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10 Tips To Reclaim Feminine Energy When You Have To Be "The Man"

Many single women find themselves taking on masculine characteristics to survive. Some male-dominated job atmospheres require women to dress in suits or uniforms that often hide their feminine side. This clothing code may be a practical situation such as a medical field and law enforcement or simply a method of conforming to the masculine atmosphere. Some women even find themselves talking in a deeper, huskier voice and their body movements and postures take on a masculine flair.

Single mothers often find themselves working by day, performing difficult home maintenance on evenings and weekends, managing the finances, and making challenging decisions alone. These mothers may also be filling the father role of rule setting and discipline. The partnership that had previously divided parenting tasks may be suddenly all on the mother's shoulders.

Over time of working in a male dominated environment or of learning to do things at home that are generally considered the man's job, a woman can gradually lose her softness and her sexiness. The ability for her to flip a switch from her masculine survival mode to a sensual woman sometimes diminishes. In extreme examples, some women have lost touch with their feminine sides to the point that they don't even realize what they left behind. Instead, they simply feel a vague sense of loss or an inability to attract a new relationship. If you are a woman and suspect that your feminine energy needs invigoration, here are 10 tips to embrace the feminine side of you.

1. Shop for some new clothes and wear some light make-up
Men tend to be visual and love to see a woman who enjoys wearing clothing that shows off her curves and highlights her assets. Baggy, ill fit clothing or clothes that do not show much skin are not as attractive to men. Choose a v-neck instead of a turtleneck sweater for example. A touch of make-up, especially some lip stick and a big, bright smile can melt a man’s heart.

2. Remember how to flirt and be playful
If your life has had to be serious to survive, you may need to remember how to flirt and soften the way you speak. Throw in a light laugh or even giggle. Laughter makes life more enjoyable so go to a comedy show, watch a funny TV program or movie and get your funny bone back.

3. Lighten your load and open up space
Get help around the house from a friend, neighbor or handyman. Simplify and declutter your life. Let go of things and responsibilities that no longer serve you or feel like a burden. Stop trying to do it all and stretching yourself thin. Focus on a few priorities and your strengths and give up or hire out the rest. This will open space in your life and energetically take some weight off your shoulders.

4. Schedule an evening out with girl friends and dress up
Have an agreement that everyone in the group will wear an outfit that they look and feel great in and then go to a new, hip place for a girl's night out. Select women that will embrace the spirit of having a spectacular night of fun.

5. Buy and wear some sexy lingerie
Knowing you are wearing attractive undergarments at work can remind you that you still have a feminine touch. Throw out the ugly underwear and buy bras and panties that make you look great.

6. Go dancing or take a dance class
Dancing is fun and moving your body around to music can bring back a feeling of youth, freedom and fun. Zumba classes can be really great ways to remember how to wiggle your hips and shimmy.

7. Give back to yourself with some self-care practices 
If you are the type that gives to others first and yourself last, it is time to take care of you. Schedule some pampering activities such as a massage, manicure, pedicure, facial or spa day. Create a candle lit bubble bath. Make time for self-care regularly. If you don't take care of yourself, it will be hard to keep your health and vitality.

8. Read a romantic novel 
Perhaps read Fifty Shades of Grey or some other story with a bit of romance. Whatever it is, read something that carries you away in your imagination. If you are more of a movie person, watch a romantic film and TV show. 

9. Take a day off or plan a vacation 
If you work long and hard and rarely treat yourself to time off, do it. Life is short and everyone needs a break. Plan a get-away to a place that will re-charge your batteries and re-invigorate your energy. Make these breaks a regular practice to eliminate burnout and excessive fatigue.

10. Practice yoga or some form of exercise that feeds your soul 
Find a form of physical exercise that feels good to you, adds to your health and soothes the stresses of life. Everyone needs an outlet to let go of tension and also be fit. Integrate this practice or exercise into each week.

Hopefully some of these tips will find their way into your routine and your habits. It is possible to feel like a woman and bring some "sexy” back into your life if it has slipped away for whatever reason. The most important thing to do to feel better is to have some fun. Find a way that brings fun back into you life consistently, and most everything starts to improve in your life.

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