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Don't take these signs for granted.
By Emily Ratay — Written on Mar 25, 2019
There are some friends who would do anything for you.
I’m not saying none of your friends love you enough to help you when you’re in a pickle, but I am saying that some of your friends can tolerate every little thing a lot better than others can.
Think about all of the times you’ve complained about your boyfriend or the fact that your car always needs repairs or something along that vein. Surely, your friends listened to you the first few times, but whining is only tolerable for so long.
I can say that I am one of those friends who will tune someone out if all they ever do is complain (at least I try to tune them out).
But for other people, that’s not something that crosses their minds. All they see is someone who needs a friend to complain to and help them, even if their issue doesn’t get resolved in the end.
These are the friends that you should cherish always. And no, “cherish” does not mean “take advantage of.” Just because you have a BFF who will ALWAYS put up with your crap, no matter how tiring it gets, that doesn’t mean you get to use them as your own personal punching bag; they’re still your friend and deserve to be treated like a friend.
What I mean is that not everyone will be the friend who will put up with you on endless occasions, so when you find someone that does, keep them close.
It is also worth noting that if you are one of those people who can’t tolerate ANY crap whatsoever, that it’s not because you’re not a ride or die friend.
You can still be someone’s BFF and want them to be independent. It’s when you decide that the friendship isn’t worth listening to your BFF’s newest issue that you need to decide if you need to break up with her.
These types of people – the ones who can withstand all of your crankiness and complaining – are pretty easy to spot. They are the friends who always make time to listen to you vent, are the kindest souls, and are the types of people who say things like, “I thought about you today” – in other words, the nicest, sweetest people.
They also tend to share the same zodiac signs.
While some signs (mine included) are known for telling you to suck it up and deal with your own crap, these signs will drop everything they’re doing just to make your life a little easier.
Of course, some of them are more inclined to put up with your crap if you put up with theirs (friendship deserves equal effort, after all), but all in all, these signs are still the most selfless of the zodiac.
Whether you’re curious to know how your horoscope defines you and your tolerance for complaining and annoying friends, or you want to know if your BFF is one of these signs – so you can give her a giant hug and her favorite bath bomb from Lush as a thank you for putting up with you.
For now, keep reading about what astrology has to say regarding each horoscope sign for an insight into which signs are most likely to put up with you and your crap (and which ones aren’t).
CANCER (June 21 - July 22)
One thing you can’t call Cancer, no matter how much you want to, is selfish. She will go above and beyond for the people she loves, which means she’s most likely to be the friend who puts up with all of your crap. Whether you’re dealing with a bad break up and don’t want to spend the night alone, or you feel like your whole life is falling apart and you don’t know what to do anymore, Cancer is there to help.
Not only does she make sure that her phone is with her 24/7 in case you call, she also brings over your favorite foods, movies, and snacks when you just want to feel bad. You can cry in front of her, roll yourself up in a blanket burrito, or talk it out, and Cancer will be there to listen. Even if you accidentally lash out at her, Cancer doesn’t give up on her friends because she knows you would be there on her bad days, too.
GEMINI (May 21 - June 20)
Gemini is a really good friend to her friends, but what makes her one of the best people to put up with your crap is that she’s an awesome listener. She doesn’t just pat you on the back and sit with you until you’re feeling better. She really does want to know what’s going on and why you’re dealing with some much crap. Plus, she also knows how much better you feel after venting about everything instead of bottling it up.
Of course, if you’re going to use this time to take out your bad mood on Gemini, your friendship won’t last much longer. As your friend, Gemini demands respect. If she can respect you by listening to your problems, the least you can do is show her that you appreciate her, too. She doesn’t ask for much, just that you’ll return the favor if she ever needs to vent on her bad days.
PISCES (Feb 19 - Mar 20)
Pisces is always looking for ways to help her friends, so putting up with your crap is just one more way she can show that she cares about you. She’s also incredibly intuitive, which means that you don’t even have to tell her you’re in a funk for her to know something is up. Before you can text her, she’s at your house with ice cream, fluffy blankets, and movies with your favorite actor in them.
Pisces knows that you’re going to have bad days – days when all you want to do is yell at everyone and cry until you need to rehydrate – and she doesn’t hold that against you. What’s more, she’s a person who thinks outside the box, which means she’ll sign the two of you up for a kickboxing class when you’re mad, a yoga class when you need to relax, or laser tag when you just want to forget about it all.
LIBRA (Sept 23 - Oct 22)
Libra is the ever-diplomatic friend and hates when there is any kind of upset or discord with a friend. Even if you tell her that it’s not her fault, Libra still feels like she’s partly responsible (for whatever reason) and will do everything in her power to make sure that she makes you feel better. She’s always been very sensitive to her friends’’ feelings and wants you to know that she’d go through hell and back for you.
To some, it might feel like Libra’s friends are taking advantage of her open nature by taking out their bad moods on her. But all Libra sees is someone who just needs a friend to deal with their crap for a little while until they feel better. Just like in relationships, sometimes YOU need to be the one who puts in more effort to make the other person feel better; that’s how Libra deals with putting up with your crap when you can’t.
SCORPIO (Oct 23 - Nov 21)
Scorpio puts up with your crap simply because she is a good friend. She might not always understand what you’re going through or how to help you, but just having her around to listen and agree with you is enough. Plus, if your bad mood is about someone else giving you crap, you can always Scorpio to kick their ass for you; now that’s REAL friendship (just kidding).
Scorpio is a great person to unleash your crap on – though be careful not to keep her around just for this reason – because she’s trustworthy. She believes in keeping things confidential between friends and won’t go around spilling your secrets just because she can. She wants to be a loyal friend more than anything else, so there’s no reason for her to betray you just because you open up to her.
VIRGO (Aug 23 - Sep 22)
Virgo will put up with your crap because she is kind to her friends, but she doesn’t like being used. If all you ever do is come to her with negative emotions asking her to fix your problems, she’s going to erase you from her life. She’s a loyal friend, though, so she won’t do anything crazy until she talks to you about it, but if you acknowledge how she feels and still make her put up with your crap, she’s out of there.
Virgo loves her friends, but she won’t put up with bullsh*t. If you can’t take care of your own problems – to the point where you constantly rely on others to take care of you – you need to reevaluate. Take pointers from Virgo is you really do want to learn how to be more self-sufficient, and remember that she isn’t just there to listen to you; she’s a friend, too!
SAGITTARIUS (Nov 22 - Dec 19)
It’s not so much that Sagittarius won’t put up with your crap, but more so that she really just doesn’t care. She’s got a lot on her plate as it is, she doesn’t also need to worry about someone else. However, use this as your warning before unloading your bad day on her. She won’t be the first one to tell you that she doesn’t care. In fact, if you don’t take my word for it, you’ll have to learn the hard way.
Sagittarius wants to be liked, which means that she does whatever she can to make sure that she seems like a good friend. I’m not saying she’s bad at being a friend, but I am saying that she doesn’t know how to handle things she doesn’t care about. Instead of telling you that she’s too busy or stressed to listen to you, she ends up saying everything you want to hear from her just so that the conversation will end quickly. Not cool!
AQUARIUS (Jan 20 - Feb 18)
Aquarius handles issues in a similar fashion, except in a more stubborn way. She is an independent person who is totally capable of handling her own problems, thank you very much. She’s never been great at asking for help in the first place, but one thing she is good at is saying, “Not now, I’m too busy for you.” When you come to Aquarius complaining and generally being difficult, she immediately shuts down.
Aquarius can be pretty uncompromising when it comes to other people’s problems and when you dump your problems on her, she finds it extremely rude. She’s already considered pretty aloof, which means you can try to text her or call her so you can talk about your problems, but chances are that she’ll ignore your calls and claim she’s “busy” – all so she doesn’t have to put up with your crap.
CAPRICORN (Dec 20 - Jan 19)
Capricorn is one of the more mature signs, so having to put up with someone else’s crap is not okay. She feels that if you have to complain to someone about your problems – even if it’s your best friend and even if you’re just having a bad day – then you’re being completely childish. Real adults (according to her) are people who not only handle their own problems and bad days, but also do so with maturity.
Capricorn can also be considered pretty unforgiving when it comes to negative situations, meaning that she thinks that if you’re dealing with a lot of crap, you either deserve it or you deserve a lecture about how you need to stop acting like a child. This is awful, terrible advice, but Capricorn believes that she knows best. Maybe for her own life, but don’t let her try to tell you how to live yours.
TAURUS (Apr 20 - May 20)
Taurus wants to be a good friend, she really does, but she often lets her stubbornness get in the way. Maybe she wants to listen to your problems, but when you try to get her to put up with your crap, she feels like you’re using her. Then she doesn’t want to listen to you and she doesn’t want to tell you why she’s upset, either. Her stubborn attitude turns one little thing into a much bigger stressful event.
If I were you, I wouldn’t even TRY to get Taurus to put up with your crap. Not only will her stubbornness make it impossible to talk to her, but she’ll make you feel like your problems don’t matter. She’d rather only be around for the good times and has a hard time caring during the hard times. It’s not all her fault – she is the bull of the zodiac, after all – but there’s no excuse for her not wanting to help friends when they need it.
LEO (July 23 - Aug 22)
Leo is also one of the more inflexible signs that won’t EVER put up with your crap. She especially dislikes when people (yes, even her friends) are overly emotional about things that can easily be handled. Listen, life is tough! We all get that. But from Leo’s perspective, you can either let it consume you or you can be the captain of your own ship.
This is how Leo sees it: If she can handle something on her own without totally breaking down, then so can everyone else. Of course, Leo is a tough girl and can probably handle more than most people… So, this frame of reference isn’t universal. That never really crosses her mind, though, which means Leo is still going to be Leo – a stubborn, “set in her ways” kind of person who only cares about herself.
ARIES (Mar 21 - Apr 19)
Aries wants to be a good friend to you, but not if you’re going to whine the whole time. She has a full schedule day in and day out, and while she really does care about her friends, she doesn’t really have time to put up with your crap. Unless you need real advice and you’re not just coming to her so you can vent (time she can be spending doing something meaningful), then she listens to you.
Aries isn’t a bad person, but she does know when to prioritize herself and when to prioritize her friends. She doesn’t want to be taken advantage of by dealing with your problems, but she’s also incredibly impatient. Like to the point where she’ll get mad at you if she thinks you’re wasting her time. This impatience makes her the WORST possible person to put up with your crap because she just won’t do it. Ever.
Emily Ratay is a full-time writer living in Pittsburgh. She's passionate about the environment and feminism, and knows that anything is possible in the right pair of shoes. She plans on writing a book in the future.