Will You Find Love In 2021? Here's How To Make It Happen!

Improve your chances of love in the New Year.

By John Cappello — Written on Dec 17, 2020

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If you've been asking yourself, "Will I find love?," know that it's a normal question, especially if you feel a lack of affection or companionship in your life.

Learning how to find love, however, is not so simple. There are many factors to consider before welcoming a new partner or lover into your life.

Love is everywhere, if you're open to it.

If you want to know how to find love in the New Year, here are 3 areas you need to proactively consider.

1. Self-examination.

The first step to a healthy relationship is knowing and accepting who you are as a person. Valuing yourself is a quality that will attract positive people to you.

Think about your likes and dislikes, lifestyle, attitudes on various issues, your aspirations, and goals in life. These considerations will help you discover the type of person you want in your life.

Seeking a partner who shares your beliefs and core values is helpful, because you will be able to bond with someone who has a common perspective.

However, your willingness to learn about others is another good quality to have when seeking companionship. Sometimes, an open-minded partner who doesn't share your perspective may be best for you, if you're also as open-minded as they are.

Your self-evaluation may indicate that you may need to make some changes in your attitude or behavior.

In taking a hard look at yourself, you may discover that you are your own obstacle to a successful relationship. Knowing this is key for future success.

Love can be found in 2021, but you can help it out by being honest with yourself. If you're doing a self-analysis, it's important not to be overly critical.

You're a good person, but you may want to review past relationships or get honest information from others. So, the people you confide in need to be those who have your best interest in mind.

You must believe that you're lovable before you start looking for a relationship. If you don't, it's difficult to expect another person to love you.

Distance yourself from people who may have treated you negatively in the past. Let go of self-doubt and feelings of unworthiness from emotional abuse in past relationships, and don't carry them into a potentially healthy relationship.

Sometimes, you must change the people around you before genuine love can come to you.

A change in your attitude can do wonders for your quest to find love. Your positive attitude is attractive, and others will want to be with you.

If you're negative and closed-minded, it's more difficult to find a partner or create an interest in you.

2. Setting your expectations.

If you want to find love in 2021, you must realize that if love doesn't come to you exactly when you want it, the world is not over.

It's not a good idea to settle for the first person who shows an interest in you if they're not truly a good fit. You should feel attracted to your love interest, but don't be fooled by shiny distractions if you get signs that they're not genuine.

You may think that it's "love" when, in fact, it's just a fleeting infatuation fueled by the need for companionship and attention. It's important to watch out for red flags and not ignore them if they appear.

Your actual knight in shining armor or princess may not be exactly the best-looking, richest, or most talented person. They may be a good person who's stable with a positive outlook in life who also shares your interests. But most importantly, this person must have respect for you and treat you as an equal.

There are no exact formulas for the right person to come along, but it's important to realize that your other half will have some faults. You have some faults, as well, so it's necessary to strike a balance between seeking perfection and obtaining a high quality of life with someone who best suits you.

Understanding that your partner will ultimately be someone who gets you — and you them — is the real magic you seek when looking for love.

The outer shell is not as important as the inner person who resides in it. It's the greatest expectation of all.

3. Creating the right environment.

It's essential for you to be positioned for love to find you in 2021. You cannot expect love to suddenly appear if you just go to work and come home every night!

It's possible that the person next door is perfect for you, but unless you're proactive in getting Cupid’s arrow to strike, you can't be a target!

Making positive changes to your life and habits can bridge the gap. Consider your wardrobe, grooming, routines, places you frequent, and the people in your life.

Maybe you've always wanted to pick up a new hobby, eat healthier, exercise more, stop smoking, or change your hairstyle. They all can make a difference.

However, make only the changes that make you feel positive about yourself. Don't change who you are just to attract someone. It will not result in a true connection.

The worst thing to do is to act fake or misrepresent yourself. Authenticity is a critical element to finding true love.

Some people move to a place where socializing is easier. Or, they join a group where there are like-minded individuals.

Others change jobs or decide not to work long hours, so they can improve their quality of life. Love can come to you in 2021, and a change in environment may be one of the ways to facilitate it.

The kind of people you have in your life is important, as well. Individuals around you who only see the negative are not helpful in finding love.

Love is a positive energy that seeks those who are open to it.

Finding love is a great New Year's resolution this year.

Finding love in 2021 is a good New Year’s resolution, but it's a little more complicated than just setting it as a goal.

You must be an active participant by evaluating your situation and discovering areas that you can improve to allow love to find you.

Self-exams, setting expectations, and creating an environment for someone to come into your life are elements necessary to it make it happen.

Be honest with yourself and interact with others. It's OK to be picky, because you deserve the best possible person for you.

Don't sell yourself short by just going with a "pretty face" who's not the best fit. Or someone you're not truly attracted to because they're "OK."