What Frightens You Most, Per Astrology
There's always that one dark thought in the back of your mind.
pexels Every zodiac sign has something that they are afraid of.
As much as you try to put on a confident face to the world, there are still things that keep you up at night. Whether you fear something like old creaky houses or monsters or more along the lines of never falling in love or failure, we all deal with fear in our own way.
Oftentimes, the fear we feel come from past mistakes or experiences, rather than something we make up in our imaginations. For example, when you were younger, you might have been afraid of the monsters under your bed, which you probably learned about from reading books or watching television.
When you got older, though, your concerns might have changed into something like being mortified to be in a committed relationship, which might have stemmed from a past experience in your life.
My point is, as we grow up, our fears morph and change into things that feel more realistic and possible, rather than something that is more or less just cooked up in our imaginations.
Even if your fear isn’t likely to happen to you in your life, it’s still more probable than finding yourself face-to-face with the monster under your bed. So, where do these fears come from?
Sometimes, we develop fears from past experiences, like I said before. You might be worried that you'll never find love because of a bad relationship in your past.
Other times, our fears come from the “nature vs. nurture” argument, meaning that you may have learned to fear failure because of something your parents ingrained in your mind while you were growing up.
No matter where your fear comes from, it’s up to YOU to conquer it.
What we often forget is that acknowledging that being scared is what adds fuel to the fire. Sure, your parents might have planted that little seed of the fear of failure in you, but letting that fear control everything you do after that only makes the fear grow bigger.
Take myself, for example. This exact thing happened to me. When I was growing up, I was afraid of failing because my parents always made me believe that I was responsible for my own success, as well as my younger sister’s success.
So, every time I screwed up even a little bit, I worried that I had ruined both of our lives – the mistakes I made were the same mistakes we ALL make growing up, but I felt that fear growing with every little slip-up.
That fear ended up turning me into a perfectionist that is never totally satisfied with the work I do, but I’m also working on letting myself embrace failure and learn from my mistakes, rather than never making mistakes at all.
It’s not going to be easy to get rid of your fears, but each zodiac sign has strengths that help us conquer the things we are frightened about the most. All it takes is some willpower and the courage to want to move on from the things we’re afraid of.
Here are the fears that scare your zodiac sign the most, according to astrology.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
You’re a big personality, Aries. People might think of you as “in your face” or aggressive, but you really just want your voice to be heard. One of your biggest fears is being ignored or forgotten. People sometimes forget that when you speak up, it’s because you have something to say – not because you just like hearing yourself talk.
You are also always in search of the next big thrill. I mean, hey, life is too short to not enjoy every minute, amirite? You sometimes also fear boredom and routine in life. You’re worried that you’ll wake up one day and feel like you’re living the same boring day over and over. It scares you to think that you may lose your excitement and love for life.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
As an earth sign, Taurus, stability is everything to you. No matter what you do in life, you must have a sense of security. One of your biggest fears is the chaos that comes with not having a plan. As someone who tries to plan for everything, you worry that you’ll one day come across a situation where you won’t have time to plan.
Another one of your biggest fears is change. You hate the idea of being rushed into any new situation or experience; you want to do everything on your own time. When you’re rushed, it’s like being pushed into a situation blindfolded with no roadmap – where do you go from here? Change is daunting, but it’s not impossible to embrace. It’s only your fear of change that clouds your confidence.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Your friends certainly love the fact that they can always get ahold of you, Gemini, but do they know the real reason why you’re always glued to your phone? It’s partly because you like being connected to the people in your life, but it’s also party because you fear loneliness. Even when you’re alone, you’re never truly on your own – you still have access to everyone.
In addition to loneliness, you fear routine. You worry that one day, you’ll end up living a life that’s full of the same routine day in and day out, all with no end in sight. Maybe you surround yourself with so many people and stimuli to shut that fear out, but it’s important to embrace alone time as much as you do time with friends and family.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
As much as you would love to live a life that is full of comfort and safety, it’s never that easy, Cancer. One of your biggest fears is taking risks. Getting out of your comfort zone isn’t easy because it means trying new things and possibly failing. As someone who loves being a nurturing, kind force in everyone’s life, the thought of not having an answer or dealing with failure scares you.
You also fear the unknown. With new experience comes diving into the unknown with both feet. You dislike taking risks and going into something new without all the facts because it means you could be setting yourself up for embarrassment or failure. It’s not always like that, Cancer, but you can’t always stop those self-deprecating thoughts, either.
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
Leo, you are destined for greatness – it’s in your blood. You know how to work hard and put your nose to the grindstone, and for all of that perseverance, you get what you want in life. Where others may fail, you know how to push forward toward success. That said, one of your biggest fears is anonymity, or not getting the recognition you deserve.
Now, you don’t need to slap your name on every creation and success of yours, but you do like knowing that your hard work hasn’t gone to waste. You fear being forgotten or ignored for something that is vastly important to you. As a very intentional zodiac sign, you don’t do things just for the heck of it. Everything you do in life is meaningful to you, and you’d love for people to recognize that, as well.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
Almost your whole life – if not your entire life – revolves around being prepared, Virgo. You’re the friend who always has a plan for the weekend, the one who always has an extra hairband in your bag or change in your pocket. For you, always being of service to those in need and having an answer for everything is, well, everything to you.
That’s why one of your biggest fears is being helpless – not just helpless for other people's sake, but for your own sake, too. It scares you to think of a time when you don’t have your sh*t together or when people don’t come to you first for help. You feel lost when you don’t have all the answers, and you fear what that can do to you in the long run.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
You know you can be indecisive, Libra, but you feel that it’s all for a good reason. One of the things you hate most is being pressured into making decisions before you’re ready, or before you’re able to see all angles of a situation. One of your biggest fears is being pressured to be someone you’re not, simply because someone wants you to change yourself.
Your other big fear is the future. Not so much what the future has in store for you, or even being unable to let go of the past, but making the wrong decisions and ending up regretting things in your life. Hanging onto these fears is just going to close you off to so much good in the world, but at the same time, I think we can all relate to how scary the future can be.
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
One of your biggest fears, Scorpio, is opening up to people. You fear that one day, you’ll give someone your whole heart, and they’ll turn around and completely crush you. Being able to fall in love or trust someone blindly is near impossible for you. Does that make you a bad person? Of course not. Will that fear one day catch up to you? Yes.
One of your other fears is loss. Not only is opening up to others scary, but the risk of losing someone you care about deeply is even scarier. Unfortunately, we can’t run from loss – no matter what kind of loss that is. Loss is a part of life, and facing your fears is a way to learn from the past and move forward fearlessly.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
People tend to separate the things they dislike in life and their fears from each other, but the things you hate are also some of your biggest fears, Sagittarius. One of the things you hate is being told that you can’t do something – and one of your biggest fears is feeling like there’s no more opportunity to grow.
For you, life is about learning and growing. If you can’t do those things every single day, you feel like you’re failing somehow. You’re fearful of one day not having any more opportunity to expand your knowledge or explore a new place. You fear turning into one of those people satisfied with a life that’s not full of excitement or challenge.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
You’re willing to do the legwork in life if it means getting you closer to your goals, Capricorn. You are one of the most motivated, determined zodiac signs, and it shows in your dedication to your work. That’s probably one of the fears you most often think about is failure. The thought of putting your all into a project or task, just for you to fail anyway, is hard to wrap your head around.
If you’re not careful, this attachment to your fear of failure can make you spiral into a lifetime of negative self-talk. Your other biggest fear is making careless mistakes because you’re so caught up in your head about not failing. Failing is a part of succeeding – you of all people know that. It’s up to you to make failure work in your favor instead of bringing you down. Right, Capricorn?
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
Nothing is worse to you than being just like everyone else, Aquarius. You’ve never been one to go with the flow, and you’ve always tried your hardest to be as original and authentic as possible. The fear that you think about the most is blending in with the crowd; just being another “nobody” instead of a “somebody.”
You also fear that, because you work so hard to be your own person and show others your authenticity, people think you’re trying too hard to be different or stand out. It’s important to you to be your own person. And while you try not to let other people’s opinions affect you, fear affects you much, much differently than a few opinions.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
One of the most important things in life to you is making sure that people like you, Pisces. Now, I know this sounds shallow, but it’s not meant to sound like that at all. Having a strong support system is everything to you. One of the fears you think about the most is wondering if the day will come when someone you care about deeply will leave your life for good.
Luckily, one of your best qualities is adaptability. When things aren’t going the way you planned them, you know how to adjust your sails and keep moving forward. That said, you still fear the reality that life isn’t always going to be sunshine and butterflies. Sure, you can adapt, but it doesn’t make it any less difficult to adapt to a less-than-perfect situation. Just don’t let your fears rule your life, Pisces. Nothing good ever comes of it.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.