they will complain when a guy just says hi, or how are you? Look, do you want me to write you something creative? Give me something to make me interested. Otherwise, don’t expect much." KD

Lumped together with other men: "Look, I'm online and I'm a good guy. But I always come across profiles of women so mad at these guys online and all the awful things guys do/don't do and what they want/don’t want. I'm not these guys, and yet I feel like I'm getting lumped in with them and assumed that I'm awful before I even step to the plate. It's not fun to try to write these girls." WS

Man and woman with mobile devices, What are they doing online Pixel-Shot via Shutterstock

Advertisement

RELATED: Men Go Wild For Women With These Types Of Dating Photos

3. You're flat-out unfriendly

Responding when uninterested: "I hate when girls will respond to an email but never respond again. I know a lot of girls are doing it because they don't want to seem rude, but I’m a big boy; if you're not interested you can either say so, or just don't respond. I’ll contact someone else." BN

Expecting men to do all the work: "I hate having this feeling that I have to be the one to do everything. I have to find them, read all about them, come up with interesting things to ask about them, and make them feel like they stand out. Then I get to hope they respond, and then if they do, they often just respond with a sentence or a word. They don't ask me questions back. One-sided conversations aren't cool. Expecting men to do all the work — not cool. I thought we lived in a time when women can do anything a man can, so why do so many women still expect men to do everything when it comes to meeting?" RF

Not giving a chance to someone who is trying: "I’m a good guy, genuinely online to find someone to meet and have a future with. But I feel like I’m running a gauntlet where I don’t know what offense I'm going to commit on these women. Did I not write them wittily enough? Did I not fit their height range? Did I use the wrong use of 'there, their or they’re?' I know my photos kind of suck, but I'm a guy, I don’t ever take photos. I’m trying hard, but man, I’m just feeling like I’m always going to be falling short of whatever they expect Mr. Perfect to look like." CU

Advertisement

Not moving it offline: "I hate when I am messaging with a woman and we have some emails back and forth and I ask for a number and she drops off the planet. Why are you online if not to meet? This shouldn’t take months." MO

On the date: "Not looking like her pictures. Simple and not cool. Whether it’s a weight thing, age thing, or completely different hair, it’s not fair to advertise one thing and show up with another." RJ 

RELATED: Why All The Best Men Are On Dating Websites

Advertisement

Gina Stewart has a single-minded focus on getting people the dates they want. Her philosophy is dating can be hard, but meeting people shouldn't be.