10 Reasons The Bible Says To Wait Until Marriage To Have Sex, According To Scripture

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What Does The Bible Say About Sex Before Marriage, According To Bible Scripture

Is it wrong to have sex before marriage? It's a common question asked by Christians once they have fallen in love or finally are engaged.

If you're engaged to be married, it might seem natural to explore sexual relations with your future spouse.

You have already promised to be together in your hearts, so what's the big deal if you're just waiting for a piece of paper, right?

Paper is the law's way of saying you're married. Isn't marriage a spiritual concept that is done before God and consummated by intimate relations?

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Of course, these types of statements appear to be logical, but there's more to the act of commitment in your heart that goes into being husband and wife and sharing the joy of intimacy with each other.

According to the Bible, God loves intimacy and designed humans to long for it with their partner.

He intended for intimate expression to be safe, so he made sexuality within marriage in a way where pretty much any kind of sex is allowed as long as both adults are consenting to what they are doing.

This is put under the idea that both partners are married to one another. Therefore if they aren’t married Christians are taught that God doesn't see it as morally right and the act of sex is considered either adultery or fornication.

Why is sex outside of marriage wrong? Sex is meant to be gift god gives you for being a partnership not just with your husband/wife but to learn more about yourselves through a relationship with him in the center (emotionally and spiritually), too.

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For this reason, the Bible is pretty clear. It tells us to not give your partner sexual passion until you both are married.

It’s also the case that one you and your partner repeatedly have sex then the magic dies out. If you were given a cheesecake every single day you would grow tired of it, same is to be said with having sex.

God made this scripture according to many preachers today to keep marriage not only a great thing that we can experience but as a way to keep couples together.

God sees that couples have monogamous and loving relationships may be unnatural to humans innately but what is morally right to making a more greater civilized world.

As a 19 year old who’s not planning on marrying someone(at least right now) I don’t know but could imagine that engagement is a special time.

During that time people can become inclined to do it more, but just like how you wait till Christmas morning to open up your gifts it’s ideal to wait till you're fully married with your husband/wife to begin having sex.

It is important to say that just because you two plan to get married doesn’t mean it will happen. In modern terms, if Pam and Roy from The Office has taught us anything it’s that sometimes even a person you said yes to when they proposed may end up being not the right person for you.

Let’s take a look at some Bible verses to see what scriptures found in the World English Version Bible say about waiting to have sex until marriage.
1. Sex is for procreation and pleasure.

And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on the earth.” (Genesis 1:28)

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2. Mutual respect makes intimacy better.

However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband. (Ephesians 5:33)

3. Waiting for sex until marriage teaches you self-discipline.

For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4)

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4. How you treat your spouse matters, and it's harder once you have 'the title'.

Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. (Colossians 3:19, WEB)

5. Practicing patience before marriage will help you when you are husband and wife.

Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful. (1 Corinthians 13:4-5)

6. Marriage and lust don't mix.

But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion. (1 Corinthians 7:9)

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7. Sex is a gateway to experiencing spirituality, similar to your relationship with God.

...the body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body. (1 Corinthians 6:13)

8. Sex forms a spiritual bond that's safe within marriage.

He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” (Matthew 19:4-6)

9. Waiting for sex until marriage doesn't always guarantee that your partner had pure intentions.

If any man takes a wife and goes in to her and then hates her and accuses her of misconduct and brings a bad name upon her, saying, ‘I took this woman, and when I came near her, I did not find in her evidence of virginity,’ then the father of the young woman and her mother shall take and bring out the evidence of her virginity to the elders of the city in the gate.

And the father of the young woman shall say to the elders, ‘I gave my daughter to this man to marry, and he hates her; and behold, he has accused her of misconduct, saying, “I did not find in your daughter evidence of virginity.” And yet this is the evidence of my daughter's virginity.’ And they shall spread the cloak before the elders of the city. (Deuteronomy 22:13-21)

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10. Divorce was never part of the plan, yet some spouses are incapable of unconditional love.

And Pharisees came up and in order to test him asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” He answered them, “What did Moses command you?” They said, “Moses allowed a man to write a certificate of divorce and to send her away.”

And Jesus said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart he wrote you this commandment. But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ (Mark 10:2-12)

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Steven Hall is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.