The Real Reason Why You Can't Get A Date Lately, Per Astrology
The real reason dating feels so difficult recently.
Unsplash When you’ve been single for a while, it can put a damper on your mood and your self-confidence. Some horoscope signs prefer being single over being in a relationship, but we still all crave human connection every once in a while.
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Having a hard time finding people to date is frustrating. You might feel like you’re doing everything right, but there is just something that keeps standing in your way to happiness. This drawn-out bout of singlehood is also usually when the self-deprecating thoughts start.
Why don’t people want to date me? I must not be very pretty or smart or worth the time. All of my friends are constantly dating people, but when it comes to me, I just can’t seem to catch a break. Should I even keep trying?
These thoughts (and more) will most definitely keep you up at night if you don’t stop them in their tracks. Yes, being single isn’t always fun, especially if it’s not your choice to be single, but there are ways to get back into the dating game and find someone who complements you.
First, though, I think it’s important to note that while we don’t all appreciate life as much when we’re single, it’s still important to learn how to be on your own. You might not always be in a relationship, and you might not actually want to always be in a relationship, but when you take the time to be on your own, you learn how to love yourself and enjoy your own company a little more.
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Now, back to dating. Think about how you usually find people to date. Do you always frequent the same bars? Or do you prefer to use dating apps? Maybe your dating strategy is no strategy at all, hoping you’ll look cute enough for someone to approach you when you’re out at yoga next.
Look, I understand that your intentions are well-meaning, but doing the same thing over and over, shying away from IRL interaction, and not doing anything at all are not great ways to meet potential partners. If your dating life feels stale, it’s probably time to mix things up and try something different for a change.
Yes, I know it might be scary at first, but dating is all about putting yourself out there, right? Maybe this new strategy will be fruitful for you! Using some astrology, here’s why you can’t get a date lately, based on your zodiac sign.
ARIES (March 21 - April 19)
It's obviously important to be yourself when you're meeting someone new, Aries, but you sometimes take things to their absolute limit. We all adore the fact that you're willing to be more than honest and share TMI, but at the same time, that could be the exact reason you're not dating anyone right now.
Learn how to save things for later. I know it sounds kind of gross, but be like an onion. Every time you go on another date with someone, peel back another layer of your personality and surprise them with someone new. There's no rule that says you have to show all of your cards upfront, so make them want to know more about you by only indulging their curiosity a little bit at a time.
TAURUS (April 20 - May 20)
When do you find yourself thinking the most about how hard it is to find people to date, Taurus? Is it in your apartment? Because if it is, I hate to say it, but that right there is your reason. You actually have to go out and meet people to date them. Don’t assume they’re going to know about you from the comfort of your couch.
It’s time to stop being lazy and get out there and show people what a catch you are. There’s nothing wrong with being a homebody, but learn to find yourself outside of your apartment, too. Even if you’re just going out with friends, you still have a better chance of finding someone.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
That restless mind of yours is actually good for something, Gemini – digital dating! Dating apps are how you snag the most potential partners before you weed out the best ones through the process of elimination.
Maybe work's been kicking your butt, or you've just been putting in more quality time with your squad IRL, but the reason you're having trouble finding people to date is because you're not giving your dating profiles enough attention! It's time for a new photo, an updated bio, and a thumb work-out (you know, swiping left and right). Don't be afraid to meet people in person too, but don't forget about your digital presence, either.
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
You certainly like what you like, Cancer. Mint chocolate chip ice cream, shoes that are both comfortable AND chic, guys with sarcastic humor, and girls with nose rings. While that’s all well and good, you’re also kind of limiting yourself a bit.
The reason you can’t find a date? You’re too reliant on your “type” and too comfortable dating the same people over and over. If you can’t find a guy who’s taller than you by three or more inches, he’s out? That can’t be fair. Learn how to branch out a bit more, and you might just surprise yourself with a new “type.”
LEO (July 23 - August 22)
You LOVE your squad to death, Leo, that we know about you. At any given time, you are typing away in the group chat, going out with your BFFs for coffee and brunch, or meeting everyone at your local hot spot. In short, you feel most at home when you're surrounded by people.
Unfortunately, all of these people are the reason you feel like you haven't dated in ages. Sure, it's always a good idea to have a wing-man or -woman, but if you have an entire fleet of people surrounding you at all times, it's actually pretty nerve-wracking for a stranger to try to get to know you. Next time you want to try to meet someone new, only take two or three friends with you so that you're not alone but can still seem approachable.
VIRGO (August 23 - September 22)
It’s certainly easy to feel overwhelmed when you’re browsing potential partners on dating apps or scoping out someone your BFF thought might be a good match for you. Of course, when we get too overwhelmed, what do we do? We start getting picky.
The reason you’re having trouble finding someone to date, Virgo, is because you’re too picky. Some things are non-negotiable, I get it. But there are a lot of qualities you don’t see just from looking at someone’s Tinder profile. The more people you weed out, the less there are to date.
LIBRA (September 23 - October 22)
You know that you want to be in a loving, lasting relationship, and you know it’s gonna take some time to cultivate, but don’t give up hope when you’re having trouble finding the right person. Libra, life is about learning from our mistakes and trying again, is it not?
Don’t get me wrong, feeling frustrated and wanting to give up when you haven’t dated in a long time is horrible. But it’s also very common. You’re a naturally social butterfly. Don’t let a few snags in your ultimate relationship plan turn you into a wallflower. Even when it feels useless, put yourself out there and keep your chin up. It’s gonna happen!
SCORPIO (October 23 - November 21)
No one will deny that you’re an intensely intense zodiac sign of intenseness, Scorpio. You love and live hardcore. Honestly? Before you take this the wrong way, that’s one of the best things about you. Anyone who dates you knows that they’re going to get the whole you, every time.
When it feels like you’re having trouble finding people to date, though, it might be because of this lovely thing everyone likes about you. Remember not to take dating too seriously. It’s okay to flub over a question or spill wine on your pants. When people see your best side, they’re going to want to date you a whole heck of a lot harder, Scorpio.
SAGITTARIUS (November 22 - December 21)
Everyone knows that you're one of the most fun people to be around, Sagittarius. Even people who have only just met you know that you're a blast. In fact, your personality is usually what makes people flock to you (and make you the center of attention).
You really have a lot of good qualities about you, but one thing that we should talk about is how you "amplify" your personality in order to attract more people. The reason you're not finding anyone to date is because this over-the-top personality feels so unlike you, and your approach to meeting new people seems fake. Remember to be your authentic self above all else. If people can't handle that, they aren't worth your time, baby.
CAPRICORN (December 22 - January 19)
Let’s cut to the chase because I know that’s how you like to do things, Capricorn. The reason you’re having trouble finding people to date is because you treat dates like interviews. There’s a difference between asking questions to get to know someone and grilling them.
Small talk sucks, I get it. But unfortunately, that’s pretty standard when you first meet someone. Give people a chance to open themselves up to you instead of feeling like they have only a few minutes to impress you. The 90s are over, Capricorn, and speed dating is OUT.
AQUARIUS (January 20 - February 18)
You're not a huge fan of following tradition and doing what everyone else is doing ALL the time, but there are some routines you like to partake in, Aquarius. One of those routines is hitting up the same bars and hot spots whenever you're with your squad.
What can you say? You like what you like! But when it comes to getting over the struggle of finding people to date, it's probably a good idea to try new places. I mean, chances are pretty high that you've already scoped out your favorite bar for hotties, right? Be the person we all know and love you as, the one that tries new things, and start looking for potential partners in places you DON'T frequent.
PISCES (February 19 - March 20)
The reason you’re having such a hard time getting dates lately, Pisces, is because of that serious gray cloud following you around. Whether you’re doing it intentionally or not, negative self-talk is making it harder for you to find someone to be with.
Stop making yourself out to be the victim and stop telling yourself that you’re never going to find someone to date you. Believe it or not, people can actually feel that kind of negative energy on you. Being mopey and negative is actually driving people away from you.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a non-fiction book in the future.