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5 Kinky (But Not Scary) Sex Positions Everyone Should Try

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5 Best Kinky (But Not Scary) Sex Positions For Men & Women To Try
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No whips and chains ... just a little light kink.

If you've been looking for some ideas of spicy, sexy new things to try in the bedroom, you should know that not all kinky sex ideas have to be scary or wild.

Sexy bedroom "spank and tickle" play is even more fun when you’re in these kinky sex positions.

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Here the five best sex positions for men and women who want try something new and kinky, but also maybe not so much ... yet.

1. Up against a wall

This one is a classic and you don’t have to do the whole hoisted-in-the-air thing to make it hot.

Simply being pushed up against the wall and keeping both feet on the ground can have a powerful effect. Using body pressure to stay firm up against the wall will likely make you both feel deliciously illicit.

Add some good hair gripping and it will be one of the most intense sex positions in your repertoire.

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2. Woman bent over the bed with her top half under the blanket

This one is an easy and fun sex position for a couple of reasons.

If it’s cold outside she can stay warm under the blanket and he can stand behind her, next to the bed. My experience (and what I’ve heard from the couples I coach) is that contradictory temperature needs can make hot and heavy sex literally hot and heavy.

Staying under the covers also makes for some fantastic sensory deprivation. It’s dark under there and just a little bit hard to breathe without being dangerous. It’s particularly good for those that have a hard time getting out of their head during sex.

3. Man lying on his back, woman kneeling over his face

This is a very dominant sex position for oral sex, with the woman really taking control. She can raise herself or lower herself over his mouth to direct the exact stimulation she’s looking for.

If balance is an issue, she can use a wall to lean against and if he’s having a hard time breathing (a little more fun safety breath play!) he can just tap her shoulder to communicate needing a break.

You can also try mutual masturbation. Lying next to each other or facing each other will allow both of you to see and feeling what is likely done during solo time.

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4. Lights on

Or, at the very least, drape a flame-resistant scarf over the lamps or maybe burn some candles as long as they’re put somewhere safe.

Experience looking at each other while you’re being sexual, watch how you touch yourselves and you’ll get better at touching each other.

5. Over the knee!

This one is kind of pre-sex position, but it still definitely counts as kinky and sexy.

Being over your partner's knee is a slightly vulnerable position, but sometimes sexual vulnerabilities are a real turn on, for both of you.

Over the knee is one of the best sex positions for manual stimulation, reaching underneath the bent over body for a naughty rub, and it’s great for a soft (or hard) spanking (ooooh ... kinky!)

So give one or more of these kinky sex positions a try to mix things up and keep sex exciting!

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Kali Williams is a sex educator who has lectured at Harvard, RISD, and Brown University, and other institutions and organizations the world over. Having devoted herself to sexual education for adults, she's the founder of Kink Academy, Passionate U and Fearless Press, which explores all aspects of the BDSM community, from everyday life to relationships to spirituality and personal style.

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