How Humility Benefits Us, Even In Times Of Adversity

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It is human nature to have issues and conflicts, but it is the manner you handle them that can make a difference in resolving problems.

Self-examination can be key in determining whether your actions were inappropriate or not when you have been involved in a dispute. Sometimes, you may realize that an action you have taken was wrong and you need humility to settle a situation positively.

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Humility is necessary to build character and consciousness.

Humility requires the effort to act privately and not draw attention to yourself. It may require a cathartic moment in a person’s life to change behavior and grow from an action taken that caused harm.

This virtue is character-building when a self-inspection has brought about a reversal of behavior. It creates remorse, which is a change in consciousness.

Taking responsibility for your actions is the first step to humility.

Whether your actions were intentional or not, the realization that an action you took created a problem is the first step in curing or making the best of a situation.

The idea of restitution, in extreme cases, may be one of the areas that need to be addressed to solve a problem you created. It may be necessary for this effort to be in private.

Depending on the situation, a public pronouncement of restitution could be viewed as making a problem worse. So, you must be careful before this is done.

Always apologize.

An apology or a request to ask for forgiveness may be all that is needed, but this needs to be done with care, as well. A strategy of discretion to make amends may be necessary, especially when direct contact with a person or situation is not possible.

The best approach could include indirect contact through sending a gift or card, asking for a third party to intervene, or just allowing a wronged party some space and time.

Be sincere.

The act of humility must be accompanied with sincerity, because a superficial use of this virtue will make matters worse in the short and long term.

Forgiveness is easier to give to you if humility and sincerity are involved. Your relationship may change regardless of being forgiven, but you have made a mature and wholesome effort to express your regret for your actions.

The realization of being wrong can create a cycle of grief.

You may be shocked about your actions and suffer some embarrassment from them. The other stages of grief will present themselves over time, which include:

  • Anger
  • Bargaining
  • Depression
  • Acceptance

It is in the acceptance phase that the decision to be humble may come.

Healing from grief involves some humility.

It is a sort of “deep dive” into your character and an inspection of all your behaviors towards others. Humility is a healthy practice that will assist you in your future activities, because you realize that you must change to become a better person.

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Humility heals your soul.

It's the use of humility that allows you to heal your soul from trauma and accept the responsibility for creating the circumstance.

The soul needs private time to repair itself and learn from the experience. It is an unconscious healing that will make a significant difference for you in the future.

The internal review that humility facilitates will be a spiritual and growth experience. This growth will assist you in realizing your image with others and temper your behavior.

In addition, it will help you understand other perspectives of people regarding issues common to the two of you.

Embracing humility is noble.

A review of your behavior is an indication of your self-worth. It indicates that you want to be a better person and that you value others.

Your attempt to be humble and make a situation better after you have done something wrong is noble — even though it can be hard to do.

Forgiveness is the other party's decision.

When you exhibit humility as a tool to end or resolve a problem, it becomes the choice of the aggrieved party to forgive or not forgive.

Forgiveness is possible with the use of humility. But if you aren't forgiven, then you have the knowledge that you did the best you could with sincerity to make amends.

Your apology may not end the problem completely, but you can be at peace knowing that your effort was genuine.

Today, we do not see humility in its proper context.

It's often viewed as being a sign of weakness, because apologies can be frowned upon. There is a sense of not being sure of oneself if there is a willingness to apologize.

No one is perfect, and you're not the first person who's made a mistake. It is, however, the manner in handling your mistakes that is key to finding a resolution for the problem.

Restitution, apologies, and changes in your behavior assist you in making better decisions in the future. You cannot change the past, but your reaction to it can make you a better person and more careful when you're in a conflict or problem that wasn't under your control.

Remorse is a good reaction, because it is a recognition of a wrong that needs to be recognized and changed. It is a sense of taking responsibility and a desire to seek healing.

Humility is a sign of strength.

The act of humility after doing something wrong is not a weakness. It is a strength.

Humility is a virtue that creates growth, depth of character, and trust. People who exhibit humility, are among the wisest of individuals, because they can see the “big picture” in life and are not ashamed to be flexible when necessary.

When you realize you have done something wrong and you value your relationships, humility and sincerity are a must if you want to create peace and forgiveness. A genuine effort will be recognized by others and seen as a positive outcome from a problem.

If your actions are welcomed by an aggrieved party, then you can repair a problem. If they aren't, you have the satisfaction of knowing you tried.

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John Cappello is an astrologer and practicing psychic medium. For more information or to arrange an appointment please go to his website.