How To Text A Guy (Without Turning Him Off Completely)
Stay on his mind without getting on his nerves.
Unsplash: Marcus P. When you meet a guy you like, either online or off-line, you want to start a conversation with him in a way that will get him to like you and want to give you his attention.
It can get confusing, however, when you're wondering how to text a guy without coming off as trying too hard, making yourself seem like a needy or clingy girlfriend type, and completely turning him off.
You can definitely use texts as a powerful way to make him want you, but there are some helping communication tips you should keep in mind when dealing with most men.
With this in mind, here are 3 secret strategies for how to text a guy that women should know.
1. Keep it short and sweet
I can’t emphasize this one enough. Guys don’t like long-winded texts that ask them a bunch of questions.
They’re often busy at work or on some other aspect of their life. Men like to be single focused. If your text isn't short and sweet, they're likely to consider you distracting and annoying and be turned off.
Fortunately, there's a simple remedy to this.
Keep it short, keep it sweet, and keep it upbeat with exclamation points and emojis.
Try using feeling-centered vocabulary such as, "Sounds good!", "Sounds great!", "Can't wait! (winky face)", etc.
2. Limit initial conversations to logistics
Although you might think that asking him questions about his favorite kind of music is, what he’s doing on the weekend, or his favorite football team is a good way to start a conversation, I suggest that you save that kind of thing for when you meet in person.
In the beginning stages of a dating a guy, limit your texting with him primarily to logistics like deciding and details about when, where and how to meet up.
When a man sees you in front of him, you'll have totally different kind of conversation than you would over text. Don’t waste too much time trying to build a connection with him over text.
3. Use emojis!
Men love getting emojis from women! The visual aspect gets them out of their heads, and the way you use them makes you feminine and distracting in a good way.
The more left unsaid the better. The more he can imagine you like fun, happy and lighthearted, the more he’s going to want to text you back and have a date with you.
Remember, the goal isn't for you to be a texting expert. The goal is to inspire a man to want to see you badly and quickly.
Emojis makes you somewhat mysterious, and when left to his own imagination, he will begin painting you in an exciting light — one that makes him want to see you.
Short and sweet drives men to make plans with you. You want his attention focused on when can he see you. If you start becoming his texting buddy. He will only text you when he’s bored.
Also, remember to stick to directions and details. As much as you can, keep your texts limited to how, when, and where you'll see each other, and use short, upbeat phrases.
Emojis are your friend! Use them, but don’t go overboard. They give you a playful and inviting impression that sets a tone for him to want to plan a date with you to find out more about you.
Most importantly, once you know how to text a guy without turning him off, you’ll be on your way to having a great relationship!
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