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Go ahead, say "hooray, he's gone!"
By Elizabeth Stone — Written on Jul 16, 2018
Going through a breakup? We're all well aware of how painful that can be. You feel depressed, sad, angry, and probably wonder what went wrong. Will you ever move on? Will you ever learn how to get over a breakup?
Fortunately, not all breakups are a bad thing. Sometimes, they can actually be a blessing in disguise. Here are seven reasons to be happy your relationship ended.
1. You have more free time.
Want to spend all weekend in your pajamas watching Netflix? Doable. Want to go on a sudden road-trip? Get in the car. Want to go to the bar and flirt with randoms? It’s on the menu.
Suddenly you don’t have to worry about anyone else's schedule. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want, with whoever you want, job and other responsibilities permitting.
2. The relationship in its current state was wrong.
Even if you happened to think that every day you spent with your ex was all puppies and rainbows, something was deeply broken to get to the point you’re at now. Whether you seriously want them back or you are relieved they are gone, what we can say for sure is that something about it wasn’t quite right and now you're liberated from the weight of that.
3. There are no more annoying "quirks" to deal with.
Did your ex snore? Leave their socks all over the living room? Drive you crazy with garage band practice? Guess what? You don’t have to deal with any of it. If you were ever so irritated by their habits that you wanted to shake them, you don’t have to grind your teeth while biting your tongue any longer.
4. Post-breakup is a great time for self-examination and reinvention.
If you ever felt stifled by your relationship, now is the time to shed the feeling and examine what YOU really want your life to look like without a peanut gallery whose requirements could stifle your progress. You now have the opportunity to reinvent yourself.
5. Any tension you and your ex had with friends and family is over.
Did you ever have to suffer through your friends' and family’s disapproval of your ex? Did you have issues with his or her family? That time is now over. Dealing with your friends or family disliking your ex is tough, and being able to let go of those issues can be a real relief.
6. You're now free to meet the one.
Yes, being dumped sucks the big one. However, now you are free to find the right person for you. And it all starts by understanding how to get over a breakup and be happy about it. If you were in a bad relationship, now you know more about what you don’t want.
If the relationship was great (at least at some point), you have some experience of what worked. If you were hoping they would just change a few things, you're now clearer on what those are. All of this experience helps for next time.
7. There's no more judgment or criticism.
If you were with someone who made you feel like whatever you did was wrong, you no longer have to deal with their likes and dislikes. So often we conform to what our partner wants without question, and now that time is over.
Elizabeth Stone is an author, relationship coach and founder of Attract The One. Are you struggling with feeling disconnected, dumped and disregarded by your man? Get to the bottom of it with a free copy of her book, Why Men Lose Interest, and free daily email series here.
This article was originally published at Digital Romance Inc. Reprinted with permission from the author.