6 Signs You've Found Your Platonic Soulmate

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The idea of a “soulmate” is usually reserved for a particularly strong romantic relationship in which both partners are deeply, romantically in love.

People in romantic relationships aren’t the only people who can be described as soulmates, however.

By definition, a soulmate is simply someone who is well-suited to someone else in temperament. As a result, there are many different types of soulmates, according to Relationship Coach Dina Strada.

"There are many other types of soulmates," writes Strada. "Ones who come in solely for the purpose of teaching us something, some to break apart our life and redirect us to somewhere different, and others who pass us for the briefest of moments, yet tug on our hearts as if we’ve known them a lifetime.

Meaning, yes, soulmates can be platonic friends.

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Think of a best friend that just gets you and always seems to know what’s bothering you. That person could be a platonic soulmate.

“Platonic soulmates love each other but do not share any sexual intimacy," Spiritual Life Coach Keya Murthy explains. On the other hand, "Romantic soulmates are in love with each other and also share sexual intimacy.”

Love is not restricted to romantic partners. We all love our family and most of us would say that we love our friends, although that love is different from the romantic idea of love. 

“You can be platonically in love," Murthy says. "When you are platonically in love, it is not something you consciously choose to engage in, it simply is and you cannot explain or justify it with rationality and logic.”

Platonic soulmate relationships can take on a few different forms based on the relationship dynamic.

Here are 6 signs that you've found your platonic soulmate.

1. You're effortlessly comfortable with them.

Whether it's an old friend from high school or someone you’ve only known for a few months, you've always felt right at home with them.

You never struggle to think of things to talk about and are just as comfortable sitting in silence simply enjoying each other's company.

2. The friendship never really dies out.

Friends fight and grow distant and it's natural for some friendships to end.

But platonic soulmates never really stop being friends. They’ll think of each other, even when they’re apart. Platonic soulmates stay in each other’s thoughts through thick and thin, whether they know it or not.

Once you find you’re platonic soulmate, you’re both in it for the long haul.

3. You’re totally in sync.

Whenever you’re spending time together, you’re constantly in each other’s heads. You can't really explain it with any sort of logic, but your brain waves just line up. 

Maybe you’re picking up on extremely subtle queues that no one else quite seems to catch, but one way or another, it’s like you’ve developed your own, totally instinctual and proprietary, language.

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4. Friendship comes easily.

Lots of relationships require lots of effort and need to be maintained, including a friendship with a platonic soulmate.

The difference is that it never feels like an obligation. You’ll crave putting in that effort and the rewards of maintaining that relationship pay out massively because of how much you enjoy each other and the maintenance itself will be virtually painless.

With that being said, all relationships still require effort to maintain and failing to do so can still have consequences, no matter how “meant for each other” you are.

As Relationship Coach Keith Dent says, “A platonic relationship can have the same emotional effects if it isn't cultivated, so it requires the same type of attention. No one person wants to feel that the platonic relationship is one-sided or taken for granted.”

5. You accept each other in your entirety.

No matter how close or how much you gel with someone, you’re still two different people and there are going to be aspects of your friend that you don’t like. This does not mean that you aren’t soulmates.

A sign that someone is your platonic soulmate is that you acknowledge that there are things that bother you about them, but also that you fully accept them for who they are and who they can be.

Obviously, this goes the other way too. Your soulmate will certainly find things to dislike about you, but fully and with all of their heart accept them.

6. You always support each other.

Without really thinking or consciously intending to, you will be one another’s cheerleader and shoulder to cry on.

If you have a bad day and your friend just knows it and knows just how to react to best help you, then that’s a pretty good sign that they could be your platonic soulmate.

Platonic soulmates are just as real and important as romantic ones.

Platonic soulmates get to share the mental and emotional connection just like romantic soulmates do, but without the complication of physical attraction.

Soulmates are just people who seem to be almost perfectly suited to one another, not necessarily in a romantic way.

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Dan O'Reilly is a writer who covers news, politics, and social justice. Follow him on Twitter.

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