Everything To Know About ISFJ Relationships & Compatibility

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ISFJ personality types are practical romantics.

They thrive in committed and healthy relationships where both partners understand and value each other. This personality type is known for being sensitive to others, loyal, friendly, responsible, quiet, and steady.

If this sounds like you, you may be an ISFJ personality type, which is actually the most common personality type.

ISFJ Relationships

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ISFJ personalities are attracted to loyal people who have no problem expressing their appreciation.

ISFJs need to be understood and valued; they hardly ever come out and say what they want so they need someone who will understand their many unspoken desires.

They also love to take care of their partners and be taken care of themselves. Someone who is naturally caring is ideal for ISFJ personality types.

Finally, loyalty is a huge trait that ISFJs are not only attracted to but require in a partner. They have no interest in casual relationships and want full commitment.

In a relationship, ISFJ personality types prefer something long-term where both sides are fully committed to each other.

ISFJs have a hard time with casual relationships and want to be the main focus of their partner.

They also need to be shown that their natural giving nature is appreciated; ISFJs will burn out quickly if all the effort they put into relationships is not reciprocated or valued. Though they love serving their partner, they also need to be taken care of and can’t be the one doing all the work.

ISFJs don't fall in love easily.

Though they are romantics who love the idea of a committed and loving partner and a family of their own, they are practical first.

Their fear of falling for someone who only wants a fling stops them from falling headfirst into relationships and makes them more cautious in love.

They don’t enjoy casual dating and choose partners based on their long-term compatibility. It takes a while for ISFJ types to gauge whether the person they date is truly compatible with them, though once they have made up their mind, ISFJ personalities are 100% committed and loving from then on.

ISFJ types are romantic.

They value loving relationships and thrive in a comfortable and stable relationship.

They may not be the grand gesture type, but that doesn’t mean they are any less romantic. They really love the structure of a partnership (and a family later on) and are all about supporting their partner in everything they do. Their romance may be quieter, but it is very loving and reliable.

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Who should an ISFJ marry (and why)?

An ISFJ’s best matches are ESTP and ESFP personality types, though the ENFP type is also a potential match.

These personality types tend to be good balances for ISFJs; where the ISFJ may struggle, their partner will excel and vice versa. They complement each other.

An ISFJ is best paired with an extraverted personality type, which is the perfect contradiction to ISFJs naturally reserved nature. These types tend to have some common traits and similarities that they can bond over, but still are different enough where they can learn from each other.

ISFJs as parents

ISFJs are ideal parents: not only do they provide structure and routine to their child’s life, but they also have no problem showing affection.

Their child will never be allowed to do whatever they want but they will also never feel unloved; rules and guidelines are very important to ISFJs but so is a loving and supportive home. ISFJs are very responsible and want to help their child be an upstanding member of society, though they often struggle with punishment and being the bad guy.

Overall, they make great parents who support their child but have no problem enforcing the parent-child relationship.

ISFJ friendships

Friendships are very important to ISFJ personality types.

They usually need to discuss any situation or problem they are having with some close friends before they can come to any decision.

ISFJs value discussion and would be lost without their friends’ advice and opinions. ISFJs are naturally very friendly and love to talk to people; their circle is typically very diverse and full of different personality types. They love hearing people’s varying perspectives and value everyone’s thoughts. 

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Erin Watson is an Editorial Intern. Her main focuses are relationships, entertainment, and horoscopes.