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Don't make them chose.
By Christine Schoenwald — Written on Jun 04, 2019
There’s a thin line between being a serial dater and a player. Both like to date a lot of people, avoid commitment for as long as they can, and tend to be lone wolves. The thing that may set them apart is intention. Serial daters want to find the right person and possibly settle down, while players like having multiple people to see and schmooze.
If you’re dating someone new, it’s good to know if you’re on the same page relationship-wise. You don’t want to waste your time as part of a dating pool if it’s never going to get whittled down and you want to be in a committed relationship with just one person.
Here’s where astrology can help, especially if you're one of the zodiac signs who are serial daters. If you suspect that the person you’ve started seeing is a serial dater, and you know what you want, you can control your expectations. If you’re cool with a loose, friends with benefits kind of thing, that's cool, but if you want to be in a relationship, you know to move on.
Maybe they’re a serial dater and want to keep their options open. When they find someone they click with, they’ll become more exclusive with who they date. Whatever happens, you don’t want to compete for your potential partner’s attention with someone else... unless your dream is going on The Bachelor, in which case, keep dating this way.
1. GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Making decisions and committing to one person are both challenging to Geminis. You can tell they're a serial dater by how they break plans at the last minute. They make a lot of promises but don't always deliver on them. It's not that they don't intend to keep their promise, it's just not at the front of their mind and they forget.
Dating is a short-term activity for them because they hate familiarity and when things become predictable. Geminis also enjoy the thrill of the chase, which they lose when they've actually got what they were going after.
2. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Sagittarians tend to spread their energy and attention a little thin. They love meeting new people and enjoy that first date feeling, so much so, they tend to repeat it. First and second dates are fun, and they love getting to know people, but relationships take work and Sagittarius doesn't have any extra energy to focus on building a relationship.
As much as Sagittarians enjoy people, they also like to be alone and don't like the feeling of having to check in with someone. They'd rather date a lot of people than just one.
3. LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
Libras can be irresistibly charming and that can be a sign of a serial dater. Not that all charming people are serial daters, but this trait helps because you know what to say, how to say it, and you can appear to be the whole package without ever revealing your true self or intentions.
Libras who are serial daters may be afraid of emotional intimacy and will use their charismatic persona as a way to prevent people from getting too close.
4. CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
This may be a surprise, but one of the signs of a serial dater is being a workaholic. And who's the most hard-working of the zodiac signs? That's right: Capricorn. They're so busy working that they don't have time to commit to one person.
Capricorns like to have fun and have a large sexual appetite, so dating a lot of people can satisfy those needs without the effort a relationship might take. A Capricorn serial dater, however, may not want to open up to people about anything personal, so dating several people at once keeps things on a casual level.
5. PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
Pisces love romance, but often times, their romantic expectations don't live up to reality. They love those first few dates where everything is exciting and they're giddy with excitement, but as real life starts to take over the fantasy, Pisces can become disappointed.
They want their potential partners to compete for their affection and make huge romantic gestures, but not everyone is like that. For Pisces, the love stories they have in their imagination are often much better than the ones in real time.
Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and astrology lover. She has written over 500 articles on the zodiac signs and how the stars influence us. She's had articles in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, Woman's Day, and is a contributing writer to Ravishly, I AM & CO, and YourTango. Check out her website, her Facebook writer's page, and her Instagram.