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Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

Does Penis Size REALLY Matter?

This is a popular question which has men’s ears burning; especially if you are concerned about the size of your manhood, compared to other men. If you take a random survey of 100 women asking them if size REALLY matters, you’d probably get a different result every time. Size definitely matters to some women, and for various reasons. But for others, they would agree with the phrase “It’s not the size of the ship, it’s the motion of the ocean.”

Penis size can certainly have an effect on how the sex “feels” vaginally, but it’s not a guarantee to having a meaningful, loving, passionate relationship. Some women I’ve talked to complained about their guys having TOO BIG of a stick, causing them to experience painful sex. If you’re packing a long schlong, it doesn’t mean you’re a better lover than a guy with a less than average size. Bragging about how big you are, doesn’t always give you an advantage in the bedroom. It may lure the ladies to your den, but keeping her there is another story altogether. Inattentive lovers sporting a big penis, have no long-term advantage over a modestly sized guy, who knows how to get her off or “use it”. On the same note, a guy with a less than average size penis who can’t work it, may as well head to the bedroom with his trusty tube sock, and call it a night. 

When does size matter?

New research by the Journal of Sexual Medicine has shown that contrary to popular or “wishful” thinking, size does matter for women who can ONLY achieve vaginal orgasm which requires a longer penis (nothing a great toy can’t solve either). This can be looked at as good news for guys, because not all women need a guy with a longer penis, to achieve orgasm. So for women who achieve vaginal orgasm, size for them matters if they orgasm vaginally.

“A comprehensive worldwide study of more than 40 independent penis size research projects, undertaken since 1942, has come up with a general penis size guideline. With over 11,000 participants, the survey puts the average erect size of the adult penis between 5.5 inches and 6.2 inches in length and 4.7 inches and 5.1 inches in girth. In addition, according to a recent survey, 90% of women prefer a wide penis to a long one because increases in length do little to enhance her physical pleasure.  ” 

Generally speaking, size matters more to MEN, than it does to the women they’re after. Unfortunately worrying about your penis size won't do you much good in the long run. This stinking thinking, along with your lack of confidence will hinder your chances to “score” with the girl, and to having better sex. Many studies report guys with big penises have more sex. Arguably this is due to these men having more confidence, hence being more attractive to the opposite sex. So there is hope for the smaller size guys if you build your confidence and know that you are a great overall lover. More women admit that guys, who have great bedroom skills compensate for their lack of size.

Achieving orgasm for many women involves clitoral stimulation, so penetration has nothing to do with orgasm at all. Women climax very differently and have numerous sexual triggers & erogenous zones to help them achieve orgasm. Satisfying sex and passionate love making is not always a direct relationship to how big your package is.
So guys don’t stress if your penis doesn’t “measure up”. Be proud of what God or Nature gave you; and know that “sticking it in” (whatever your size and girth) is not what women solely care about when it comes to having great sex. Romancing, seducing, flirting, touching, fondling, petting, licking & kissing her in all her erogenous zones; with a manly and confident attitude, is a  sure way to take the focus off your (lack of) size and on to her pleasure.

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