How To Stop Obsessively Thinking About Your Ex

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If you've ever been in a failed relationship but can't stop thinking about the other person, then you need to know that you're not alone.

Learning how to stop thinking about your ex — plus the realization that a relationship has ended or has no chance — can bring about a sadness that can last a long time.

Metaphysically speaking, this type of sadness is a kind of grief cycle that must be addressed.

These kinds of obsessive breakups are similar to addictions.

Developing a plan to get your thoughts away from a person is akin to recovering from an addiction.

Addictions are life-altering conditions that prevent you from enjoying the life you desire. The issue may affect your everyday activities and can prevent you from living a normal life.

They can affect other relationships and stifle your growth as a person.

Obtaining relief from this situation becomes necessary, but it's not easy. It takes effort on your part and it can appear impossible at times.

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Here are 12 healing practices to help you stop thinking about your ex and move on from your obsession.

1. Recognize the problem.

Recognition that the problem exists and making a commitment to release your thoughts about the other person.

2. Be grateful.

Be grateful for the euphoria that the feelings have given you, but realize they are not shared by the other person and that they are false.

Respect the reasons why you were attracted to the person who is the object of your affections and understand they are serving you.

3. Seek help.

You should be willing to seek help through counseling for finding an outlet to talk about your feelings if you are overwhelmed.

Journaling is a positive activity to help you discover the way the other person made you feel. This activity can help you discover the root issues surrounding your attraction.

4. Change your thoughts to something else.

Obsessive thinking should be a signal to change your thoughts to another subject. This is where your coping skills and a list of other activities can assist you in changing your thoughts.

You can ride your bike, go for a walk, read a book, watch a movie, go to a restaurant, or call a friend. These are all actions that can be helpful to you.

4. Create new activities to participate in.

This includes new hobbies that bring you joy.

5. Maintain healthy habits and stay away from negative behaviors.

It is smart to avoid alcohol, drugs, and risky behaviors. Being responsible, exercising, following a routine, practicing healthy eating habits, and considering adopting a pet are all smart choices.

6. Reconnect with old friends and make new connections.

Socializing with friends and potential people you can date is helpful.

7. Take a look at your inner-self.

Rediscover your passions and visualize releasing the person of your affections.

A close inspection of your inner self is helpful.

8. Learn to meditate.

Meditate and pray that your thoughts will not consume you and that you can let them go.

9. Create new goals.

Set attainable goals by implementing new behaviors that work for you.

10. Know what you deserve.

Acknowledge that you deserve to be loved and memorialize the relationship that failed.

11. Accept your situation.

Give yourself time to navigate through the issues that are associated with your obsession.

12. Nurture yourself.

Relationships need to be nurtured and develop over time.

When you don't have a partner or the relationship you want, you must nurture yourself and create a new environment allowing new possibilities to come to you.

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Affirmations are another practice that you can engage in to help you overcome your addiction to another person.

These affirmations can help when your thoughts and feelings stray into an area where they become destructive.

Here are a few that may be helpful:

"I deserve to live a good life."

"I want to recover from my obsession."

"I can move on from this situation."

"I am strong enough to heal."

"I can live independently from destructive thoughts."

"I will overcome my preoccupation with this person."

"I am not trapped by my thoughts about someone else."

'I am not mentally ill or impaired by this situation."

"I am open to new possibilities."

"I can let go of the past."

"I look forward to the future."

"I am resolved to not allow this type of problem to happen again."

Virtues are an essential part of healing.

Without the positive energy of virtues, negativity cannot be removed. These 12 practices for healing and affirmations use virtues because they are positive activities.

Additional virtues should be a part of your healing process, including caring, contentment, discretion, forgiveness, idealism, gentleness, kindness, tranquility, mercy, and sobriety.

The love and self-care you give yourself while healing is essential. Learning to be content without the person will bring you peace.

The discretion you use by not allowing yourself to be overwhelmed by your thoughts indicates progress.

Forgiving the person who is no longer in your life and yourself for allowing an obsession to play such a large part of your life.

Idealism is visualizing a life free of negativity and creating an environment where you can live a positive life. Gentleness is the ability to move forward without guilt or regret.

Being kind to yourself realizing that you are human and wanting love in your life is normal. Tranquility in life may not be easily obtained but striving for it is a noble goal.

Mercy is about knowing you deserve to overcome this issue and being compassionate to yourself.

Sobriety, in this case, means staying away from your obsession and being at peace. Detachment and defiance are a couple of other virtues you can use to help you conquer this type of addiction.

Virtues are at your disposal and available whenever you decide or feel ready to use them.

When a relationship ends, it can be difficult to rid yourself of thoughts for another person.

It's OK because there's light at the end of the tunnel if you are willing to the necessary work to end your obsession.

Metaphysics offers a different perspective that parallels empirical or scientific approaches.

Practicing positive behaviors, affirmations, and virtues is part of the healing process. They work together and independently of each other for an ultimate solution.

Virtue is the most powerful of the techniques that are available to you, but it remains up to you to use them for your highest good.

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John Cappello is a psychic medium who is the author of the book, Open the Mind Heal the Heart. For more information or to book a reading go to his website.

This article was originally published at John Cappello's Blog and Facebook Page. Reprinted with permission from the author.