Ladies, Here Are 8 Ways To Quiet Your Mind So You Can Have Better Sex

If you want to learn how to have better sex, you'll need to learn how to be present. One of the best sex tips for women is learning to calm the mind and stay in the moment to learn how to enjoy pleasure and intimacy.

In order to experience sexual pleasure, you need to learn more about sensual pleasure. And both require you to be in your body and calm the chatter that's happening in your mind. The more you can do that, the more sensual and sexual pleasure you'll experience in your intimate exchanges.

Women and pleasure is a subject that needs more attention. But pleasure is found in the body, not in the mind. So women and pleasure involves being in your body.

Recently I was asked by a student at a workshop of mine:

What do you mean by "in your body?"

It was really great for me to have my student ask that. I realized how many people have probably never even experienced being in their bodies. As a culture we live so much up in our heads, analyzing and perceiving life through our minds.

I've spent most of my life doing anything that I can to "get out of my head" and "be in my body" because that's where I always find peace. It takes time energy and effort. Yoga, deep breathing and sacred dance have been my great tools to get me there.

Otherwise, I find myself worrying, obsessing and overthinking about things and it causes unnecessary stress, especially in my intimate relationship.

Not clearing your mind regularly causes disaster in bed. My mind is like a race track and just doesn't quit.

I've been told by past lovers...

"You have a bee in your bonnet."
"You can't do enough exercise to get out of your head."
"Boy, are you emotional."

I don't know if women realize how much they are spending and living their lives up in their heads... intellectualizing, pondering, fearing, worrying, creating intense emotions etc. The effect; challenges in experiencing sexual pleasure in bed!

Your mind is fast, furious and filled with activity.

Moreso than men. It's just the way we were designed. That's why if you, as a woman want to experience intimate sexual pleasure with your partner it's import to know the difference between being in your head versus your body. That's a good start.

What does it mean to be in your body?

If you're intimate with your partner and you're worried about the kids coming in, laundry, a deadline at work, etc., then you're in your head and not in your body. And you're missing out on pleasure.
Or, if you're intimate with your partner and you're worried about how your body looks instead of how your body feels, then you're in your head and not in your body. And again... you're missing out on pleasure.

As a woman you really need to find ways, much more so than men, to slow down and get your mind to rest. The idea of women and pleasure doesn't just happen. Women need to create the proper environment to experience true pleasure.

Ladies, Here Are 8 Ways To Quiet Your Mind So You Can Have Better Sex

You can have more sexual pleasure when you learn to calm your mind.

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