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Dreams can reveal a lot about our inner feelings.
By Maatie Kalokoh — Written on Apr 27, 2022
When you have a crush on someone, you simply wish that you could get closer to each other, spend time together, and develop an even deeper, committed friendship — and even something more. You might think about them so much in your daily life that you even start dreaming about them!
What does it mean when you dream about your crush?
According to psychiatrist and student of dreams, Greg Mahr, MD, "A crush may appear in a dream representing the element of fantasy. Depending on what else is occurring in the dream, the crush may appear as a representation of avoiding the painful realities of life through fantasy."
Dream interpretation is tricky, as many times our dreams don't really make sense when you stop to think about them. Your dreams might not even necessarily reflect your current situation.
But when it comes to dreaming about your crush, you might recognize some of these dreams.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Constantly
Having recurring dreams about your crush means that you really want the relationship to be possible and think about it all the time. What happens in your dreams tends to show you your own thoughts and feelings about the crush, and you think about who he is.
The negative aspect of this dream is that you are going through a difficult time in your life, and the dream itself indicates insecurity and fear. Dream Bible reveals that constantly dreaming of a crush might mean you subconsciously feel that this person is out of your league, or that you are "spending too much time looking at what you want and not enough on getting what you want."
When you actually get it off your chest, your subconscious mind will dream of other things, even dating someone else!
But there are other interpretations to dreaming about someone you know — specifically, your crush.
"An important thing to remember is that when someone you know appears in a dream, they often represent not that person as a separate individual, but as an internal representation," Mahr comments.
"For a straight woman, for instance, when a crush appears in a dream, it may represent the masculine side of her psyche. Or, it may represent the qualities that the crush represents for the dreamer, depicted in the form of a person.
A crush may represent, for example, assertiveness, so if the crush helps a woman in a dream, it may mean that the woman needs to call up that quality of assertiveness in some current situation in her life."
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Kissing You
When we dream of being kissed, it means that we think a lot about the person we would like to be or wish to be with, and who interests us.
And when we dream of kissing, the kiss shows us the desire for love and affection.
When you dream about your crush kissing you, it also indicates that you may be lacking affection or reciprocated love in the waking world.
What It Means If You Dream About Crushing On Someone You Don't Know
In dreams, we reflect on our own self-esteem. What happens in your dreams tends to show not only your own thoughts and feelings about your crush, but also about traits and values that you admire.
Dreaming about someone you don't know could also mean that you feel as though certain opportunities are out of reach, feeling vulnerable in social situations, or that you're close to beginning a new relationship.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Dating Someone Else
A more heartbreaking dream is one about your crush being with someone else. If you dream about this scenario, it can highlight a jealous streak you might have for someone else.
However, if you dream of your crush being with another person, it also indicates your feelings in the waking world; specifically, you may already be insecure in the waking world regarding your crush, or are facing rejection from someone.
What It Means If You Dream About Arguing With Your Crush
When you dream that you are arguing with your crush in your dream, it might indicate tension between the two of you in the real world. You may not be the right match for each other.
Another interpretation says that you are battling your own frustration, jealousy, and anger that your crush doesn't feel the same way as you, or simply doesn't give you the time of day.
According to Dream Bible, dreaming about an argument, in general, suggests you may find it hard to express your true feelings. That said, dreaming about arguing with your crush could mean that you're ready to tell your crush how you feel — you just don't know how.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Rejecting You
When you are rejected by your crush in a dream, you have no confidence in the way people see you, but it doesn’t mean this will become your reality.
Most people believe that dreams of rejection arise from fear and insecurity in the waking state of life, or that you doubt what you find good in yourself. Dream interpretation is rarely, if ever, so black and white, and dreams are often much more complicated than they seem.
What It Means If You Dream About Having A Crush On A Friend
To dream about having a crush on a friend doesn't necessarily mean you are attracted to them in the waking world. While that could also be the case, with the dream meaning that you do want to be together, there are additional interpretations.
Because we associate our friends with feelings of contentment, this dream indicates your desire to feel this way in a potential relationship.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Celebrity Crush
While you may have an actual crush on a celebrity in the waking world, to dream about your celebrity crush means you are attracted to or identify with specific traits in this celebrity, and you want to express them in yourself.
This dream could also mean that those qualities you see in your celebrity crush are the same qualities you look for in a potential partner.
Mahr agrees, adding, "Celebrities usually represent the quality you associate with that celebrity. Brittany Spears, for instance, might represent sexuality, or new-found freedom, or being held captive by a father, or being irresponsible, depending on your personal feelings about or ideas about Ms. Spears."
What It Means If You Dream About Someone Having A Crush On You
Dreaming about someone being attracted to you reflects your own feelings about yourself, in that you feel good about who you are or who you are becoming. If your dream makes you feel positive, it indicates you are excited about new opportunities coming your way.
However, if you don't reciprocate feelings for this person in the waking world, or feel negatively about the dream, it indicates new beginnings in your life that you aren't thrilled about.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Dying
While this dream may sound more like a nightmare, dreaming about your crush dying symbolizes the end of your attraction to your crush.
Because death in a dream, in general, is symbolic of the end of a phase or a big change in life, this specific dream could indicate your own feelings changing.
"A crush dying may represent that some part of you needs to 'die' so that you can continue to grow and mature," Mahr says.
What It Means If You Dream About Having Sex With Your Crush
To dream about having sex, in general, means you're noticing specific qualities about yourself that are positive. But to dream about sex with a crush, specifically, reflects your feelings towards them.
You might want them to reciprocate your feelings, have long-term goals you want to make with them, and want to experience more of these thoughts or feelings in the waking world.
Adds Mahr, "Relationships are very emotionally powerful, so they may bring to our awareness our own internal woundedness. They seem to feel that, at least while the relationship is going well, the things that are missing in our lives. When a dream shows an intimate relationship with a crush, it may represent a call to connect more deeply with our own internal woundedness."
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Liking You Back
Dreaming about your crush reciprocating feelings is exactly what you want in the waking world! But that doesn't mean your crush returns your attraction, it just means there might be a good chance they do.
In fact, a dream like this means you are confident about your compatibility and the chance to be together. Your unconscious mind may be telling you that now is the perfect chance to ask your crush out.
What It Means If You Dream About Your Crush Being The Opposite Gender You're Attracted To
If you're a woman and dream about having a crush on a woman, or a man who has a crush on a man, it's not indicative of being secretly gay.
Rather than focusing on sexuality, a dream about having a crush on the opposite gender you're attracted to means you desire those specific qualities in a partner, or admire them in yourself.
Dreaming about someone of the same gender also symbolizes needing a fresh start and are ready to make that leap forward.
What It Means If You Dream About Someone Else's Crush
Before you panic that you're dreaming about your friend or acquaintance's crush, this dream is indicative of your own insecurities, both in your personal life and romantic life.
And if it's your romantic partner in the waking world who has a crush on someone else, and you're dreaming of it, it means you might be jealous and hurt.
What It Means If You Dream About Someone You Used To Like
When an old crush shows up in your dreams, there are a few interpretations. In the waking world, you may know or date someone who reminds you of your ex-crush; it's all related to your previous experiences.
Dreaming about an ex-crush also has a lot to do with the feel of the dream. If it was a negative experience, you may be feeling afraid or self-conscious about making certain moves. If it was a positive experience, this could indicate good fortune or future opportunities coming your way.
What It Means If You Dream About Having A Crush On Someone You Don't Really Like
Dreaming about someone you don't actually like in the waking world means that even though you may hide your dislike for them, you subconsciously do like certain qualities about them. While they might not be romantic feelings, think of any redeeming traits about this person.
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Maatie Kalokoh is a writer and former contributor to YourTango. She covers astrology, numerology, pop culture and relationships.