How To Give A Man The Best Hand Job Of His Life In 6 Steps

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I want to explain the best tips on how to give a handjob that's not just the right way, but the perfect way to go about it.

Thankfully, brushing up on foreplay techniques and ideas to try isn't rocket science, and it's practically a guaranteed avenue to have better, more exciting sex with your boyfriend, husband, or partner.

If you concentrate on just getting even a few of the following moves right, and your man will be in heaven when you put your hands on his penis — and you won't have to feel awkward about it at all.

To know how to give a hand job, you first need to understand that each penis is its own.

I know that sounds a bit odd, but it's true. There are different penis shapes, sizes, and colors, each with its own preferences and reactions to certain techniques.

You could be performing on circumcised penises or uncircumcised penises

It's good to know this information because it can interfere with sensitivity. The best thing to do is play around and see what works and what doesn't.

Here are the best tips for how to give a great hand job to a man every single time.

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1. Start with hand job foreplay.

Rather than just grabbing his penis and giving him a hand job as fast as you can, you'll find that it's way hotter to slowly build up to it with what I like to call "hand job foreplay."

Start by kissing him like you normally would. While kissing him, slowly lower your hand toward his crotch outside his clothes. Slowly brush past his groin area and start to softly rub the inside of his thigh.

After doing this for about a minute, slowly move your hand over his penis while still outside his clothes, and start to gently grab and massage his penis.

At this stage, you should hear him starting to groan and sigh.

Now, it's time to slowly unbutton his pants and slip your hand inside his underwear to slowly hold grab hold of his penis. But there's no need to speed up just yet. Do everything very slowly and sensually so that you give your man time to enjoy each and every one of your touches.

If you're not getting too caught up in the heat of the moment, then you can make hand job foreplay last for up to 10 minutes.

Pro Tip: Use eye contact.

2. Switch it up: Use both hands while giving the hand job.

Many women never properly learn how to give a good handjob and as a result, they end up only using one technique. This is what I call "The Claw," where you simply grab him and keep tugging it up and down, non-stop, at the same speed until he orgasms without ever changing your grip.

This isn't absolutely terrible, but it is quite boring (and often very tiring).

A very easy way to change things up when jerking him off is to alternate between using one hand and using two hands on him. When you do this, you'll be able to stimulate both his shaft and the top of his penis. You'll also find that he thoroughly enjoys it when you switch between hands while giving him a hand job.

Pro hand technique: Wrap two hands around him!

3. Know how to play with his testicles.

It goes without saying that your man's testicles are incredibly sensitive. In fact, they are the last place your man ever wants to get hit, because they are so sensitive. The good thing is that you can exploit this sensitivity when giving him a hand job.

Midway through your hand job, give your hand a rest and slowly slide your fingers down toward his testicles. Now, start to slowly and softly fondle them between your fingers. You can also cup them in your hand and gently squeeze them, too.

As you move back up toward his penis, use your nails to scratch his testicles, but make sure to do so with a minimal amount of pressure.

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4. Touch the head of his penis.

The most sensitive part of your man's penis is ... the top! It's where you'll find the highest concentration of nerve endings on his entire body. So, giving the top of his penis lots of attention is a high priority.

The easiest way to focus your hand job on the top of his penis is to make an "O" shape with your index finger and thumb and put it over his penis. Then just slowly move it up and down about an inch or so. You really don't need to move it that much, just enough to stimulate the top.

5. Don't ignore the frenulum.

For a lot of guys, another highly sensitive part is a tiny patch called the frenulum. The frenulum is on the underside of his penis. It is the piece of flesh that joins with the shaft on the underside. Just lightly running one finger over the frenulum is incredibly stimulating for your man.

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The best way to rub his frenulum is to take a break from using one of my other hand job techniques on his shaft and just spend 20 to 30 seconds rubbing his frenulum with a minimum amount of pressure before switching back.

6. Use soft strokes while he orgasms.

When you first start learning how to give your man a hand job, you may feel like speeding up as he starts to orgasm. The funny thing is that he will prefer it if you actually slow down and release the pressure as he is reaching orgasm.

You see, when he reaches orgasm, he will become incredibly sensitive to touch to the point where it actually feels painful for him when you touch it.

What do I do if I run out of spit?

It's normal for spit, which causes the slippery sensation that makes stroking feel good, to dry up pretty fast.

Lube is a great substitute for spit. Drizzle some on his penis and away you go to pleasure town!

How do I know if I should keep going?

This question is best answered with, "how is your partner responding?" That is, look at how he is communicating with you, such as his facial expressions and body language.

Ask yourself these questions: 

"Is he still moaning and tensing?" Keep going.

"Or does he look bored?" Give up.

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Sean Jameson is a sex expert and founder of the Bad Girl's Bible website, where you can learn advanced techniques to improve your sex life.