The 5 Stages Of A Relationship All Couples Go Through, According To Science

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The 5 Stages Every Relationship All Couples Go Through, According To Science
Love

We already know that love is, as they say, "a many splendid thing," but do you really know what's going on in your body when you fall in love?

It's like utter madness. You're sick to your stomach but in a good way. Your libido is out of control. You literally can't get enough of that person, and obsession and infatuation are just part of the game.

But now, a new study of the brains of people in love has found that there are five stages of a relationship that couples go through when they fall for someone. Let's cover them now, shall we?

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Stage 1. Infatuation

The best parts of first falling in love are the butterflies and infatuation.

In some cases, infatuation can be a bad thing, but when you're both in it to win it, it's wonderful. You can't sleep, you can't concentrate, and the most important thing in the world is getting to see that person again.

The study found that 56 percent of people in the infatuation stage also noted an obvious increase in their sex drive, meaning pretty much that all you want to do is be in bed with your new love until the break of dawn.

Stage 2. Comfort

This is when things calm down in your body a bit. According to the study, neurochemicals are released that turn up the volume in your heart rate and pleasure zones.

In fact, the scientists say these feelings are on par with Class A drugs. You experience something called a "happy anxiety," and finding a way to sleep is still difficult.

The honeymoon phase may be over, but things have yet to totally cool off.

Stage 3. Questioning

Naturally, you will have to get to a point where you sort of second-guess what's going on.

During the questioning stage, you start wondering if things are "right." You start asking yourself: is this what you want? Can you see yourself with the person for the long haul? Is it more serious than you expected?

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It's not about self-doubt as much as it's about trying to figure out what's right for you and your future.

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Stage 4. Vulnerability

According to the study, "This stage deals with the concept behind how we all put on our best faces; through social media we edit our lives as well as our pictures to make it appear as though everything is fine," but it's time to get real about the stages every relationship goes through.

It may seem like you're taking a risk in showing your true self, so usually in this stage, stress levels start to climb.

The study found that 15 percent of people experience "feelings of doubt and increased vulnerability" when it came to being honest about who they really are and all those weird quirks that we all have.

It's not easy to expose both the best and worst of you, but it's a necessary step in making a relationship work.

Stage 5. Stability

After the ups and downs, and questions about your future, the stability stage is where everything falls into place and you feel safe.

Vasopressin, the same hormone released when you orgasm, is circulating around your body and creates strong feelings of attachment and bonding.

Couples are very happy at this stage, even if the initial intensity has worn off. It's these feelings that really make for a long-lasting relationship. It's actually the best stage of all and, if you're lucky, you still have the butterflies, too.

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Amanda Chatel is a regular contributor to Bustle and Glamour, with bylines at Harper's Bazaar, The Atlantic, Forbes, Livingly, Mic, The Bolde, Huffington Post and others. Find her on Twitter or on Facebook for more.