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No one is a fan of being ignored.
By Jesse Oakley — Written on Jun 20, 2019
Silence is an interesting concept of the universe.
For some of us, we need it so we can sleep at night. For others, we need it to work well.
However, some people use this thing called the silent treatment and it's meant to control the other person.
The silent treatment is using cold distance to trigger an emotional response or fear of abandonment in the other person, and opens the door to codependency and a dangerous dance that is formed through a toxic bond.
And some just like the silence for the peace and quiet it brings. It can provide a sort of relaxation you can’t get through other means.
But sometimes silence can also make us uncomfortable and it's hard to know how to handle it.
Like when a classroom is talking and it all of the sudden falls quiet. Or when you really have to cough but you’re in the middle of a lecture where everyone is silent. Worst of all, how about when you get stuck with your ex that you just broke up with two weeks ago? Talk about AWKWARD silence.
Regardless of the situation, silence is just another fundamental part of the universe. It’s no different than the sunlight or the air we breathe.
It’s something that’s always there, one way or another. I mean, even in space it’s a silence vacuum. So, why is it that when someone gives us the silent treatment, it can be so...ugh? Is the silent treatment so different than regular silence?
As human beings, no matter your personality or your sign, we hate being ignored. We want attention from others when we do something.
If you put on a good show, you want to be praised. If you’re crying, you want someone to tell you it’ll be okay.
Either way, you want people to look at you when you doing something even as simple as talking.
So when you’re boyfriend/girlfriend or best friend gives you the silent treatment, it’s the worst feeling.
It leaves you wondering why they’re acting like that, and how can you fix it? No matter the reason, you know you hate it.
But why do you hate it and how should you handle it? Well here’s why, by your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
For Aries, you hate the silent treatment because of their impatience. If you don’t get an answer right away it drives you crazy! You have to know why he/she is acting like that. Try just asking why.
TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
When someone is suddenly cold to a Taurus like you, it really puts you off. Your insecurities start to rise and it makes you all anxious. Though you try not to let it bother you, the silent treatment really does get to you. If they're going to ignore you, then ignore them.
GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
If you're a Gemini, you're kind and like to have fun, so when you get the silent treatment it makes you nervous. You’re a people person, so it’s hard to understand why someone wouldn’t want to talk to you.
Just keeping having fun around them though and they're sure to come around.
CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
If you're a Cancer, you hate the silent treatment because it makes you really emotional.
That can lead to the worst qualities coming out, so you’re more likely to lash out at the person not speaking to you rather than try to talk it out. Try to keep a cool head through the ordeal.
LEO (July 23 – August 22)
If you’re a Leo, you absolutely hate being ignored. If someone doesn’t want to talk to you, then fine. Who needs them anyways?
You’ll resort to just cutting someone out of your life if they give you silence. Don't act so rash though, you might be overeacting.
VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
For Virgos, the silent treatment brings about a lot of self-blame. You’re too shy to try to figure out why it’s happening.
So instead you just sit and stew about all your faults and why those are probably the reason why he/she won’t talk to you. Try not to be so harsh, both on yourself on the silent treatment giver, and just relax.
LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
All a Libra wants is to get along, so when a silent confrontation arises, it makes you very uncomfortable.
While you might also get upset with that person internally, you’d never say it to their face because you’re afraid of making things worse.
You just want it to all blow over. Most importantly, don't give yourself panic attack over it.
SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
If you're a Scorpio, you hate the silent treatment because it puts you on high alert.
If someone’s refusing to speak then something must be up.
You become skeptical of not only the one individual, but of everyone else around you.
Don't put yourself into a suspicion spiral because it's probably not as dangerous as it seems.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
A Sagittarius isn’t going to be too bothered by the silent treatment, but with a strong sense of curiosity, you’ll still want to know why.
And when you do, you go at it full-force until you find your answer. Don't leave them alone until they answer you.
CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
You Capricorns hate the silent treatment because it’s just another problem to deal with.
Rather than trying to find out why you’re getting the cold shoulder, you’d rather just berate them and let them deal with you.
Try not to get too angry. Breathe, just breathe.
AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
An Aquarius like you is a good conversationalist, so getting the silent treatment might lead you to just keep digging at the person.
Keeping talking until you hit something you know they like and maybe they’ll talk back.
People have a hard time resisting their favorite topics.
PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
If you're a Pisces, you hate the silent treatment because it makes you super self-conscious.
You worried if a person is acting that way toward you because of something you did in the past.
And instead of trying to figure things out, you just make yourself into a victim.
Try to not let yourself worry so much.
Jesse Oakley is a writer who writes about love, relationships and self-care.