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20 Of The Best Date Ideas That Will Help New Couples Get To Know Each Other Better

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So, you made it past the first few dates! Now what?

How you go about getting to know this new person depends on what your purpose is in dating. The kind of person you want to just have fun with or have sex with may be very different from the kind of person who you want to have as a committed life partner and have a child with.

Once you’ve gone out for a few dates, such as coffee or brunch, dinner, and a movie, try some new things and see how you click in real life. You see people differently when you are going roller skating or singing karaoke versus sitting at a table while eating dinner and talking.

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Fun date ideas can meet one or more of the following criteria:

  • It’s fun. You laugh and relax.
  • It gives you the opportunity to hang out and have different conversations. A movie may not be the best thing to do since you are not interacting during the movie, although it does give you a shared experience to discuss after the movie.
  • It allows one of you to share something you enjoy with the other.
  • It’s something one or both of you haven’t done so there is an opportunity to see how they operate outside their comfort zone.
  • It involves physical activity.
  • It lets you see how they interact with other in different situations.
  • It shows you their emotional maturity.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of, recognize, and manage your emotions and the emotions of others to create effective relationships. You may not value this when you are younger but it is difficult to navigate relationships and life with someone who lacks emotional maturity and concern for others.

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Here are 20 fun date ideas that will help you two get to know each other better:  

  1. Start your date with coffee at the bookstore while you explore books you each enjoy and share your passions — for books, of course!
  2. Take a walk or bike ride in the park and enjoy being outside — and maybe get ice cream!
  3. Visit the botanical gardens and learn about flowers together.
  4. Go to the zoo and feed the animals.
  5. Go roller skating or ice skating — or both!
  6. Play Ping pong, tennis, or racquetball
  7. Shopping at farmer’s market and cook a meal together.
  8. Take a class together — cooking or painting (including ones where you can drink wine) or pottery. Try a lot of things!
  9. Work out together at the gym if you both exercise.
  10. Go on a hike.
  11. Go horseback riding.
  12. Try indoor skydiving or wall climbing.
  13. If you live in driving distance of slopes, go skiing.
  14. Go on a double date with friends (either yours or his) for a game night.
  15. Go to a concert or musical performance such as indie band, opera, indie band, jazz trio, or a rock concert — something one or both of you enjoy or something either of you is not familiar with — in which case, get recommendations from friends.
  16. Sing karaoke
  17. Go to an outdoor concert or movie and have a picnic — or just have a picnic.
  18. Go to a comedy club.
  19. Attend a Meetup group you are both interested in attending.
  20. Meditate together or with a group — silently or listening to a guided meditation — and share your experiences.

What ideas would you add to this list? What new experiences and adventures can you create as an easy way to get to know someone better without having to ask 20 questions?

Dating is a way to explore if a person is someone you want to get to know better based on shared values, character, skills for navigating life and relationships, and emotional intelligence with the possibility of a committed relationship. 

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Marilyn Sutherland is a Relationship Empowerment Coach at Your Journey to Lasting Love. If you are inspired about being yourself and being more aware of how you show up with men, whether you are single or in a committed relationship, reach out to her to request a Breakthrough Discovery Session.

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