Men Who Use Their Wives To Fulfill Their Own Obligations Usually Share 9 Super Dark Traits
Kamran Ahmed | Pexels The most overbearing people usually feel completely out of control on the inside. They often use other people as pawns because they don't have the empathy to consider how their actions affect others.
Even in close relationships, men who use their wives to fulfill their own obligations share some truly manipulative personality traits that are easy to spot once you know what they are.
Dark personality traits often seen in husbands who use their wives to fulfill their own obligations:
1. They're dishonest
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It takes a lot more effort to be dishonest than it does to be truthful, and yet, men who control and use their wives still lie constantly. Whether it's to hide their true intentions or gaslight their partners, they'll do whatever it takes to protect their own self-image.
They're not to be trusted, despite their charming demeanor and all the well-crafted excuses they rely on to cover their tracks.
2. They're weirdly overprotective
Truly manipulative men aren't healthily protective of the person they love. They're controlling and try to protect themselves from needing to explain their misbehavior to others.
That's why manipulative people isolate their victims. It's easier to take advantage of a vulnerable person than it is someone with a huge social support network.
While it might start as odd boundaries and strangely overprotective, jealous comments around other people, at some point, controlling men completely alter relationships and other people's well-being.
3. They're unpredictable
Being an unpredictable person or not having a great grasp on your emotions doesn't make you an inherently bad person. But many narcissistic, manipulative men are unpredictable because their actions and moods are dependent on everyone else.
They expect people to bow to their every need without question. When they face pushback or someone else's boundaries, they're angry and defensive. They want free rein to use the people in their life however they want.
4. They don't take accountability
Whether they hurt someone they loved on purpose or not, manipulative men never apologize. They use people for their own advantage, so they're not going to take accountability for something to soothe another person's pain.
Everything they do is transactional, especially if it seems kind and empathetic on the surface. If they're not personally benefiting, they won't ever do it out of the kindness of their hearts.
5. They weaponize their love
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When expressing affection and showing up helps their self-image or manipulates someone into lowering their emotional walls, a toxic man will do it. But it's not because they care about someone and have unconditional love for them. Actually, it's because they're looking out for themselves.
For partners with dark triad personality traits, specifically weaponizing affection and touch, it's how they manipulate their spouses. They're willing to play into a facade for their own good.
6. They feel entitled to everything
On top of overstepping boundaries and disrespecting someone's privacy, toxic men who use their wives to fulfill their own obligations also often feel entitled to their partners' time and energy. Despite expecting people to sweep issues under the rug and respect their time, they want access to everyone and everything.
Not only does this skew power dynamics in a relationship, but it also creates a sense of anxiety where one partner feels dependent on the other for permission and autonomy.
7. They're always the victim
When it suits them, controlling men play the victim. Nothing is ever their fault when it's too uncomfortable for them to take accountability.
Their partner is always doing something to intentionally blame them. They don't know how to do something when they're too lazy to put in the effort. Depending on the story of the day, they'll control the narrative.
Yes, this places a huge emotional burden on other people, especially a spouse, but it also gaslights everyone into believing they don't have the space to stand up for themselves without being attacked.
8. They're aggressive about strange things
When they don't get their way or feel attacked when someone sets a boundary, controlling men get aggressive. Sometimes, this means calling names and criticizing their partner. Other times, it's silent treatment and avoidance.
Regardless of how it shows up, it's clear that they're not interested in creating space to support anyone else. Most of the time, they're too caught up in meeting their own needs that small requests for affection and appreciation anger them.
9. They're overly critical
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When someone feels uncertain and unhappy in themselves, they take out those feelings on others. For these kinds of men, bringing other people down to their level makes them feel better.
But just because they can control someone else, it doesn't mean they're getting any better at controlling themselves. Especially in close relationships where this control comes at the expense of trust and connection, nobody wins.
Zayda Slabbekoorn is a senior editorial strategist with a bachelor's degree in social relations & policy and gender studies who focuses on psychology, relationships, self-help, and human interest stories.
