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How To Lose A Guy In 10 Minutes — A Relationship Coach Reveals The 5 Reasons Women Lose Good Men

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There are things about women that turn us guys on. Lots and lots of things.

And, no, they don't all have to do with revealing outfits and sexy selfies. There are just many things about women that men like, and some things we aren't quite sold on.

We know that women aren't perfect, and that's fine because we're not perfect either ... unless we are a hybrid of Robert Pattinson, LeBron James and the Dalai Lama. Still, some personality traits make men pull away faster than others.

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Using the bathroom with the door open, wearing old sweat pants around the house, face cream, and your retainer, and telling us about your menstrual cycle, aren't exactly things that turn us on — but they aren't going to repel good men, either.

That said, there are some habits and qualities that really do make men lose interest, and fast. 

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The five biggest reasons women lose the men they love, according to a relationship expert: 

1. Her interests are limited

Men like to know that women are into them. It gives us an ego boost to know that we are your priority. But we don't want to be your only priority.

We like women who have other things going on.

This can be a hobby, a job or meeting a group of friends for happy hour. It just needs to be something.

When we are the only thing going on in your life, it can generate too much pressure and leave far too little space for us to breathe. 

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2. She hides her feminine side too often

Women who are "just one of the guys" are great. We love that you are into football, dirty jokes, and watching all the Godfather movies in a row.

But we're not necessarily looking for another buddy. We love the side of you that spends a lot of time in the bathroom taking great care to get your hair just right; the part that asks us to go investigate that loud noise in the basement; and when you dress up in makeup and a black dress for a night out on the town.

It's pretty simple, really: We like it when you show off your feminine side. It's a real turn-on.

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3. The dirty talk crosses a line

Talking dirty in bed is generally a good thing. You typically turn us on with anything. Yet, when talking dirty becomes too self-deprecating (or just plain weird), it can be a huge turn-off.

Referring to yourself as "daddy's little girl" or "a dirty sl*t" or "a little baby who has lost her way" can make us feel a little bit gross. So, while talking dirty is a good thing, crossing the line from dirty to creepy isn't.

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4. She's too focused on the future

There's a big secret out there that not many women know about: a lot of men also want to get married and have children. The thing is, though, we don't want to do it before we get to know you and fall in love.

We might not even want to think about weddings and baby wipes. Not just yet.

It's because of this that fast-forwarding into the future can be a turn-off. It's not like we never want to talk about the white picket fence and the 2.5 kids.

We just don't want to do it on a first, second, or third date.

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5. She assumes all men are the same

You don't want us to assume that you are just like our ex-girlfriends — the ones who shredded our favorite workout clothes, spread outlandish rumors about us, or posted rude social media statuses.

Since you wouldn't want us to assume you are like other girls, don't assume we are like other guys.

Letting one bad experience influence your feelings toward all men will chase us away. Give us a clean slate — chances are, we also think your ex-boyfriend sounds like a total jerk.

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Michael Griswold is a romantic relationship coach based in Denver, Colorado who helps men and women heal broken hearts and find love again. 

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