What To Do When Your Boyfriend Becomes Distant

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What to Do When Your Boyfriend Becomes Distant

Sometimes men just can't help it.

Is your boyfriend being distant? This confusing situation is one that many women find themselves in. It can lead to miserable feelings of self-doubt, insecurity, and stress.

It’s important that you don’t let these concerns overwhelm you. His distance can be due to many factors that are separate from you.

Corrine has been with her boyfriend for six months. Everything seems to be working. They spend plenty of time together, he’s introduced her to his family, and they have even discussed the possibility of marriage and children.

However, he lapses into a strange mood every couple of weeks, which renders him distant and uncommunicative for a couple of hours.

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Introverts are people who become energized when they spend time alone. It’s likely that they distance themselves because they unexpectedly need some solitude to recover from interactions with others.

Introverts can’t always predict how long they will need to be alone or when they will need to withdraw from the company of others. But, they almost always feel better and more energized after a period of detachment.

Introversion is a legitimate reason why men pull away sometimes in relationships. Your job is to not take it personally. It doesn't mean that you did something wrong or that he has stopped caring for you.

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As you’re getting to know him better, I suggest that you observe how much time he usually needs before he’s ready to re-engage with you. That way, you can plan alternate activities that you can enjoy while he’s regaining his energy.

The next time he distances himself, ask him if there is anything specific he needs from you at the moment. Don’t ask him what you can do to fix his mood because you can’t.

Empathically acknowledge that he seems to need time alone. Keep your tone of voice kind and friendly as you tell him that you’re going to do your own thing for a while. Then, kiss him goodbye and go.

When you temporarily remove yourself from the situation while remaining calm and upbeat sends the message that you’re willing to give him the space that he needs. You’re also letting him know that you’re taking care of your needs by doing something that you enjoy.

Watch a movie, read a book, or catch up on something that you’ve been putting off doing. If you talk to your friends, refrain from commenting on his current moodiness — it’s best if friends don’t fan the flames of your discontent while you’re working on solutions to it.

After a while, you’ll be able to decide if his intermittent bouts of moodiness are manageable or if you need to end the relationship and find someone who isn’t so introverted.

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Annie Gleason is a Dating Coach whose strategic dating advice has provided lasting love to hundreds of women. To find love, don't leave it to chance. Get more free dating advice by visiting her website.

This article was originally published at Get A Love Life . Reprinted with permission from the author.