How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Find Your Soulmate

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How To Use The Law Of Attraction To Find Your Soulmate & Fall In Love As Kindred Spirits

Most men and women these days have heard or seen some form of dating advice about how to use the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate and fall in love, and yet, the specific details of how to manifest romantic relationships between kindred spirits remains, for many, a frustrating puzzle.

Manifestation is a real and powerful thing, however, and understanding how the Law of Attraction works is the first step toward harnessing it within your own love life.

By definition, the Law of Attraction is "the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life ... based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from 'pure energy', and that through the process of 'like energy attracting like energy' a person can improve their own health, wealth, and personal relationships."

This universal law aligns everything in life, but what many fail to recognize is that just because you want something deeply, that doesn't mean you will automatically get it. You have to work with the universe in order for the universe to show up for you.

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In general, the universe is ruled by natural laws. Humans invented airplanes based on a vision, an idea, and a belief. The laws of physics didn't change in order to allow us to fly. Rather, we found a way to harness natural laws in order to achieve that vision.

Just as aviation follows the laws of physics, love and change follow the Law of Attraction.

In order to harness the positive forces of love and change in your life, you must first understand how it works naturally.

The Law of Attraction holds every star in the universe and each of the planets that surround us, the cells within our bodies, the oceans that separate land, and the thoughts that become our actions. It is the force that holds us together.

So when, in reference to the Law of Attraction, someone says "like attracts like", this means that what you give out is what you will receive back.

This applies to your thoughts, emotions, feelings, actions, and beliefs, and the key to all of this is the awareness that you create your life with your thoughts and your feelings. You are a magnet!

Before using the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate, you must let go of the notion of timelines, such as, "I'm 40 years old and I need to find someone fast if I want kids" or "I am a single mom with two kids and no man is going to want me."

The truth about manifestation is that you have to be able to get honest with yourself, be open to change, and remain open to seeing how you can heal any old wounds from your subconscious and conscious mind. You have to be open to clearing out old habits, beliefs, patterns from past love experiences, childhood traumas, and memories. Once you do this, you can take the next step, which is allowing yourself to give up your need for control and start putting yourself first.

Be open to the idea of challenging yourself to try and experience new things. Now is the time to try it and stop trying controlling the outcomes in your life.

This doesn't mean giving up control of practices that actually keep you safe, but rather, giving up those that hold you back from new experiences.

Putting yourself first takes commitment.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you giving your time to people who drain you?
  • Are you giving your time to men or women you're dating while being dishonest with them by not stating upfront that you're looking for a committed relationship?
  • Are you giving your time to men or women who are unavailable?
  • Are you giving your love to someone who doesn't fulfill you simply because being with them makes you feel less vulnerable, knowing you're the one "in control"?

These are all potential issues to identify and change so you can show up for the universe by growing into the best version of yourself possible.

With that said, here is a 4-step guide for learning how to use the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate and finally fall in true love as kindred spirits.

1. Keep a journal of the things you love about yourself.

When you first wake up each morning, write out a list of things you love about yourself. This will help you own those feelings and the positive energy that ignites will help you become more in tune with who you are and allows you to enjoy who you are in each moment.

Have an inner dialogue with yourself about the things you love about yourself. If you have a tendency to look at yourself in the mirror and say things like, "My thighs are too big", pay attention to your words and switch them to a more loving aspect about yourself like, "My hair looks great today!"

This is the first step to awareness. Observe your thoughts and challenge yourself to create new and positive thoughts.

2. Create a written list of everything you want in a relationship.

Many people get this one wrong. You don’t want to attach yourself to the idea of one specific person you desire. You have to trust that the universe is going to give you exactly what you want.

So, even if you have a crush on or are in love with "Adam", you cannot put the name "Adam" on this list. Go with the feeling he inspires in you instead and the specific feelings you want to experience within a relationship. For example, "I want to feel secure, trusted, and loved."

Yes, you can include physical characteristics such as "handsome" on your list, but try and stay away from superficial things and focus on trusting that everything will fall into place as it should.

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3. Daydream or meditate about what you want until you can feel it.

You have to understand the feeling of what you want and feel it around you.

One way to do this is by purposefully daydreaming about what you want and the feelings having it in front of you creates, then tell yourself that you feel it coming to the point where you feel that happiness radiate within you.

When you were younger, do you remember having an imaginary friend? Well, it's time to have another one again.

Let’s say you’re cooking dinner for yourself one night. Imagine your partner standing in the kitchen with you chatting and smiling. This is feeling it into existence.

4. Remain aware of your goal at all times.

The universe will throw obstacles, tests, and lessons at you, and the key to this process is remaining aware 100 percent of the time. Many people lose control of their thoughts and actions by giving someone else control, or by losing hope when challenges arise.

For example, many women who want to manifest love keep going back to a partner they know isn't right for that vision. In doing so, they don't allow the space for their manifestation to take over. In many such cases, physical attraction or habit seduces them to return, and as a result, they feel a lack of something in they cannot seem to identify.

These women often find themselves thinking something along the lines of, "I don’t know if true love exists because I have never seen it."

The key for moving past this kind of blockage is becoming aware of why you are attracted to people or relationships that aren't good for you. When you are able to do this, you will walk into awareness and never look back, even as the universe continues to throw you challenges.

Now that you know how to use the Law of Attraction to find your soulmate, it's time to let go of fear and stop coming from a place of deficit!

When you say things to yourself like, "I'm getting older and will never have kids," you may be expressing a valid concern, and one which you shouldn't dismiss, but you are also putting additional pressure on yourself. That pressure turns into fear, and that fear turns into a lack of something.

This has to stop and you have to trust.

When you become clear about what you want and believe in this process, you will start to see results.

If you have doubts, yes, the universe will show you it’s worth believing, but you have to give 100 percent in order to get exactly what you want. You can have just about any relationship, but in order to have the right one, you must truly be able to identify yourself and put yourself first.

Never settle for anything less than what you deserve and understand that forgiving yourself for taking a step back during the process is OK. Everything works out in divine timing and in order to manifest the right relationships, you have to make sure you cultivate the relationships around you.

You might not be able to tell the exact timeline for when you will fall in love, but know that it's all up to you when it happens!

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Apollonia Ponti is a Dating and Relationship Expert and Certified Coach who works with men and women to get exactly what they want from their love life. Get started on your journey with her today by downloading her 7 Free Videos To Master Your Love Life, and subscribe to her YouTube channel for more.

This article was originally published at Apollonia Ponti Website. Reprinted with permission from the author.