12 Signs The Guy You're In Love With Is Actually A Sociopathic Monster

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You think you've met your Prince Charming ... and he seems a little too good to be true.

Well, he just might be!

If that little voice in your head telling you something just does not feel right, things are moving a little fast, then stop, listen and take notes.

That little voice in your head is called “gut instinct,” listen to it!

You may be datingsociopath — one of the worst predators in the dating and relationship world.

Once you become sucked into his proverbial claws, escape can be very difficult.

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You do not leave without mental (or sometimes even physical) scars to remind you of the very abusive relationship you have just experienced.

Here are 12 warning signs to look out for, to help you know if you are dating a sociopath:


1. They have LOTS of charm.  

They are extremely charming and normally very charismatic. 

They are the center of attention at parties and very well liked in social circles, but it is superficial.


2. Sociopaths tend to be VERY attractive.

They have a high sexual attraction and use this to their advantage.


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3. "I love you" happens fast. 

They tell you they are in love quickly and move the relationship at a whirlwind rate.

You are caught up in the excitement of the romance and lose your head.


4. They flood you with attention.

They overdose you with attention at first: calling, emailing, texting, spending all their time with you.

They may also buy gifts take you on trips or whatever it takes to win you fast.


5. Sociopaths will try to "lock you in" quickly.

They try and lock the relationship in with either moving in together, engagement or getting married within a very short amount of time. They know they cannot hide their bad behavior long so they will try to cement the deal before you become aware and try and leave.

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6. They always play the victim in stories from their past.

They are never responsible for any past relationship issues, nor will they be responsible for any in the future.

They are incapable of seeing their own faults.

7. Sociopaths will manipulate your sense of pity. 

They play upon your sympathy for all things they do. Blaming it on childhood scars, work problems, relationship issues, money problems, etc.


8. You'll notice their "angry eyes". 

They say the eyes are the windows to the soul; this is a great place to notice there is something very wrong.

When they are angry, there is a cold hostile intensity that is unnerving.

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9. They are masters at pathological lying.

It doesn’t seem to matter what it is about, they make “lying” a way of life. They use it as a tool to make life easier.


10. Sociopaths seem to feel no guilt. 

When they cheat, lie or hurt someone they love; there is no real sense of guilt.

They may be unhappy they are caught, but they will do it again, remorse is not part of their genetic makeup.

11. They have a "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" behavior pattern. 

You are dealing with two very different people, the charming man you met and fell in love with, and the abusive cruel, unfeeling, lying manipulative man that has no feelings.

You keep waiting for the first one to resurface — but, eventually, you see less and less of that guy you first met. 

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12. They are totally comfortable breaking rules.

They tend to have no respect for rules regulations or the law.

They enjoy pushing the envelope for the rush of adrenaline power and control it allows them.

Another key trait to watch for is a “sociopathic cycle” in the relationship.


Phase 1:

Everything is wonderful, you are both in a euphoric state, with great sex, romance, and everything is perfect.

Phase 2:

There is a slow subtle change where the sociopath starts to find faults with your new love and you want to bring back the wonderful feelings and try to please him.

You become fearful of losing or displeasing him.

Phase 3:

There is some incident that happens that triggers him: physical abuse, verbal abuse, anger, fighting, threats and intimidation occur.

Phase 4:

This is the makeup stage, the sociopath will be very remorseful, apologize, promise to never repeat the behavior, blame you for his behavior, deny and gaslight the situation.

Phase 5:

This is a calm phase in which the relationship returns back to the loving romantic relationship, the incident is forgotten until the cycle repeats itself.

If you are in a relationship with a sociopath, contact Deni Abbie, who can help you walk away for good. Get to know Deni (and her work!) at her Experts profile.