How To Give A Woman Multiple Orgasms (And Become Her Sexual Hero!)

You may think that making sure your partner has her orgasm first — before you have yours — means she is having a good time and is satisfied. You can then go on to the finish knowing that you are a good and caring lover, right?

However, it’s highly possible she has never been fully sexually satisfied.

Here’s the thing — if you have to ask if she's satisfied, the answer is probably, “No!"

She may have had a mini orgasm, however, she did not have a big one! If she had an orgasm and was completely satisfied, believe me, you would know it!

When a woman has had a mini orgasm, she is now prepped for the many "Oh, oh, OHs!" that should follow. You see, women are designed to have multiple orgasms, each increasing in size and force. The first one is like a guy getting to that intense, amazing plateau, right before you say, “I’m gonna finish,” (you all do it), and then you arrive. Imagine thinking that the plateau is "it" and just stopping right there.

For men, this is referred to as painful "blue balls," and this is what she is experiencing, all the time! If she has never gone there, she may not even know there’s more to come (pun intended).

Your sex pattern of her going first so you can then satisfy yourself, secure in the fact that you’ve done your job, can leave her unsatisfied and feeling "used." It might even be the reason you aren't having sex more often. Neither of you knows just how much you are both missing.

When she is fully satisfied, a large part of your pleasure will be bringing and watching her experience multiple, explosive climaxes — note the plural. Then you will both want more sex.

Now that you both know that there’s more that she can experience, how do you get there? Where do we learn about pleasure, verbal, and sexual communication? The guys in the locker room don’t know any more than you do, and the porn industry certainly has no interest in making sure that your partner is satisfied or teaching you how to satisfy her.

Try this exercise: Once she’s had her initial orgasm, her clitoris may be oversensitive. This is similar to how the head of your penis may feel after you ejaculate, or if you’ve had too much stimulation. And you know how annoying and frustrating that can be!

Much of her body is highly orgasmic now that she is warmed up. Try your mouth on her nipples while your fingers caress her labia or even the other way around. This is a good time to play with different pressures; grabbing her firmly, or touching her gently on the insides of her thighs or belly.

Try circling the outside of her vaginal or anal opening with your fingers or the head of your penis without actually entering. Remember, we are going for more and bigger orgasms. Watch and listen for clues of her body language and see what she likes — at that moment, at least because it’s always changing for women.

Find her internal g-spot orgasm using your fingers or with a simple sex toy.

I suggest no batteries or buttons at this time.

How To Give A Woman Multiple Orgasms (And Become Her Sexual Hero!)

How to know for sure that she's satisfied.

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