10 Questions To Ask A Guy & Find Out If He Has Soulmate Potential

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10 Relationship Questions To Ask A Guy & Find Out If You're Twin Flames Or Kindred Spirits

Even when there's instant chemistry, it's hard to tell whether or not you and the new man you're seeing could be soulmates. To suss out his long-term potential, it's important to know which relationship questions to ask a guy that will reveal his truest self quickly — so you can stop wasting your time dating all the wrong men.

You know fairytales aren't real, yet you hold onto the hope that your Prince Charming is out there somewhere. But you're not naive.

When he crosses your path, you know he likely won’t be the tall, dark, handsome and strapping young lad you’ve fantasized about since you were a girl, and you're OK with that!

You’re looking for real, true love — the kind only soulmates share.

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While you may have a vague idea of how your soulmate will make you feel, the things he’ll say to you, and the manner in which he’ll treat you, it's wise to pause in order to identify the key values you're looking for in a man.

Even saying something as simple as, "I want to be with a guy who’s funny", leaves a lot of room for ambiguity. There’s a difference between being funny in a self-deprecating way and being funny in a sarcastic way. Maybe one is a type of humor you enjoy and the other is one that will start to grate on your nerves.

So getting clear about the specifics is critical. You want to be clear on what you want and what you don’t want. Also, consider your deal-breakers.

For example, you don’t want to be with a smoker so that's a non-negotiable for your potential mate. Otherwise, you may end up with someone you later regret being with.

If you want to find your soulmate, here are 10 deep relationship questions to ask a guy that will reveal if you could be soulmates and kindred spirits.

1. How important is your health?

If you work out regularly and make conscious choices to eat healthily, you’ll likely want to be with someone who is also health conscious.

Being healthy is an act of self-care. So, if he cares for himself, he’ll care of you as well.

2. Is cleanliness important?

How clean are your home, your workspace, and yourself?

If cleanliness is important to you, then you’ll want to be with someone who equally values a clean environment and practices good hygiene.

3. What do you like to do for fun?

Do you enjoy some of the same fun activities?

You don’t have to like all of the same things but having some things you enjoy in common gives you both the opportunity to spend quality time together. Otherwise, you will be lonely as he does his thing and you do yours.

4. What do you do for recreation?

What do you like to do to get moving? Where do you want to go or like visiting?

Shared recreational activities and common interests in travel make activities for connection and shared experience. These shared activities also make for cherished memories.

5. Where do you find spiritual fulfillment?

Are you religious? Do you actively participate in a religion or do you prefer something else?

Having common spiritual views builds a connection greater than yourselves and can play a vital role in strengthening your relationship when your life encounters adversity.

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6. How important is family to you?

Do you both like getting together with your families? Dreading visiting the in-laws can be miserable, but it doesn't have to be.

If you enjoy each other’s families, then family gatherings will always be something to look forward to.

7. Do you want children and how many?

Be specific about what you want for your future family.

Having a shared vision of children in your future will help you avoid potential disappointment down the road.

8. Do you like dogs or cats or both?

This may seem trivial, more like one of those random questions to ask a guy intended to be an ice-breaker, but in all reality, it can also be a deal-breaker. If you prefer cats and he prefers dogs, the dog and cat may get along just fine.

But, if you have an aversion to one or the other, you may be setting yourself up for an uncomfortable situation. Having a common interest in pets will eliminate that.

9. How well do you treat others?

Truth is the way we treat others is a reflection of our own self-worth. If he values himself he with value others and likewise, you. You can’t give what you don’t have.

Is he quick-tempered and easily irritated by others? Or is he patient and non-judgmental of others? Does he treat others the same way you do?

10. What do you enjoy eating?

Consider where you prefer to dine and what types of food you enjoy and do not enjoy.

The more similar your food choices are, the more agreeable you will be when you choose to go out to eat. It also simplifies your grocery list.

It takes so much more than mere attraction to build a happy and loving relationship.

Having values in common creates connection, and the absence of them can create resentment later on. You may not find someone who shares all of your values, but your soulmate will fulfill enough of them.

These questions to ask people you go on dates with can help you figure out if you're on the same page. Know what you want and don't settle for anything less. You deserve it.

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Craig Nielson in a professional coach, speaker and best-selling author who specializes in helping women who feel stuck, frustrated and anxious to become relaxed, secure and fully confident. Learn more and get a his free e-book, How Women Unknowingly Sabotage Their Self Confidence And How To Get It Back, on his website.