If A Couple Truly Loves Each Other From The Core Of Their Being, They WIll Do These 6 Things On A Regular Basis
From shared laughter to laidback comfort, these are the markers of real love.
Seljan Salimova | Unsplash The most extraordinary love stories aren't built on passion alone. True love that reaches the depths of two souls creates its own rhythm of connection, care, and celebration that becomes woven into the fabric of everyday life.
When love reaches the center of who we are, it naturally manifests itself through regular behaviors that strengthen the bond between two people and create the kind of partnership that enhances every aspect of life. These aren't obligations but joyful expressions of a love too deep to contain.
If a couple truly loves each other from the core of their being, they will do these 6 things on a regular basis:
1. Work through conflict rather than withdraw
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It's not a good sign if you bicker nonstop. But, when you engage in an argument, you can each recover — and are more open to the other's needs — you're in good shape to say "I do," according to our experts.
"Couples often struggle when their partner goes into a more primitive fight-or-flight response," describes David Klow, a marriage and family therapist. "If your partner knows how to stay open and present, rather than shut down, then you have a good chance of making it through tough times. At the very least, if he or she knows how to call a time-out and return later to the conversation, then that is a very good sign."
2. Make each other laugh
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As they say, laughter is the best medicine. And as it turns out, tickling your partner's funny bone can be the healing a healthy relationship needs — and a sure sign you're ready to tie the knot.
"It's not just about having fun," describes Roudabeh Rahbar, PsyD, a licensed clinical psychologist. "Laughter in a relationship is a sign that both people can be vulnerable with one another.
If your partner can make fun of himself, that is a huge plus because it's indicative of a person who can truly be vulnerable and has confidence."
3. Ride out the rough patches
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Any relationship can appear on the road to marriage when it's fresh, shiny, and new. In these conditions, says Los Angeles-based relationship expert Rhonda Richards-Smith, "it may appear as though your relationship is ideal. But it is often through personal challenges, heartache, and disappointment that we see what our romantic relationships are made of."
So if you've stayed together through a tough time and still have a positive outlook, you've been given a sign you're with someone you could marry. "Give yourself some time to allow the relationship to withstand some of life's tests before taking the next step," Richards-Smith recommends.
4. Be themselves around each other
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When our experts say you should feel comfortable with anyone you might see as a future spouse, they don't mean you can wear your sweatpants in front of him or her.
"When someone is fully comfortable with his or her romantic partner, he or she feels safe, honored, and respected," explains Janelle Alex, Ph.D., and couples counselor. And with that kind of comfortable transparency, she says, "A person can follow his or her dreams knowing his or her lover will be there.
Even more exciting is the fact that his or her romantic partner in life will be willing to explore their intimate play in the bedroom together without judgment, but while sharing laughter and excitement."
5. Make decisions considering each other's needs and dreams
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When two people love each other, decision-making goes from individual choice-making into a collaborative process between both partners. This doesn't mean every decision requires lengthy discussion.
However, it does mean that significant choices are approached with genuine care for how the outcome will affect both people's well-being and future aspirations. The result is a partnership where both people feel seen and valued, knowing that their happiness and personal fulfillment are always taken into account in every important choice.
6. Align on life goals
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It's a sure sign you shouldn't marry someone if he or she wants different things in life than you do. But if your goals are aligned, our experts say, you may be with someone to whom you could tie the knot.
"Two people can date without having the same life vision, but marriage is a completely different story," says Colin Christopher, clinical hypnotherapist.
"Does your partner want kids? How many? How does he or she view money? Are you ready to settle down, and he or she is still into the party scene? Having life goals that align with one another makes it more likely that your marriage will succeed."
Jillian Kramer is an award-winning storyteller. She's been featured in Food and Wine, Glamour, SELF, Brides, and Women's Health Magazine.
