Love, Heartbreak

Right Person Wrong Time?


This scenario has probably happened to most people at one point in their lives. How many times do we hear of couples reuniting at a high school reunion 10-20 years later? That lost love that got away because the timing wasn’t right.

Is it really bad timing or is it really just the wrong person? How Do We Know?

When love is wonderful, it doesn’t have to be difficult. It just feels right and the adjustments are not obstacles but reciprocated compromises. There are definitely obstacles in our younger years such as career focus or University. Meeting someone at that stage in your life is not always meant to be forever. (Although many college sweethearts have had successful long term relationships) The experiences of our youth are there to help set us on a path to make wise choices for the future. Or so we hope…We all make choices for what we think is the better road but as we have seen too often, this isn’t always the case & we spend years second guessing our decisions.

~ Are we just too immature to see what we have at the time? It is not uncommon for the “love of your life” to appear in your teens ~

Timing is everything and sometimes we don’t pay attention to what is obvious and right in front of us. How many people have let the right person get away due to other priorities & then choose the wrong person later on out of desperation? Age can play an important factor in your choices. Especially if you are an older woman and your biological clock is ticking like a time bomb. Some women will forfeit love to get pregnant at that stage. Dating checklists can also be relationship killers due to the picky or shallow demands some people prioritize.

“Sometimes we don’t know they are the right person until they are gone from our lives.”

Many people who remain single until their late 30’s can often settle with a partner just so they are not alone as they get older. Everyone needs to remind themselves that they all have great qualities & everyone has flaws ~ No one is immune to this. Try not to be too picky but don’t ever settle for someone. This isn’t fair to you or your partner. Companionship is a wonderful thing but don’t sell yourself short of also having a loving & sexually fulfilling relationship.

If you do feel like you are repeating a pattern due to your unreasonable checklists, it could be your own commitment issues sabotaging any potential relationship. Put yourself around friends that have a healthy relationship. Being in that environment could help alleviate the fear by seeing how wonderful a great relationship can be.

Do you often feel that you let that great person get away?

Have you spent years pining over someone who you thought was the “right person who got away” only to see them again & apart from a physical attraction, there really wasn’t much else? Ask yourself why you spent so much time over this fantasy. Was it something you dreamed up & wanted to hold on to because nothing else ever came close? Or was it the biggest mistake of your life & you know that in your heart? It is never too late to act upon these feelings. Knowing when it is purely a physical lust or true love is the answer to your question. They could be feeling exactly the same way about you! Believe that timing is everything because when “you” both are ready you will allow that “right” person in regardless of how much time has passed. ~Love has no curfew~

Susan McCord @

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