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How many second chances are you willing to give someone?
By Emily Ratay — Written on Jun 02, 2019
It sucks to have to say this, but none of us – in the whole wide world – has ever had a perfect relationship with zero issues.
Challenges, heartbreak, and arguments are all a part of life and love, whether we want them to be or not.
And while it might not sound like a very logical thing to say, you should embrace the challenges and difficulties that your relationship brings you because it gives you a chance to work through them together. Ultimately, you want to be a team with your significant other – on the same team, I might add. And the best way to be on the same team?
By learning how to tackle any issue or problem that comes up together, instead of taking opposite teams and butting heads.
While there are some zodiac couples out there who are much more likely to stay together for a long time and live happily ever after, that doesn’t make them any less immune to the challenges that come with all relationships.
Sure, these couples might know how to work through a problem a little bit better than never-gonna-happen zodiac couples, but they’re still as human as the rest of us.
Whether you’re in a good relationship – or a relationship at all – has nothing to do with whether or not you’d give a straying partner a second (or third) chance.
Some zodiac signs just can’t help but be forgiving and kind to the people they care about… it’s just in their nature to turn the other cheek.
Other zodiac signs, however, will barely forgive you for something that was an honest mistake, let alone bring you back into their lives after being unfaithful. Does taking back a cheater make you a terrible person? Honestly, no, it does not.
There are reasons for everything we do for love, including forgiving someone who has been unfaithful to you. I’ve forgiven my exes for a lot of not-so-great things, including being dishonest with me.
I’m not proud of myself, but it was also a learning process that I’m glad I went through. I wouldn’t forgive someone now for something I’ve forgiven in the past, but I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn from my mistakes, whether they turned out to be positive experiences or negative ones.
My point is, don’t beat yourself up for wanting to keep the one who committed infidelity around, after seeing the signs and confirming that a breech of trust has happened. Letting yourself grow and telling yourself, “Hey, you deserve better than this person who clearly doesn’t treat you well,” is a learning curve that requires practice and patience.
And, because it’s so important to note too, there’s nothing wrong whatsoever with being forgiving and kind-hearted, even if it does take time for the relationship to bounce back.
It is a good idea to set boundaries and know when someone doesn’t deserve a second chance, but that comes with the learning, too.
Here are the zodiac signs who give cheaters a second chance vs. the ones who walk away and never look back, according to astrology.
1. PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces gives out second chances like candy. She’s a very forgiving zodiac sign, even when it doesn’t do her any favors. In her mind, life shouldn’t be full of holding grudges and making enemies. She’d much rather forgive and forget if it means things can go back to normal.
Of course, giving cheaters second chances almost always means giving them third and fourth changes, as well. But that’s for us to know and Pisces to find out. Pisces likes to think that her heart is a lot more loving and forgiving than people think, and that she has every right to give whoever she wants a second chance. We just worry about what that will do to her in the long run.
2. LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libra forgives cheaters and gives them second chances because it means she gets to avoid confrontation. There’s a difference between having someone admit that they’ve cheated on you and having to confront them about it, and Libra would honestly prefer to do neither.
Libra gives cheaters second chances because it means not having to go through what happens after learning that they’ve been cheating on her. It’s exhausting to have the argument, the moving out, the talking about it with friends – it can be cathartic, but it’s also just hard for her. She’d rather avoid all the heartache and try to start over.
3. TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
Taurus’ stubbornness can work in her favor in a lot of different situations, but when it comes to deciding to give cheaters a second chance, it’s probably better if she weren’t so stubborn. Taurus doesn’t want to give up a good thing, even if it means deciding to stay with a cheater.
If you ask Taurus why exactly she’s decided to give her cheating S.O. a second chance, she would probably admit that she hates change. Having to start over with someone new is difficult for her, even if it means being with someone better for her. Just between you and me, I think Taurus would rather be uncomfortable or unhappy than to go through change, even for the better.
4. CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
Cancer is probably the most forgiving sign of the zodiac. She has infinite “I forgive yous” in her arsenal, and if she cares deeply for you, she’s more likely to forgive you for an indiscretion than boot you out of her life for good. Is this always the smartest strategy? No, but that’s Cancer for you.
Cancer will give cheaters second chances if she can justify why they cheated on her. When someone means the world to her, she’s likely to give them the benefit of the doubt and forgive with open arms. That doesn’t mean her feelings aren’t hurt, but it does mean she’ll try to move past the scandal.
5. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarius likes to keep things casual and unattached, which means that while you’re cheating on her, she’s probably cheating on you. Too harsh? As someone who isn’t too interested in serious relationships, cheating really isn't a big deal. Sure, it sucks knowing that you’re not what you thought you were to someone, but Sagittarius doesn’t like to get hung up on things like that.
Sagittarius will give her cheater a second chance because she likes to think that she’s in control. If she doesn’t care, or she tells her cheater that it’s all good, she likes to think that she’s taking the situation into her own hands. Is this true? Maybe, maybe not. It’s up to Sagittarius to decide if this is a good path for her to take or not.
6. GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
I say this with as much kindness as possible, but Gemini has a short-term memory. She might have told you that things were over between you two last week, but this week, she’s talking to you like you’re still together. This doesn’t mean you can get away with cheating on her, but it does mean that she doesn’t take these things too seriously.
Like other zodiac signs who prefer to keep their relationships casual, Gemini doesn’t like to dwell on things that aren’t incredibly important. Gemini would rather keep it all casual with no strings attached so that no one gets hurt. As someone who has more than a few people in her rotation, this mindset makes sense for her.
7. ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
When Aries finds out that you cheated on her, you’ll know right away. As a fire sign, she has a very fiery, passionate personality that comes out in full force – Aries does not want to be taken advantage of, and she does not want to be made a fool of. If you cheat on Aries, she will let you know exactly how she feels about it.
That said, Aries is not the kind of zodiac sign to hold grudges for too long. That doesn’t mean she’s going to want to give you a second chance, but it does mean that she’s likely to forgive and move on. Aries doesn’t want to live her life getting hung up on all the bad things in life when she can use her time being happy and unbothered.
8. CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Capricorn believes that it’s more important to fight for her relationship than to throw it away over an indiscretion or two. That said, she also knows when enough is enough. Capricorn doesn’t want to give up on something good, but she also doesn’t want to be taken advantage of.
Don’t underestimate Capricorn. Even if she decides to forgive you after cheating on her, it doesn’t mean she isn’t keeping a close eye on you. Capricorn will only give someone a second chance if she deems it worthwhile to her. Otherwise, girl bye!
9. AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
We all like to think that we’re pros at relationships, but the truth of the matter is that we’re all kind of floundering, Aquarius included. She likes to think that she has the wherewithal to know when to stay and when to walk away, but as a zodiac sign who prefers hook-ups to long-term relationships, she always seems to have a lot of half-started relationships going on.
Aquarius succumbs to on again, off again relationships all the time. She will give you a second chance if she feels like your indiscretion isn’t going to ruin what you have together. That said, she’ll also walk away and never look back if you prove to her that you’re just keeping her around to use her. She might not always have the best luck in the love department, but she certainly tries her hardest to make the right decisions for herself.
10. LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo likes to think that she’s above her cheaters – and she is. She doesn’t have time to forgive you for cheating on her because she’s onto bigger and better things. If Leo only trusts one thing in the entire world, it’s her gut. She wants to make sure that everything she does in life is the right thing for her future, so giving a cheater a second chance is a no-go.
Leo is very self-sufficient. She doesn’t need an S.O. to complete her, she only needs someone to complement her. If you prove to her that she’s not worth your full attention, she’ll walk away and never look back. Don’t think she won’t!
11. VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Let’s cut to the point: Virgo would rather be single than be with a cheater. She is not the type of person to forgive and forget if you walk all over her heart like she’s nothing to you. Virgo has enough self-control for all of the zodiac signs, and she proves it by sticking to her guns when faced with the choice to give you a second chance or not.
When you prove to Virgo that all of the time and effort that she’s put into her relationship with you means nothing, she will walk away and never look back. She won’t give you time to change your ways, either. You either have her in your life or you don’t – it’s your decision to cheat or not, but it’s her choice in the end.
12. SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
Loyalty and honesty are huge to Scorpio. Everything she does in life is based on the foundation of having people in her life that she can rely on. If you cheat on her, you immediately prove to her that her loyalty isn’t important to you.
Scorpio will burn bridges the minute your loyalty to her wavers. So, when it comes to cheating, you can almost always guarantee that she will kick you out of her life for good. You’re either all in or you’re not in at all when it comes to Scorpio. One slip-up and she will walk away forever and never look back – count on that.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.