The Real Reason You Can't Seem To Meet The Right Person

Important tips for those looking for love.

By Clay Andrews — Written on Feb 06, 2022

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We all participate in dating in hopes of finding the one and having a successful, loving, and healthy relationship.

But, why does it seem so hard to find the right partner?

Is there something wrong with you? Do you not know how to date? Is it just not meant to be? Or is it because love is just a lie?

Hardly!

After working with hundreds of people looking for love and healthy relationships, I can tell you that those who are having a hard time are simply following the wrong strategy.

If you look at what they are doing to find love these days, they are actually not following a very effective strategy at all.

A lot of people will simply surrender their love life over to "fate", "luck", or "the stars."

This is nothing more than playing passively in relationships.

Here's an important piece of dating advice: You certainly wouldn’t expect to get great results if you just let "luck" or "fate" drive any other area of your life, would you?

We all know that if you want to stay fit and healthy, you have to be an active participant in your own health. And if you want to succeed in your career, you have to be proactive and take the initiative.

Finding success in pretty much any other area of life requires action, consistency, and just doing what works.

So then why do people not do this when it comes to love and relationships?

I believe it’s due to far too much romantic conditioning through movies, TV, or other aspects of popular culture. Sure, there are some people out there who may have met their perfect partner through chance or circumstance — you hear about these sorts of stories from time to time.

But that doesn’t mean that you should be making real-life decisions that will impact your life based on wishful thinking.

Are you ready to love? If what you’re doing isn’t working, it’s time to let go of it and find what is working.

So what sort of dating tips actually work when it comes to finding love?

Simple.

There are 3 simple steps to finding the right person:

1. Know who you are trying to be in a relationship with

This also means you need to understand who you do not want to be in a relationship with.

Few people actually stop to think about what they really want in a partner. What values are important to you? What are the dealbreakers that you will not put up with from anyone?

I can’t answer these questions for you — you have to find your own answers.

2. Put yourself in situations where you are likely to meet the sort of person you actually want to be with

So many people are looking for their partner in the wrong places: bars, clubs, online dating, etc.

But, just the same way you’ll never find a Gucci bag at Walmart no matter how hard you search, you may never be able to find a heart-centered, compassionate, and considerate lover if you’re looking for them in the wrong places.

3. Form an unshakeable emotional connection

A lot of people believe that chemistry between them and their partner is some sort of indication that a relationship is meant to be.

Don’t get me wrong, chemistry can feel wonderful — and it is definitely important!